Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 4: Actively Listen to Your Partner
• Method 2 of 4: Communicate with your partner
• Method 3 of 4: Encourage your partner
• Method 4 of 4: Help your partner
• Tips
• A warning

The relationship between partners is based on mutual trust. If one partner does not support the other, then the relationship is likely to fail. To become real support for your partner, it is extremely important to have real feelings for him. There are many different ways to support and strengthen relationships.

Steps

Method 1 of 4: Actively Listen to Your Partner

1. 1 Learn to understand when something is bothering him. You need to pay attention not only to the words, but also to your partner's mood and body language. Try to notice if something is bothering him.
   • If he's in a bad mood, don't take it personally. It is possible that this has nothing to do with you. Therefore, do not aggravate the situation with your nagging and anger.
2. 2 Let him express your feelings. Some people don't like showing their vulnerability, and there is nothing wrong with that. But this also means that he will not immediately say what the matter is.
   • Ask gently what is bothering him. You can say: “I see that you are thinking about something. Will you tell me about what? " Another option: “Today you look depressed. Is there anything I can help you with? "
   • If your partner doesn't want to talk about their problems right now, show respect for their solution. When he is ready, he will turn to you.
3. 3 When he says listen carefully. When he's ready to share with you, take time to listen to whatever he has to say. Respect his feelings and show him that you are listening to him carefully.
   • Don't interrupt him. Speak when given an opportunity or when you are asked a question.
   • When the opportunity presents itself, repeat, briefly summarizing, what you were told: “As far as I understand, you are saying ...” or “I think you now feel ...”
   • Make eye contact with him when he speaks.
   • Your face needs to express ownership.
   • Ask questions about what you have been told.
4. 4 Try to look at the situation through the eyes of your partner. It doesn't matter how much you have in common. Both of you are still unique individuals. If you want to help him get through difficulties, it is important to try to look at them through his eyes.
   • Try to identify what exactly upsets him, especially if he himself cannot determine it.
   • Understand why this problem is so distressing to him.
   • Find out how he would solve the problem, given his personality type.
   • Support him and carefully guide him on the right path if you notice that he misunderstands the situation.
5. 5 Offer him realistic solutions to the problem. After he talks about the problem and lets off some steam, think about possible real-world solutions. If you are not sure if your partner is looking for advice from you, try asking him: "Are you looking for a solution to a problem or just want to ease your mind?"
   • Suggest solutions that will not make matters worse.For example, if he is upset that he has argued with an employee, you should not advise him to arrange a prank in order to get revenge.
   • Offer any help you can. He can both accept help and refuse it. And it's important to respect this decision. He is independent and able to make independent decisions.
   • If you have little advice on how to solve a problem, just offer to be around so that he has someone to speak up and cry.
6. 6 If necessary, ask for forgiveness. It is possible that your partner was upset by some of your actions or words. If he does, it will be helpful to apologize.
   • Situations are very different. If you think your words or actions were correct and you don't feel it necessary to apologize, then it's worth explaining why. Nevertheless, if you did not know that your words or actions upset him so much, and it hurts you, then you should still ask for forgiveness.
   • You can even express regret if the situation has nothing to do with you: “I'm so sorry it happened to you. I'm with you. I will support you as much as I can. "

Method 2 of 4: Communicate with your partner

1. 1 Create open relationships. To support your partner, you need to be trustworthy and trust him yourself. And for this, communication must be open.
   • Always be sincere with your partner, don't keep secrets from him. You can have small secrets, for example, what you want to give him for his birthday. But never give up secrets about your relationship or events that you know he won't like.
2. 2 Share your thoughts and feelings. This applies to a wide variety of situations. You should share your thoughts, no matter what they are: joyful or not. The partner deserves to know about them.
   • It is very important to express your love and care to your partner. There is no need to talk about it a hundred times a day, but reminding him of it at least once a day will show him that you care.
   • If he said or did something that upset you, you need to let him know about it. To support also means to take care of a person's personal growth, so that he learns from his mistakes. But this should be done in a healthy way, through support. You shouldn't start an argument, it is better to softly tell your partner something like: “When you said this, I felt like you were hinting to me that you were tired of me. I was very hurt". This will help clarify the situation.
3. 3 Show respect when you communicate with him. You can voice your position firmly if necessary, but speak respectfully and politely. An argument can almost always be avoided, and what your conversation will result in, in a respectful disagreement or in a loud scandal, will largely depend on your tone and choice of words.
   • Blaming him will only stress him out. Better to tell him carefully and carefully what the matter is. This way, you can tune it to successfully solve the problem and correct the situation.
   • Always admit your own mistakes and do not shy away from responsibility for them.
4. 4 Be prepared to compromise or make concessions. Relationships are a two-way street, so everything should be based on the wants and needs of both. The decisions will not always be easy, and often someone will have to compromise or even make concessions. Support your partner by making this choice when needed.
   • An example of a compromise would be when planning a joint vacation: perhaps you want to go to the resort in an all-inclusive format, but he does not want to, because it costs more. You both need to come to a compromise, maybe you go to the resort with a beach vacation, but closer to home, so that you get there by car, not by plane. Or, alternatively, you can go on vacation somewhere other than the resort.
   • An example of a sacrificial attitude is giving preference to the wants or needs of the partner.For example, regular training is very important for her, they make her feel great. Therefore, you will have to skip an event in order for her to go to training. And it will increase your trust in each other.

Method 3 of 4: Encourage your partner

1. 1 Let him know that you support him. Whatever the situation (such as a sporting event or promotion), make sure he is confident that you are supporting him.
   • Admire the opportunities that open up before him and show your admiration.
   • Provide support wherever you can: in sports, in fundraising for charity, and so on.
   • Tell others about his capabilities if he is pleased.
2. 2 Ask how you can help, support him when he has new opportunities. To do this, you can take over part of his routine, so that he can better concentrate on the new project. Offer to help with some of his responsibilities so that he can focus on his needs.
   • Go to the grocery store
   • Do a wash or clean your laundry
   • Clean your house
   • Prepare food for future use
   • Help him with organizational matters, such as sending emails or organizing his daily planner.
3. 3 Encourage him to move towards his goals and dreams. If one person in a relationship is holding the other and pulling them back, it's an unhealthy relationship. Show him that you truly support him by inspiring him to achieve his goals.
   • Offer to work together to find ways to make his dreams and goals come true, for example, help him gather information and learn more about what he is striving for.
   • If he is disappointed, say a couple of encouraging words to him: “I know that right now it seems to you that you are far from the desired goal, but let's see how far you have progressed from the very beginning!”
4. 4 Be optimistic for him. There will be times when he can become pessimistic. Help him overcome these feelings while maintaining his own optimism.
   • If you too are possessed by pessimism and you show it, he may abandon his goals.
   • Even if you sometimes feel frustrated, look for opportunities to continue to be supportive and express your frustration in a healthy way. Find a friend with whom you can share your frustrations, exercise, go for a walk.
5. 5 Give him free space if necessary. Try to understand when it will be needed and give the person personal space if necessary.
   • If you encourage him too much, he may feel like you are picking on him. And who will like nagging!
   • Occupy yourself in his absence with something pleasant for yourself: take a bath, read a good book, go for a walk alone, pursue a hobby, or do something else that you personally like.
6. 6 Challenge him to get better. None of us are perfect, neither are you. One way to support him is to stimulate his personal growth.
   • Your relationship will only benefit from the personal development of everyone, whether it concerns worldview, character, appearance, or something else.
   • This does not mean that it is necessary or possible to force it. If you don't like something about him, you cannot force him to change, especially if he himself does not want to. At the same time, you can inspire him to improve.
   • If he turns your weapon against you, be prepared to take on the challenge and improve yourself. Support each other in joint self-improvement.

Method 4 of 4: Help your partner

1. 1 If you want to help him, do not forget about personal boundaries. Some men are incredibly independent and do not like it when someone helps them, and some even find it insulting. Therefore, before rushing to help, find out first how he relates to this. When in doubt, just ask.
2. 2 Find out what kind of help he needs. No, of course, you can just take on some responsibilities of a person, but sometimes he wants or needs specific help.
   • Ask if there is anything specific you can help with.
   • Think about how you could help: you can take on some housework, go to the store, help do something at work, make something, help with house renovations.
   • Your help can also be shown on an emotional level. Physical help is not always needed, sometimes it is important that you just be there for emotional support.
3. 3 Offer the kind of help that you can handle and with which you can best cope. Be aware of your own boundaries and limitations in the tasks in which he needs help.
   • Do not offer to do something that you do not know how to do or do not know how to do.
   • But even if you take on a couple of the smallest tasks from his daily routine, it will be better than not helping at all. Do what you can.
4. 4 Find creative solutions to his problems. Help him find a more efficient method for completing tasks or devise a different problem-solving strategy. Each person perceives different situations in his own way. Your point of view may be helpful to him.
   • For example, he wants to fix a drawer, but he can't. Take some time, see how you can solve this problem and give him a tip.
   • Another example concerns a situation where he has a problem with another person. Perhaps he sees the solution solely in confrontation, using sophisticated methods. There is a chance that you will be able to draw his attention to softer, more practical solutions.
5. 5 Let your partner know that you are always there and ready to help if needed. Perhaps he will not need help all the time, but only at some stage of work. But you can let him know that you are ready to help whenever you need it.
   • Perhaps he wants to solve the problem on his own, this applies primarily to cases when moral support is needed. But he will be grateful if you are near, and he can talk to you, and you will listen to him.
   • In some cases, you can just be on the sidelines and help in whatever is asked of you.

Tips

• Remember that he is an individual. Your desire for him to be successful is perfectly acceptable, you shouldn't, and you can't do something for him.
• Give him the freedom to spend time with other people, such as friends or family. Although you are a couple, each of you should still have your own personal life.

A warning

• Find the line between support and obsession or clinginess. Some people like it when their partner depends on them, and many people find obsession just unpleasant.
• Don't judge him. It will only annoy both of you and hurt your relationship.