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• Method 1 of 6: Observe your partner's behavior
• Method 2 of 6: Monitor your partner's online activities
• Method 3 of 6: Check your partner's activities on the cell phone
• Method 4 of 6: Conduct online research on unknown people
• Method 5 of 6: Hire a private investigator
• Method 6 of 6: Confront your partner
• Warnings

Today's technology allows people to connect and hide their activities more easily than ever before. The control of the partner's activities almost always involves some form of surveillance, ranging from careful observation of the actions and behavior to the control of online activities. Your partner can access the internet from a computer, tablet or mobile device, making it more difficult for you to control what he or she is doing. However, it is always better to talk to your loved one first rather than spy on him / her. If you're looking for information to catch students cheating online, read the WikiHow article on how to plagiarize.

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Method 1 of 6: Observe your partner's behavior

1. Find out if your partner is behaving differently. A cheating spouse can behave differently in a variety of ways, including being physically aloof or uninterested in intimacy; polite distant; hostile, critical, or mean; or completely absent. Pay close attention to online activities that may also indicate attempts to hide: browser windows are closed as soon as you enter the room; he / she demands privacy when using the computer or spends a lot of time online after going to bed; he / she opens with new email accounts, and more such behavior.
2. Make sure your partner is not doing something else. You don't have to deceive someone who is distant or strange; there may be problems at work or within the family. Your loved one may also have become involved in other harmful activities, such as buying or selling drugs, or gambling online. These are serious issues that can have a huge impact on a relationship and are something you will need to pay attention to right away, along with the help of a professional and a supportive circle of people.
3. Keep a journal of your partner's activities. Try to stay informed about the other person's movements as much as possible, including internet activity, travel, overtime, pinging, phone calls, emails, and so on. This will help map out details that become important if it turns out that your spouse is trying to hide something.
4. Prepare yourself for what you might find. Have a plan ready for what to do in case you discover your partner is cheating on you. Such a discovery can ruin relationships - not only the relationship between yourself and your partner, but also that between other family members, children and friends. It can also have financial consequences for you. Find out what your position is on infidelity and where you draw a line. What level of physical involvement counts as cheating to you?
   • Make sure you can confide in someone. Choose a close friend or family member who can be a good sounding board for you. Preferably choose someone who cannot be considered a romantic partner; your own relationships may also undergo scrutiny in the course of the process.
   • Make sure you have a supportive network of family and friends who can help you through the situation. In a situation where the partner has cheated, families and friends are often tossed about themselves. To whom should they remain loyal? Think about who are the most supportive people in your life.
   • Consult a family or marriage attorney. You also likely need the advice of a family attorney if you are married or share property or finances with your partner.
   • Visit a counselor or therapist. If your suspicions are correct, you could be faced with making drastic decisions that turn your life upside down. This is also very traumatic emotionally and a professional can help you get through this phase. Seek advice from trusted friends to find an advisor who is right for you. It can take several sessions with different care providers before you find the right one.

Method 2 of 6: Monitor your partner's online activities

1. Check their internet history. This allows you to find out which websites he / she visits regularly. Every web browser has a history function. If your partner doesn't want to be caught (or simply values ​​their privacy), their browsing history may have been cleared, making it more difficult to track which websites have been visited.
2. Check your partner's email. If you have your partner's email address and password, you can view their messages. You can also try logging into their email account if the password is saved in the browser. Be aware of the laws of your country regarding (electronic) privacy, as this activity can be interpreted differently everywhere.
   • Activate cookies on the computer. If your partner's email password is not saved in the browser, then cookies may not be enabled. Go to the web browser settings to accept cookies, which can store information and passwords. The computer will then be ready for your partner's next Internet session, and passwords and other information will be stored.
3. Try to get in touch with your partner online using an alias. If you think your partner is visiting certain chat rooms or other online discussion forums, you can also move around in these forums under an alias. Talking and flirting with your partner or otherwise getting involved in an online conversation with him or her can give you hints about recent activity and lead him or her into infidelity.
   • Some people have created fake Facebook accounts to spy on their partners, although you should be careful with this approach as it can be very damaging to a relationship and trust in each other.
4. Install a keylogger program on your partner's computer. Keylogger programs are used to keep track of all keystrokes on a computer. They can be used to track your own use of the computer, as well as to track other people's use of the computer. This will likely also tell you what login IDs and passwords are used to access your partners email or other accounts. These types of programs vary in quality; some are free to download, such as Free Keylogger Pro, while others are paid services, such as All in One Keylogger, The Best Keylogger or Total Spy, which range in price from $ 35 to $ 80 or more.
5. Use surveillance software on your partner's computer or mobile phone. There are many software programs, all of which differ in reputation, cost, and effectiveness, that you can buy and install on a computer or mobile phone. These programs, such as WebWatcher, Stealth Genie or Spector Pro, can keep track of all activities on a computer as well as the exact locations (in the case of a mobile phone). Many programs have social media monitoring, email recording, chat recording and other functionality, and they can vary in price (around 90 to 100 euros).
   • Before engaging in such activities, make sure you fully understand the legal (and relationship) consequences of invading someone's privacy in such a way.

Method 3 of 6: Check your partner's activities on the cell phone

1. Find out where unknown phone numbers are coming from. If your partner has a phone number on their phone that you don't recognize, you can sometimes find the address through a reverse search. You can also search online for email address owners.
2. Check your partner's text messages. If there are suggestive texts that you do not recognize, then it is possible that there is unfaithfulness. Examine the history of the messages to determine how long this has been going on. However, your partner may erase text messages so there is no history.
3. Install GPS tracking software on your partner's phone. A lot of new technology and software offers the possibility to track the physical location of a phone via GPS. You can keep track of your partner's itinerary and exact current location if the phone is with you. Compare your partner's movements with what you have been told about the comings and goings. If there are differences, you may have caught your partner in a lie.
4. Use surveillance technology that activates an external microphone on the phone. Some technology and software can enable a microphone on the phone so that you can hear and record audio from the phone. The phone works essentially like a mini microphone and will record a conversation or other sounds that can be heard in the vicinity of the phone.
5. Determine if your partner is using more than one SIM card. Different SIM cards contain different information, including different contact lists, but allows a person to use the same phone and thus does not arouse suspicion.
6. Check your partner's browser history. If your partner has a smartphone, it has a browser history on it. This allows you to find out which websites he / she visits regularly. Every web browser has a history function. If your partner is really concerned about getting caught (or is just privacy conscious), he / she can clear the browsing history, making it more difficult to track which websites have been visited.

Method 4 of 6: Conduct online research on unknown people

1. Find out where unknown emails are coming from. If your partner got an email from someone you don't recognize, you can do a reverse email survey. You can also do a reverse search by telephone number online.
2. Search for names in online search engines to learn more about them. If you suspect that your spouse is cheating on you with someone in particular, or you come across someone's name, you can find out more about that person by searching online online. This is also useful for trying to determine what interests the other person may have, what their job is, family situation, and financial situation.
3. Pay for an online background check. If a simple online search does not yield much information, you can pay for a more extensive background check. These can be very affordable, ranging from € 15 to € 40 or more. Some of these services are more reputable than others, so do a little research about the service to see what other users' experiences are.

Method 5 of 6: Hire a private investigator

1. Determine if you are the kind of person better off hiring a private investigator. Certain personality types are better off leaving this type of work to a professional. It is better to leave spying on your partner to someone else if you have some of the following traits: you are emotionally insecure; you are a jealous person by nature; you are paranoid, you have an overactive imagination or a tendency to overreact in certain situations.
2. Hire a professional service to observe your spouse online and in person. Make sure to hire a licensed private investigator who acts within the limits set by the law. If you have to go to court with evidence as collected by this investigator, then the evidence must be admissible in court. This is especially important if the evidence has been collected through online surveillance; Electronic privacy laws can be complex, and a private investigator may have more experience and knowledge of these laws. A professional also provides unbiased observations, which can help you make an informed decision about the next steps to take.
3. Consider high costs. Private investigators are not cheap and can charge an hourly rate of $ 75 to $ 200. Be clear about how much time they can spend on the case for you. Also think about how you want to pay for this service. Do you want it to be kept secret? Hiding such a large expense from your partner may be difficult if you have a joint bank account.
4. Save on your expenses by doing some of the research yourself. Collect some of the information about your partners online activity, such as their internet history or by checking email first. Provide the researcher with basic facts and background information, so that he or she needs less time to figure it out and more time to get to the heart of the problem.

Method 6 of 6: Confront your partner

1. Confront your partner if they cheated on you. One of the easiest ways to tell if someone has cheated is to ask directly. However, not everyone will be honest about that, and they can keep telling lies. Spying on the other online can contribute to hostile feelings between the two of you, and can further undermine the relationship of trust that still exists.
2. Choose a good time for a conversation. Choose a time when you are both available and have time for a longer conversation. You may want to catch your partner red-handed, but this may not be the most productive route.
3. Don't be aggressive or accusatory with your questions. Approach the conversation in a businesslike but calm way to have a more honest conversation than if you seem aggressive or coercive about where your partner has been or with whom.
4. Suggest to your partner seeing a relationship therapist together. Ask for recommendations from trusted friends or through support agencies. Not every relationship therapist is going to be equally suitable or appropriate for you, and you may need to try some before you find the right one. Be patient with your partner during this process, especially if they have admitted cheating on you. If you want to fight for your relationship, both of you will have to be open to forgiveness and compromise.

Warnings

• Opening and reading emails from your partner without permission may be illegal, depending on the nature of your activity and the laws in your country. Make sure you fully understand how your country handles electronic surveillance and wiretapping (interception of conversations, recorded in person or over the phone) before engaging in this type of activity. Courts differ in their understanding of a spouse's "reasonable expectation of privacy," so some jurisdictions may hold more rigorously on protection from spousal espionage than others.
• If you spy on your spouse or partner, you risk losing their trust, especially if nothing turns out to be wrong.
• Be careful when downloading spy or other surveillance software onto your computer or your partner's computer. Many of these programs contain viruses and can destroy a computer's hard drive.