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• Advice
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"War" has happened between you and someone and now you want or need to avoid them. There are a variety of reasons for this attitude, from minor discomfort to life-threatening situations. When dealing with a conflict involving someone you can't handle, being away can prevent the possibility of the current situation getting worse and future disputes. Handling this in the online world, at school, at work, or at home requires practical strategies, as long as you are prepared to deal with them.

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Managing Online Meetings

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   Remove, unfollow, and stop making friends on social media. Every social media network allows you to remove someone from your contacts, fans, and friends. Not only will this allow you to disconnect from someone, but also stop them from reading your posts.
   • Verify that your security filter has been set up for the purpose of evading that person.
   • Occasionally, you may need to isolate yourself from social media and close your account. You may not be comfortable, but there will be times when it is necessary.

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   Block email. To prevent contact or exchange sent to mailboxes, remove the person from your contacts list. Block spam settings allow you to monitor whether the person tries to send unwanted email. You can always press the delete button or save it to a specific folder in case you need to gather evidence for more serious behavior like stalking or network harassment.
   • In some cases, you need to gather written evidence that someone has left behind for the purpose of when you need to sue. Your recorded evidence will increase your persuasion.

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   Don't call or text the person. Refraining from calling or texting someone can be easy or very difficult. Maybe you want to say something negative to them or you may need to refrain from your desire to reconnect. Either way, both can lead to undesirable controversy, making the situation worse.

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   Avoid answering phone calls, texts or emails. Find the strength to ignore communication with the person you want to avoid. It probably won't be difficult. However, the person may also try to lure you into an argument just to hurt you more. Silence is always the perfect start to resuming communication and is a thorough prevention of unwanted contact. advertisement

Part 2 of 4: Dealing at school

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   Skip class or change class. If you can't maintain contact or simply stay away from the person, take action. When you drop out of class, you may be fined. However, with the situation serious enough, you'll need to do just that.
   • Explaining your situation to the school administration can help you become more understanding and tolerant.

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   Talk to a teacher or administrator. Conversations should be held in private, by email or by requesting a private meeting with the teacher. You may need an appointment first. You may also need to talk to your homeroom teacher. If you are under 18 years old, you should travel with your parents.
   • You could say, “Being in the same class as _____ is getting more and more difficult and one of us needs to move out of class. Can you help me handle this? And it can be handled How fast? "
   • Teachers and administrators will probably try to solve the problem without removing you or the person from the classroom. Stay calm and persistent with your goals, making sure you get help.
   • Be prepared to show exactly why you are making this offer.

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   Avoid contact. Most schools are large and have a variety of walkways leading to the different campuses. Find the easiest way. If you know which way the person usually takes, plan another route. It may take you a little extra time, but all you need to do is avoid seeing the person.
   • If you accidentally see the person from afar, simply turn your head and go the other way.

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   Avoid direct eye contact. There may come a time when you find yourself in an unwanted face-to-face situation with the person. Take your eyes off them and move as fast as you can to avoid unnecessary contact. Always be prepared for unforeseen situations.

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   Ask your friends for help. It will be a bit easier for you to go with friends. A friend can create barriers and distractions that will allow you to leave undetected. Make sure the people willing to help you are people you trust.
   • Start a conversation with someone at a party. Reach out and tell them, "Can I talk to you right now because I'm trying to avoid someone?" This way, you can not only avoid people you don't want to meet, but you can also chat with someone you like.

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   Be willing to use the "reason" to get out of the situation. There will be times when you need to pretend you're answering the phone or leave your glasses and keys. Those are tips that can be used in place to avoid even the most annoying ones.
   • If you see someone coming up and don't want to talk to them, grab your phone and pretend you're having an important conversation. You can turn around and walk.
   • If you're talking to someone and want to end the conversation, simply act panicked and make an excuse to leave, like: “Oh my god! I have to find the key. Sorry, I have to go now ”.Have a “reason” in mind to get out of the way of the person you want to avoid.

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   Appreciate your learning experience and positive qualities. Some believe that humans, even the most annoying ones, appear to teach us something. Each experience will help us become smarter and better prepare us for life's desires.
   • Sit down and make a list of things you have learned from your own experiences.
   • Don't forget to write about all the positives you've been through. Nothing is all bad.
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Part 3 of 4: Handling situations at work

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   Change job. Practical to you or not, it might be the best option to avoid someone at work. Here, contradictions can vary widely, from minor misunderstandings to serious issues like sexual harassment. Maybe you really love your current job and don't want to change. If so, you may need to consider other options.
   • Report any serious problems to the human resources department, a division established to assist employees in solving all problems at work.

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   Request to change rooms, work areas or superiors. Offices and factories have limited space, and if you need to distance someone you need to propose. Don't let yourself hear or be around people you don't like. That will certainly reduce job satisfaction and more likely, add stress.
   • You will need to present the reasons and evidence to support your request for transfer. Therefore, get ready. Write down your concerns in advance and bring evidence and supporting documents when exchanging.
   • You are not the first and will not be the last to request a change in your seat arrangement. This is common in any office.

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   Focus on work efficiency. Focusing on your work and what is needed to be productive will help you avoid the person at work. You deserve a conflict-free working environment and a sense of security. Doing personal work will also help you avoid interacting with people who might misinterpret your words or conduct.
   • Use the break to clear the drawer, do some exercise, or read a magazine.
   • Enjoy yourself. Meditating, practicing yoga or writing poetry will help manage the stress that may be present in you.

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   Avoid the opponent's schedule. Many companies have different shift work regime of day and hour per week. In this case, you can request another shift. If working according to office hours, it will be difficult to adjust. However, you can observe and avoid the person's resting sessions, bathroom breaks, or lunches.

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   Don't accept the invitation. Be cautious, do not accept the invitation to attend the gathering with the same person present. Depending on the severity of the conflict, you won't want to put yourself in an awkward position or endanger yourself.
   • Organize a meeting yourself if you want to spend time with colleagues.

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   Be ready to leave any situation. Getting stuck in a social situation is a bad feeling. Maybe you feel pressured when your boss is there or hesitate about what your colleagues will think or say about you. Allow yourself to say something like: "I have to go now, I've been driving all day" or any other reason.
   • Sometimes, you make the excuse that you need to use the toilet and just leave without notifying anyone. This is completely acceptable. The goal is to move away from the person you are trying to avoid and get out of the situation.
   • If you don't tell anyone when you leave, text someone you trust is currently there, informing you that you're gone. You don't want anyone to worry, especially if you leave in a conflict with someone.

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   Be polite when encountering an unwanted contact situation. Most likely, because of work, you may have to cooperate with that person. Use rules of thumb to stay calm, be polite, and focus on what to do to avoid conflicts. Do not react to any of their provocative attempts.
   • Remain calm until the exposure stops. Congratulate yourself for successfully completing the task.
   • Maintain a positive attitude. Keep everything "clear and clear", that is, away from deep thoughts, any discussions, problems or complaints when in contact with the person. Showing a calm and optimistic spirit cannot be beaten by the negative things or the embarrassment of the situation.
   • Focusing on the positives will help keep you from falling into negative discussions.
   • By maintaining a positive mindset, no one can take your position away. Once you react to a provocation, you give up your position, taking the initiative to others. You are in control and responsible for your own feelings and actions. That is an important task.

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   Have a vision. It is very important to look at the problem in the big picture. Once you realize how difficult it is for someone, the wheel of life will roll, you can ease your worries and become more comfortable, let go of your hands and rearrange your priorities.
   • If you've tried to let it go but the conflict continues to haunt you, there may be other emotions here that need further processing.
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Part 4 of 4: Dealing with more serious problems

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   Define boundaries. Whether you are in conflict with your mother-in-law, an alcoholic cousin, or an uncle who has a bad attitude towards you, make an effort to clearly communicate your intentions and wants. Many of the avoidance decisions are underpinned by the constant arguments and contradictions that arise.
   • If you live in the same house, you could say, “I want you to understand that given the current conflict, I will do my best to maintain the necessary distance between us. I think that's the right thing to do. Do you agree? "
   • If you don't live with it, things will be easier to handle. You can cut off communication by not calling, texting or emailing. Avoid any contact.

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   Don't attend family gatherings. Many families reported an increase in stress and conflict levels during the meeting. If you want to avoid someone who will definitely cause you trouble, apologize and don't attend.
   • Make plans and hold private meetings. However, avoid the same time frame so that your loved ones don't have to choose between you two. It will only ignite any further friction between you and the person.

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   Only meet when someone is with you. Maybe for some reason, a relative may not trust you. You probably don't want to be alone with them. Whatever the reason, always go with someone when contact with them is imperative. Safety is always a top concern.

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   Seek professional help to manage your emotions and thoughts. If you are having trouble dealing with someone, talking to a counselor can be helpful. Seek psychiatrists and psychiatrists in your area.

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   Seek legal advice if needed. As stress escalates, you may need the help of a lawyer. The severity of a conflict can vary, and sometimes it is your greatest desire to avoid any contact with someone. A lawsuit is, in principle, a situation in which one side fights against the other. Anything you say or do can be detrimental to you in court. The lawyer will guide the steps and procedures to be performed.

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   Ask for a restraining order if necessary. Maybe the person you are trying to avoid has a serious problem. If you feel you are in danger, get a restraining order forbidding someone from contacting you. When they violate, you can call and seek police intervention. advertisement

Advice

• You can always make excuses to get out of any situation.
• Don't let this take all your mind. There are many other helpful things to ponder and work on.
• Skip and move forward. Whatever the reasons for the avoidance, you need to correct your relationship and overcome the conflict.
• There will likely be unforeseen face-to-face situations. You can say, "Hi" and then leave or don't need to say anything. Be prepared for that.
• Staying calm and polite in all situations will bring about positive results.
• If you or someone you know is being bullied, contact the authorities and report it.
• Safety is a top priority. Never let yourself or someone you love near someone you should avoid at all costs.

Warning

• If you are the subject of the ban, there will be legal consequences for your violation. The role of the law is to protect the safety of you and those around you. Ideally, you should respect the rules in the proceedings against yourself and vice versa.
• Let the seriousness of the conflict determine your response. If you fall into a legal controversy in which forms of communication and communication are prohibited, be serious about not communicating anything with that person.
• The laws that control tracking vary from country to country, state to state. When you are being watched, you must report it to someone in authority - it could be a parent, a teacher, a priest, a police officer or a lawyer.