Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 3: Starting the conversation
• Part 2 of 3: Keeping the flirt
• Part 3 of 3: Going one step further
• Tips

Tinder is a social dating app that matches people who like each other's profiles. It also includes a chat service that allows you to send your matches messages and thus start flirting. Who knows, if he / she likes your messages you might be able to meet up sometime! Read on to learn how.

To step

Part 1 of 3: Starting the conversation

1. Install Tinder and make some matches. To be able to flirt with people via Tinder, you need to have the app installed and be paired with a number of other users. You need matches to be able to chat. Take the time to create a good profile and browse through possible matches.
   • Check out this guide for more information about installing Tinder and creating a good profile.
   • Tinders is available for free for both iOS and Android. You need a Facebook account to create a Tinder account.
2. Use good profile photos. Try to put as many good pictures of yourself on your profile as possible. Be careful not to use photos of you with people of the opposite sex, don't include photos of you with a child, and make sure you don't just use group photos.
   • Make sure to smile in your photos!
3. Start the conversation. If you liked someone's profile and they liked you back, you can chat with each other. Open the Matches menu, and tap one of your matches to open a chat window.
   • Start the chat about a day after the match is made.
   • Take the initiative. This radiates confidence and a willingness to take control.
   • Don't be discouraged if you don't get an immediate answer. Not everyone will respond to your messages. Just try it with the next match.
4. Provide creative opening lines. Avoid simple phrases like "Hi" or "Hello". Most people immediately take it off. Study the profile picture and description of the person you want to chat with. For example, if you see someone with a surfboard, ask where they prefer to surf.
   • Make sure your spelling and grammar are always correct. Especially during the first meeting. Remember you can only make a first impression once!
5. Ask questions. Ask simple questions to learn more about the person. What are his / her hobbies, interests, passions, etc? Don't immediately ask overly personal questions.
   • Keep it light. Talk to the person as if you were talking to a friend you've known for years. Keep calm, keep your cool.

Part 2 of 3: Keeping the flirt

1. Hold his / her interest. Now that you've gotten their attention and learned a little more about them, you need to know how to keep them interested in you.
   • Don't be afraid to compliment. Compliment the other person based on your conversation, even if you don't know the other person very well yet. For example, a good start would be: "I enjoy talking to you SO much."
   • Be careful about complimenting his / her appearance. Focus more on things other than physical ones.
   • Tease each other. Teasing is a great way to flirt. You can give him / her a near light, or just tease a little about something silly he / she did.
   • Keep the teasing light, and always let the other person know you're kidding. A;) emoticon can help with this. However, men should avoid emoticons.
2. Don't be a creep. Tinder should be fun and lighthearted. If you appear too forced, greedy, or sexual, it will repel the other person. It ruins the chance of flirting in the future. Keep it light. Save the heavier costs for as the relationship develops.
3. Don't talk too much about yourself. The other person may lose interest if you do. Instead, encourage the other to talk about themselves. You can then add a few things about yourself to the conversation.
   • Make sure the other person is also interested in the topic of conversation. You notice this immediately in the way the other person reacts. If they don't seem to find the conversation that interesting, subtly but urgently change the topic.

Part 3 of 3: Going one step further

1. Make them want more. If you started off forcefully, don't forget to end your conversations forcefully as well. Know when to stop chatting. Conversations cannot last forever. At some point, there is simply nothing more to say.
   • If you feel like both of you are having a hard time speaking, end the conversation immediately.
   • Gauge the response. Try to gauge whether the other person likes you or not. If the other person doesn't answer much, he / she probably doesn't feel like flirting with you. End the conversation for good.
   • Schedule the next chat appointment in advance. Say something like "Message me again soon," or "Shall we talk again tomorrow?"
   • Don't just say "Bye!" Let the other person know why you are leaving and what you are going to do.
   • If you are going to meet the other person in person, don't be afraid to tell him / her that you feel like it.
   • Avoid an awkward goodbye. Say you had a good time and that it was fun talking to him / her. Keep it simple, keep it light.
2. Get a phone number. Many Tinder users don't want to keep chatting through the app. It is rather impersonal. If you enjoy the flirt, ask for a phone number to make the chat sessions a bit more personal. Hearing each other's voices can also greatly strengthen (or weaken) your connection.
3. Schedule an appointment. Tinder is a dating service - so many people expect to meet whoever they are talking to in person. If the two of you seem to get along, then you are more or less obliged to meet them in person at least once to see if things work out.
   • Choose a safe place where you can feel comfortable.
   • Avoid the cliché first date of “dinner and the movies”. Rather go out for lunch, or go out and see where the conversation can lead.

Tips

• Post real photos of yourself.
• Always pay attention to your spelling and grammar.
• Be creative and honest.
• Don't overdo your sentences. Keep them short and sweet.
• Allow Tinder to use your location. This way the app can make matches in your region.
• Log in every now and then to let others know that you are still active.