Content

• To step
• Method 1 of 5: Make an inventory of your life as it is now
• Method 2 of 5: Put the power of intention to work
• Method 3 of 5: Demonstrate integrity
• Method 4 of 5: Articulate your dreams
• Method 5 of 5: Dealing with supportive and inspiring people
• Tips
• Warnings
• Necessities

Have you realized that your life is not even close to what you want to be? This article will give you some advice on how to reshape your life. Whether your desire to change was prompted by a midlife crisis, a near-death experience, a shocking revelation, or a painful divorce, you still have time to create the life you want.

To step

Method 1 of 5: Make an inventory of your life as it is now

1. Write down exactly what's wrong with your life. Which areas make you the most unhappy? Choose the area where you want to change the most. For instance:
   • Do you hate your love life (or lack thereof)?
   • Are you sick from work and desperate for a new career?
   • Do you have negative family relationships that are constantly pulling you down?
   • Do you hate your appearance and how it affects your health?
   • Are you irresponsible with money and buried under debt?
2. Decide what you would change if there were no obstacles in your way.
   • Who is your ideal partner? Or do you need some time to shop around before you can decide what you want in a relationship?
   • What did you always want to be when you were a child? If that wish is no longer realistic, can you get close or choose something else that can still make you happy?
   • Do you still want to mend your family ties, or would you rather sever them altogether?
   • What specific things do you want to change about your appearance? Your weight? Your hairstyle and make up? Your wardrobe?
   • What does a really healthy financial situation look like for you?
3. Think about what works in your life. Maybe you have been financially responsible and have savings in the bank so you can afford to risk your career. Maybe your family is very supportive.
   • What elements of your life are working very well right now? List both the big and small positives.
   • How can these elements of your life help you fix parts that aren't working? What should you keep, and what are you willing to give up to change other areas of your life?

Method 2 of 5: Put the power of intention to work

1. Write down what changes you want to make. Make lists and timelines. Read them every day, preferably when you wake up.
   • Where do you want to be in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?
   • What do you want to achieve before you die?
     
     
2. For each change, choose 1 activity, which you can complete within the next 48 hours.
   • End your relationship with a partner who doesn't fulfill your needs, or give your partner an ultimatum.
   • Fix your resume. Start searching for vacancies or talking to friends who work in the industry you want to join. Take a course in the field of your choice.
   • Call, email, or send a card to a family member with whom you have a disagreement. If a family member is treating you improperly, call that person and explain the new rules of conduct.
   • Make an appointment at a hair salon to update your haircut. In addition, start with a 30-minute walk every day, or eat less snacks.
   • Open a savings account and start saving 10% of your salary. Make a schedule for paying off your debts.
3. Make a list of important values. If you could be anything you want how would you be?
   • You may appreciate honesty, thrift, hard work and creativity. Or maybe you want to live with more spontaneity.
   • Write down your values ​​and start living them. Stop settling for values ​​that have only made you unhappy.

Method 3 of 5: Demonstrate integrity

1. Identify and accept your feelings. Your feelings are a guide to what is good in your life and what is bad. If something pisses you off, ask yourself why and resolve the situation instead of pushing it away.
2. Match what you say to what you feel. Stop accepting something improper just because you want to maintain the status quo. Avoid telling someone you feel something when you feel the opposite.
3. Do what you say. If you expect others to behave in a certain way, then act according to those same standards in your own life.
4. Maintain your standards. If you want a certain quality in a partner, stop settling for relationships that don't meet your needs. If you want to take care of your body, stop eating foods that make you unhealthy.
5. Fix your past. Seek forgiveness for the mistakes you have made and are still very bothering you.
   • The only exception to this rule is if you have done something terrible or illegal to someone, which would be very traumatic for the other person to relive. In a case like that, you will have to settle for forgiving yourself.
   • Avoid cowardice. If you know you did something wrong and that you never apologized, write or call the offended person. The other person may or may not respond positively, but you did what you had to do to try to straighten the curve.

Method 4 of 5: Articulate your dreams

1. Share your vision of your new life with other people. Practice articulating your dreams in a clear and positive way.
2. Take steps to achieve your goals. Go back to the list you made and start taking steps toward the life you want.
3. Stay engaged. You will have setbacks along the way, which will make you doubt yourself. However, you cannot afford to go back to a life where you have silenced your dreams and tried to live by someone else's values.

Method 5 of 5: Dealing with supportive and inspiring people

1. Find 1 person who believes in you and your dreams. Everyone needs someone to support you no matter what. Talk to that person about your victories, your relapses, and your doubts.
2. Find a larger circle of people who think the same. You can enjoy a support group or workshops where you can meet other people who are working on similar changes.
3. Meet inspiring people. Go to forums, workshops, or other events that give prominence to a person you admire greatly. In a few cases, that person won't turn out to be as great as you hoped, but in many cases, you'll leave inspired, and you never know who's willing to help you along the way.
4. Spend less time with negative people. You may not be able to end all contacts, but you can choose how to spend your time most effectively. Only visit reluctant relatives during big holidays, or avoid wasteful friends who cause you to waste too much money on the weekends.

Tips

• Expand your comfort zone. Do something that is not your style at all. Shave your head, wear a mini skirt, try karaoke or cartwheels while walking barefoot on the grass. Stepping outside of your comfort zone will help you get used to facing your fears. You'll also get used to facing people's reactions when you do something they never expected you to.
• Consider making a big change. Switch careers, move to a different region, or end a relationship that makes you unhappy. Don't let your life become a fruitless, exhausting routine.
• It can be difficult at first, but if you stick with it, it will get easier.

Warnings

• As you get better at telling the truth about your feelings and opinions, keep in mind that you are not unnecessarily hurting other people. Try to communicate in a helpful and not hurtful way.
• Realize that life is short. You may die in many years, or you may die tomorrow. What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind? You will have to decide now before it is too late to change.
• Respect the people who love you. You may want to completely blow your life, but these changes can be negative for your partner or your children. Talk openly with the people you love and try to find a balance that protects them while liberating you.

Necessities

• A diary or notebook
• A pen
• A planner