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• Method 1 of 2: Do things for her
• Method 2 of 2: Working on your relationship

Marriage is beautiful, but requires commitment. Whether you have just been married or have been for a long time, bumps can arise in a marriage. If you feel like you can do better, there are a few steps you can take to make your wife happier every day.

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Method 1 of 2: Do things for her

1. Appreciate her. Married couples can become overly comfortable with each other. This makes them lose some of the intense bond that got them married in the first place. To prevent this from happening to you, tell your wife how much you appreciate her every day. When she walks into a room, show her you know she's there. Give her a passionate kiss when you both wake up in the morning or when she comes home from work. Let her know you know she's there and still feel the bond between the two of you.
   • Hug her. Hugging is a simple physical act that shows how much you love her and appreciate her being there.
2. Tell her you love her. Something as simple as telling your wife you love her can make her happy. Everyday life can be a witch's cauldron and little things like this can easily disappear into the noise. You can say it every day out of habit, but say it because you mean it. Before you leave the house, look her in the eye and tell her you love her. Let her know you say it because you feel that way and not out of habit. She knows deep down that you love her, but when she hears you say it with conviction, she will feel it too.
   • Combine this with a caring gesture, such as a hug, a kiss or a caress. Keep it romantic but not sexual. You want her to still feel like you want to woo her every day, just like you did before you got married.
3. Give her a gift. Surprise your wife with a gift every now and then. It doesn't have to be elaborate or expensive. You can give her a small gift that will let her know you're thinking about her. Come home with a box of chocolates. Choose a bouquet of flowers for her on the way home from work. Buy her that book she has in her online wish list. Notice what she says she would like and surprise her by buying it for her. Not only will she love the gift you give her, she will also be glad you thought of her enough to buy it.
   • The gifts do not have to be bought. Anything you do for her that is unexpected will work. Surprise her by preparing her favorite meal. Do laundry because you know she hates it. You can even go out with the kids so she can have some time with her friends.
4. Say thank you. A marriage can sometimes suffer from conversations that go like, "I did this, so you should do that now." Don't let your actions towards each other be some kind of retribution for another action. Instead, find time every day to thank your wife for the things she does. Say it in the morning when she turns on the coffee. Say thank you when she picks up the clothes from the dry cleaner after work when you have a meeting. Whatever the occasion, let her know you see what she's doing for you.
   • Try to say it, even if it's something simple. Say, for example, "Thank you for being yourself" or "Thank you for being the best woman a man can have". This lets her know that you are not only grateful for the things she does for you.
5. Give her space. You were both single before you got married. Just because you share a life now doesn't mean you have to share all the interests you both have. Give her time to write in her room all day if she wants to. Let her go to the gym alone. Give her the space she needs to work on interests that are separate from you. She will appreciate the time to recharge and make her happier.
   • Don't take it personally if she wants to do something without you. Just because she wants to go to the bookstore doesn't mean she doesn't love you. Encourage her to do and do the things she wants to do. When you are happy as an individual, you are happier as a couple.
6. Let her decide. There are many small decisions in a marriage every day. It could be a small thing like choosing what to have for dinner. Ask her what she wants to eat. Let her choose which movie to watch on your evening together. Give her the remote when you watch TV at night. Play her favorite game on a game night. Let her know that her opinion matters and that you care about her enough to make her decide, and it will make her happier.
   • Don't grumble or overreact to what she chooses. That will only make her angry and make you look like a spoiled child.
7. Write her love letters. Writing love letters may seem scary, but it's a simple and effective way to make her happy. You don't have to be a gifted writer, just tell her how you feel. Let her know that you love her and how she makes you feel. Tell her you can't imagine your life without her. Explain that you cannot work well without her in your life. Keep it simple by telling her how her smile is the best sound in the world or how much you love the way her hair tickles you at night when you sleep.
   • Hide them around the house in locations where she is likely to find them. Put one in her makeup bag or under her pillow before both of you go to sleep. They will be a nice surprise to her and make her feel happy all day long.

Method 2 of 2: Working on your relationship

1. Compliment her to others. When you and your wife meet new people, introduce her in a complimentary way. Use phrases like, "Let me introduce you to my beautiful wife." Or "Here's my better half." This lets her know how much she means to you. She will also realize that you want to tell others how much she means to you.
   • You should do this even when she's not there. If you have a coffee break at work, let us know how great your wife is as a cook or how she just got a huge promotion at work. She will be a star at your next office party and she will know how much you love and admire her. Plus, your co-workers and friends will see how great the two of you are as a couple and are more positive about both of you because of that fact.
2. Make a regular evening for the two of you together. Going out on dates is often lost in the daily hassle of married life. Make it a point to have a standing date night with your wife every week. Do something that you both enjoy doing. Try something new. Go to the movies. Eat out and dance. It can even be something as simple as spending the night indoors without the distractions of everyday life. Turn off your cell phones and let it be all about the two of you and how much you mean to each other. She will be happy to get away from it all and have an evening alone with you.
   • If you have children, find a reliable babysitter so you don't have to worry about the evening. This way you can fully concentrate on each other.
   • It doesn't have to be every week if you are both too busy with work and family. Make sure there are not too many weeks between dates and make sure they occur frequently. Don't do it once or twice and forget about it afterwards.
3. Take care of yourself. If you've been married for a while, you can let go of certain parts of yourself because you feel so comfortable with the other person. Show your wife how much she means to you by looking your best for her. Don't just make yourself beautiful for a special occasion. Make an effort to look nice for her at home. Wear nice jeans and a clean shirt for dinner in the evening instead of your baggy sweatpants. It will make her feel special and make her happy.
4. Offer your help. Ask your wife what you can help her with. Whether it's with the dishes in the evening or with the kids after school, ask her what you can do to make it easier. Return the cart to the rack after you have done your shopping. Offer to carpool for the kids on a day when she has a presentation at work. In fact, it can be as simple as asking her if you can help her take some of the load off her shoulders by letting her know you're there for her.
   • Don't wait for her to tell you when something needs to be done. If you see a sink full of plates, don't ask her for help. Just start washing it off.
     • Make sure this is normal for you. It's nice to do it once, but making it a habit will make your wife happier every day.
5. Be the first to tell her news you have. If something big happens, tell your wife first. Let her know that she is the most important person in your life. If you get a promotion at work, don't call your mate right away and tell them how great you are. Wait until you get home from work to tell your wife about it. Then you can tell the rest of the world. She will know she is important to you and that will make her happier.
6. Listen to her. If your wife comes to you with a problem, listen to what she has to say. Don't talk about her, don't get angry about the situation, or talk about how you're going to fix it. If she tells you she has a problem with someone who takes credit for her job, don't rant about how unfair it is. You then stop listening to what she has to say and deprive her of the opportunity to express herself about it. Let her rage and complain about it so that she has a way out of her frustrations.
   • Let her know you're listening by nodding along as she complains. Your support is what she wants and will make her happy.
   • Keep your answers simple and genuine. You can say something like, "That's awful, dear. I'm really sorry. "This lets her know that you understand what the situation is like.
7. Show affection in public. Some of the initial romance can disappear from a relationship once you get married. Bring back some of the first simple affections. Hold her hand as you walk down the street together. Put your arm around her when you go out to dinner. Kiss her gently as you wait to cross the street. These little moments of affection will let her know how much she means to you. She will also know that you don't mind if other people know.
   • Keep the affection simple and appropriate. You don't want to kiss her in full view of everyone in a restaurant. Make sure what you are doing is comfortable for both of you.
8. Do things for her in the bedroom. Sexual connection is important in a strong marriage. Don't fall into the routine of having sex at the same time and place every week. Being married gives you time to explore and find out exactly what she wants and needs from you to fulfill her desires. Ask her what she wants to do in the bedroom. Alternate things by trying something new and exciting to make her happy.
   • Tell her often how you enjoy being sexually intimate with her. Let her know that you can't imagine anything better out there.
9. Work on intimacy and passion outside of the bedroom. While sexual intimacy is important, there are ways to show passion and intimacy outside of the bedroom. Something as simple as seeking advice about a problem you have at work will bring intimacy to your relationship. Show her how passionate you are about her by holding her in your arms and kissing her while she does the laundry. Cuddle her up on the couch while both of you read a book or listen to music. The closer the two of you can get together, the happier your wife will be.
   • Make time every day to have a chat with your wife. You may have a cup of coffee or tea together early in the morning while talking about what you have planned for the day. It may be time after dinner to talk about everything you went through that day. Just try to get in touch every day to let her know you care.
   • Passion and intimacy is different for every couple. Find what works best for your wife. Pay attention to when it is best to be together.Talk to her about what she wants and needs from you to feel closer to you.
10. Talk to her. Always being quiet with your wife will not make her feel connected to you. Talk to her about how you feel. Be open and honest about what you think and feel on a daily basis. Tell her if you feel insecure or upset about something. Let her know if she hurt you or makes you happy. The more honest you are with her, the closer and happier you will be as a couple.
    • If you are having a hard time expressing your feelings, do your best. When she sees you making an effort, she will know how much you care about her.