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• Method 1 of 4: Dealing with your feelings
• Method 2 of 4: Learn to deal with grief
• Method 3 of 4: Dealing with distance relationships
• Method 4 of 4: When your loved one is sent out as a soldier

Sometimes people disappear from our lives forever or temporarily without us wanting to. Whether they leave because they move, go to school or get a new job, are employed or have passed away, we miss them terribly. Everyone deals with parting, sadness, and sadness differently, but there are a few methods you can try to make this less awful.

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Method 1 of 4: Dealing with your feelings

1. Allow yourself to be sad. The feeling of sadness you have when you miss someone is completely normal. You don't have to be ashamed of those feelings or feel like you have to hide them.
   • Learning to deal with grief is not easy, but it can be done if you try. There are things you can do to make yourself happier and maintain a positive outlook.
   • Work on understanding why you are sad. It's important to consider what triggered your emotions so that you can prevent or mitigate them in the future.
2. Do not give up. It can be very difficult to keep doing normal things when you are sad about missing someone. The key here is not to give up. If on any day you are too sad or upset to act, remember that there is always a next time. Don't forget to be proud of yourself for trying to do your best, even if you can't. Stay focused on feeling better and keep a positive outlook.
3. Keep thinking positively. No matter how sad you are for missing someone, try to keep thinking about good and positive things. Believe in yourself and the fact that at some point you will feel better again. Try to think about the fact that even though you are sad, good things are still happening in your life - focus on those things.
   • Think about the happy and fun memories you have with the person you miss.
   • Rather focus on keeping in touch with that person rather than missing them.
4. Do activities that make you happy. This may sound obvious, but when you feel sad about missing someone, do something that makes you feel happy. Think about those activities that make you feel good and engage with them. These types of activities will not only make you happier, but also distract you from the negative feelings you may have.
   • Go for a walk or run.
   • Listen to your favorite music.
   • Watch a funny movie.
   • Play a computer game, exercise, or play a board game.
   • Walk your dog.
   • Curl up on the couch with a good book.
5. Find someone to talk to. Sometimes the sadness we feel for missing someone can be overwhelming and we find ourselves unable to get it out on our own. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you need help dealing with your grief.
   • Find someone you can trust enough to talk to about your feelings. Being able to explain out loud what you feel to someone who is able to listen to you can be enough to make you feel better.
   • If the feeling persists for a long time and does not seem to be getting better, seek professional help. Mental health experts have all sorts of tools and methods they can teach you to ease the grief of missing someone.

Method 2 of 4: Learn to deal with grief

1. Understand grief. Grief isn't just about death. You may feel grief because of a divorce or because someone has left. Grief is basically your response to loss - whatever. Grief is also our way of accepting loss and putting it behind us.
   • Remember that grief is not about forgetting that person, but about remembering them in a way that is good for you.
   • Sadness is often worst right after a person has left. This can get better over time, but can also come back in certain situations, such as someone's birthday or a holiday.
2. There are 5 stages in bereavement. Most people experience 5 different kinds of emotions when dealing with grief. How long each person lingers at a particular stage and the order in which those emotions are experienced varies from person to person. In general, we talk about the following 5 emotional stages:
   • Denial and isolation Overwhelming and intense emotions can be very difficult to deal with. Rather than dealing with these emotions, some people tend to ignore them and pretend that nothing is wrong.
   • Anger - When the reality of a situation gets through to someone, most people will get angry. They look for someone to blame. They can get angry with someone who is still alive, as well as with the one who has passed away.
   • Negotiate Most people go from being angry or furious about a time when they are trying to regain control in any way. They try to gain this control through negotiation, thinking about all the ways in which this situation could have been avoided (what if ...).
   • Depression - Depression can mean that someone feels sad and regrets the things you didn't do with that person who passed away. This can come with a lot of worries and nerves about logistical things like arranging things for the funeral, etc.
   • Acceptance Not everyone reaches the stage of acceptance for every sadness they have to go through. Those who do reach this stage may experience a sense of calm, but not happiness. Acceptance does not mean that we are happy that a person has passed away (although we can be happy that the leading is over for them), it simply means that we understand that there is nothing we could have done and that it is important to continue. to cope with life.
3. Use a ritual to process the grief. The word ritual may sound strange, but events such as funerals and memorial services are rituals. These are rituals that people use to celebrate the life of someone who has passed away, while coming together as family and friends to support each other.
   • If the deceased was religious, the ritual can be very specific and follow certain religious traditions.
   • Rituals such as funerals and memorial services are usually held soon after someone's death and some people are still in a state of horror. Someone who does not show emotions during these events is not necessarily unmoved, but may not have processed what happened.
   • Grief does not stop because the person has been buried or cremated. Different people deal with grief differently, and each takes a different amount of time to recover from the loss of a loved one.
4. Talk to someone you trust. Grief is different for everyone, so there is no one right way to deal with it. If you don't want to talk, write your thoughts and feelings in a journal. But if you do want to talk, turn to a friend or family member you can trust.
   • Sometimes just being around other people makes you feel better, even if you don't want to talk to them about your feelings.
5. Try to make sense of your grief. Grieving someone can teach us a lot about ourselves and other people. It can also make you realize how precious your life is and even make you think about changing your life. This is a normal and healthy process and you should certainly take advantage of it.
   • Take time to think about how you feel and why.
   • Think about all the things you learned from the person who left - good and bad.
   • Think about all the positive ways your life is going to change now that that person has left.
   • Think of all the things in your life that you are grateful for and should appreciate.
   • Think about all the people in your life who mean a lot to you and how you can spend more time with them.
6. Don't forget to take care of yourself. It's easy to surrender to your grief and stop doing normal, everyday things that are so important. During the grieving process, stop from time to time to spend time with yourself.
   • Get enough sleep every night. Try to go to bed around the same time every day and get up around the same time. Don't spend the day lying in bed or hanging around in your pajamas. Get up, shower and get dressed every day. Your simple daily routine will work wonders for your mood.
   • Don't forget to exercise. You may not feel like going to the fitness center, but that doesn't mean you can do some simple things every day to get exercise. Go for a walk outside, do some yoga with a friend, whatever makes you feel good.
   • Try to eat well and regularly. Grief can take away all your appetite, but try to eat something healthy on a regular basis. If you want to treat yourself to something tasty then that's fine, but make sure you also eat something healthy.

Method 3 of 4: Dealing with distance relationships

1. Be completely committed to your relationship. Distance relationships are not easy. Stepping into a distance relationship is not a decision that can be taken lightly. Both partners should be equally committed to making the relationship work.
   • Keep in mind that nasty things will likely happen, but you will have to get through it. Being able to resolve difficult situations in a relationship will make that relationship stronger.
   • The distance relationship should be in balance. If one partner feels they have made sacrifices for the other and that sacrifice is not recognized, bitterness can develop and turn into anger.
2. Trust your partner, be patient and supportive. All relationships require trust, patience and support, but distance relationships depend on it.
   • Not being around a partner means not knowing what they are doing, but you will have to trust that they are doing the right thing for themselves and your relationship.
   • Distance relationships usually mean that you and your partner are focused on work or school. Therefore, chances are that your partner is busy and may not be able to always be ready to talk to you right away.
   • While there will be constant communication, this is probably not as loose and regular as a regular relationship. Do not forget to ask your partner how they are doing at school or work to keep up with what is happening in their life.
3. Make an effort to communicate with each other. Distance relationships are by definition… far away. You will not have the opportunity to see your partner and talk to him / her on a daily basis in the usual way that couples normally do (such as starting the day, making dinner, watching TV in the evening, etc.). You will have to make an effort to include the other person in your life and communicate with your partner on a regular basis.
   • Technology has made it easier for people to stay in touch remotely, so use this to your advantage. Call, email and text your partner every day.
   • Communicating also means that you are always open and honest with each other. Distance relationships make it more difficult to see and read your partner's body language. Subtle clues that are obvious are hidden from a distance, so open communication is essential.
4. Celebrate special occasions and events. Do your best to keep track of special occasions and events in your relationship. When these occur, celebrate them with your partner. You can still make the day special for your partner even if you are not there in persona.
   • Doing things that have a personal touch is very important. Send handwritten notes, create music playlist, share photos, etc.
5. Make sure your partner remains a visible part of your daily life. Living separately from your partner probably means that you both have different circle of friends and colleagues. By making your partner a visible part of your life, you help portray you as a couple. When you are in a distance relationship, you will have to work on making your partner a visible part of your life.
   • Whether you are talking to friends, colleagues or family, make sure you also talk about your partner.
   • Put photos of your partner on your desk, phone, computer or in your home.
   • Take your partner to your friends when he / she comes over for a visit.
6. Determine for both partners how intimate you can be with each other. Logically, there is little physical contact in distance relationships. For some couples this will create little tension, for others it means that the distance between them is getting bigger. Each couple will need to determine how much physical intimacy it takes to maintain the relationship.
   • Not being able to meet the physical needs of either partner is what can lead to cheating and affairs. If either partner cannot conform to this, the relationship will be much more difficult to maintain.
7. Focus on each other when you are together. One of the advantages of a distance relationship is that you can fully concentrate on what you are doing (work, school, etc.). But when you are together, you will have to focus on each other.
   • Plan how you are going to spend the time there is with the two of you.Make sure there are no work or school-related things that are a priority - get them done in advance, or put them off until your partner leaves.
   • Make your partner your top priority when you are together.

Method 4 of 4: When your loved one is sent out as a soldier

1. Make sure you spend some time alone together before the other person leaves. Unfortunately, these types of missions can be extremely long, so make sure you have some alone time together. This also means that a child can spend time alone with the parent who is stationed abroad.
2. Create a communication plan. Whether you are the one who is being broadcast or the one who stays at home, if there is no regular message from the other person, this can lead to a lot of stress. Before the person is broadcast you make a plan about how and when you will be in contact and what you can expect yourself.
   • Obviously, logistics is a very important consideration in this situation. Hopefully, the person being broadcast will be aware of what is possible in terms of communication before he or she leaves. If this is not the case, make sure that you are notified as soon as this is known.
3. Get creative. While sending regular emails, letters, or cards is great, try developing some more creative ideas for communicating with the person being broadcast. Not only will this make for fun projects to do while the other is away, but it will also make their day more fun.
   • Make packages with a theme.
   • Report "a day in the life of" someone with photos.
   • Have children send funny pictures of themselves.
4. Make plans for the time when you will be alone. Most broadcasts do not take place suddenly. If you are the one who stays at home, use the time you have before the other person leaves to make plans. Take the opportunity to think about the different things you can do to keep busy while the other person is away.
   • Sign up for a hobby course at a community center or through school.
   • Make arrangements to see friends regularly.
   • Make project plans for things to be done around the house.
   • Learn about support groups or other types of counseling available while you are alone.
5. Keep a diary. When someone you love is sent out as a soldier, you will likely be dealing with all kinds of emotions all the time. Take a few days every day to write in a journal what you think and feel. Sometimes writing down what you think can make you feel better. And if you like, you can even send the diary when it is full to your loved one to read while they are on location or when he or she has returned.
6. Don't listen too much to rumors or watch the news too much. When someone has been deployed to an area where things are very troubled and that is often in the news and politically unstable, it is all too easy to get bogged down in all the stories circulating about what is going on. While getting information is good, constantly watching the news or listening to any rumors you hear about the surgery can only make life more tense.
   • Limit yourself to a certain amount of time per day watching the news. And limit yourself to a specific news channel or newspaper.