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It's a common joke that men have a strong need for personal space, but if your boyfriend asks for this on his own, it's no longer funny. Here are some tips that will give your relationship the distance it needs.

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1. Understand that it is okay to give your friend space. The sooner you accept that it is normal, healthy, and absolutely necessary for a good relationship, the better the relationship will be for both of you.
   • If your relationship has come to a head, try to leave the situation for what it is. Don't try to influence or fixate what you think is missing in your relationship. If you leave things for what they are, any problems will often resolve themselves.
   • Try to realize that your friend is more likely to break up with you if you are constantly on his neck than if you give him the space he needs.
2. Ask for clarification on what's going on. Without coming across as paranoid or hysterical, it would be wise to ask your boyfriend directly how he envisions getting space, and how much time he thinks it will take.
   • Don't immediately assume the worst; if he still shows that he cares about you and still wants to see you, then the best thing to do is to keep your cool. He may be very busy at work or busy with his studies. Remember, it may not even be because of you.
   • When he explains why he needs more space, reward him with your confidence. With this you may also force yourself to find an answer to the question why you are with him; if the reason is that you love him, then you should feel his trust, but if the reason has to do with security, money, confidence, etc., then you should take time to rethink your relationship.
3. Try to look for a solution in a friendly way. Does he want to have a few days or weeks of space right away, or does he want to set a fixed schedule, like every Saturday for himself?
   • Visualize yourself as someone who can negotiate reasonably. Then proceed to the negotiation without the extra baggage.
   • Don't beg. Feel free to ask your boyfriend for help from time to time, extra time you can spend together, or an indication of the future of your relationship, but begging is very childish and unattractive.
   • Whatever you do, don't rant or argue. Both responses will cause him to crawl even further into his shell, making him feel justified in asking for more space.
4. Spend more time with yourself. A lost feeling when he asks for more space is a good indication that you need it as much as he does, maybe even more. Use this time to reflect on your life and the emotional state you are in. Become the strong, confident, and independent woman you've always wanted to be; you don't need him to be happy.
   • Plan fun activities such as a friends night.
   • Have fun in the outdoors. Long walks, climbing, swimming, sailing, etc. will improve your mood significantly.
   • Rediscover or start a new hobby.
   • Reconnect with old friends / girlfriends.
   • Focus more on your career and try to get a promotion at work.
   • Paint your hair or buy new clothes. Renew and improve yourself!
   • Stay healthy and fit; Do not use this time when you give each other more space as an excuse to let yourself go. Exercise gives you peace of mind, makes it easier to channel anger and boosts your self-confidence.
   • Keep in mind that a lady with a clear goal in mind is considered very attractive, so you will please both of you when you are aware of your own strength.
5. Work on your own bad habits. If you have some bad habits that keep you from getting the most out of yourself, now is the time to change them.
6. Be patient. If you want your relationship to be successful, like space for the opportunities it offers for both of you.
   • Take the time to rediscover each other. Making the relationship feel fresh and new is a great way to regain your momentum.
   • When you give your friend the space to think, do the things he loves, and spend time with his friends, he will find out how much he misses you.
7. Respect his choices and his freedom. If a guy can be with someone who loves him the way he is, he will only become a better friend.
   • The more respect and freedom you give your friend, the more he will appreciate being with you.
   • Just make sure he respects your choices and freedom too. Remember, your goal is to balance your relationship, so it shouldn't come from one side.
8. Try to be his best buddy. Working on your relationship through healthy interactions will make you both happier and feel better.
   • Listen to your friend when he's talking and try not to interrupt. When you do respond, try to be positive and support him.
   • Try to keep your relaxed attitude. When you learn how to put him at ease, he will start sharing his thoughts and feelings.
   • Remember that men also need a sense of security.
   • Again, just make sure he's there for you too. After all, being best friends must come from both sides.
9. Don't make a game of it. If you're not willing to give your friend more space, he'll likely ask for it on his own.
   • On the other hand, if you feel like your friend is playing games with you, feel free to talk to him about this. If he doesn't want to act like an adult, consider giving him space for good.
10. Relax you and be the lady he fell in love with. Be happy and carefree, learn to love yourself as much as you love him, and find constructive ways to spend time together and apart. Once you find a suitable balance, you will never look back.