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• Method 1 of 2: Find out if someone misses you when friendship fades or suddenly ends
• Method 2 of 2: Find out if your partner misses you when you're not together
• Warnings

When you are separated from someone you care about, it is natural to wonder if they miss you. Perhaps you and a former friend, a family member, or someone else with whom you previously had a close relationship have grown apart. Or maybe you're just wondering if your boyfriend or girlfriend really misses you on that business trip. Find out if someone misses you in a decent way without having to stalk them.

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Method 1 of 2: Find out if someone misses you when friendship fades or suddenly ends

1. Make a deal and pay attention to the reactions of your boyfriend or girlfriend. If you feel like a friendship is watering down and you wonder if your boyfriend or girlfriend is missing you, invite him or her to do something simple but fun, like drinking coffee together. If your boyfriend or girlfriend responds enthusiastically to that, he or she probably misses you too. But if he or she keeps postponing the appointment or doesn't seem to feel like seeing you, then you have to accept that he or she probably doesn't really miss you.
   • Be honest about missing your boyfriend or girlfriend without accusing him or her of anything. Say something like, “I miss our great Friday night out! Won't we meet again soon? ”
2. Address the underlying problems. If your friendship has watered down a bit without actually knowing why, sometimes it is best to talk directly to your boyfriend or girlfriend about the cause of the distance. Tell your friend that you have noticed that the friendship between you is no longer as close as it used to be. Ask him or her if you might have done anything to offend or hurt him or her. If the answer is yes, be ready to listen to what your boyfriend or girlfriend has to say, rather than immediately defending your side of the story.
   • You can also ask directly if your boyfriend or girlfriend is missing you, just to be clear, but try not to make him or she feel uncomfortable. If your boyfriend or girlfriend feels attacked, chances are you won't get an honest answer.
3. Talk to your mutual friends. Be clear about your intentions and needs. For example, you could say to a friend, “I feel like Steven and I have grown apart a bit lately, and I'm pretty worried about that. Do you think it would be worthwhile to discuss this with him soon? ” Then listen carefully to the answer.
   • Don't ask others if someone might miss you just to make you feel better.
4. Let relationships end naturally. Make sure you recognize the signs that the end of a friendship is near. There may be long silences or strange gaps during your conversations. Making plans together may be more difficult. Misunderstandings occur more often. Not all friendships are meant to last; just as your interests and lives change over time, so do friendships.
   • When your friendship ends, don't become obsessed with whether or not your boyfriend or girlfriend misses you. Instead, cherish any positive things he or she has added to your life and move on.
5. Do not confuse “I miss you” with “I would like to be with you”. Even if a former boyfriend or girlfriend of yours, or your ex, misses you, it doesn't necessarily mean that he or she wants to start a relationship with you again. You may both be grieving the loss of the good things you had together. On the other hand, that doesn't mean getting back together is definitely a good idea.

Method 2 of 2: Find out if your partner misses you when you're not together

1. Pay attention to how often he calls or sends you text messages. If your friend or partner tries to talk to you on a regular basis, it probably means that he misses you when you're away. Everyone has their own communication style, but many phone calls and messages clearly indicate that someone is willing to invest in the relationship.
2. Listen to the pitch of his voice. If your friend or partner misses you, he will sound engaged and enthusiastic while talking to you. If he makes a distracted impression when you catch up after a while, it may indicate that he may not have really missed you.
3. Be honest if you feel insecure. If you feel anxious or insecure when your partner is away from home, it is better to be honest about it. By just asking questions like, "Did you miss me?" or "Do you still love me?" you probably won't solve your real problems. If your partner says "Yes" you may not believe her, and if she says "No" you just feel even worse. Instead, just ask for the confirmation you need.
   • For example, you could say, “I had a bad day and I feel quite lonely and insecure tonight. Can't you give me some extra support and tell me you love and miss me? ”
4. Pay attention to the type of information she shares with you. If your friend or partner shares pictures or links with you that reminded her of you, it definitely means: she's thinking of you. Even when you're not together, you are still on her mind.
   • Gifts are also a way to show that you care and feel connected to someone. Even if you don't immediately love what your friend or partner brought for you, you should recognize that this is also proof that he or she thought of you while you weren't together.
   • Does he tell you in scents and colors the details of his boring conference or his flights with delays and missed connections? Then you can safely conclude that he probably likes to keep talking to you. Sharing details that are not that interesting in and of themselves is a way to keep in touch at a distance, showing that he misses you while the two of you are not together.
5. Watch for non-verbal cues. When you're far away from each other, it can be more difficult to pick up on the body language your partner uses to express that he or she loves you. If you're on a video call, make sure she tilts her head slightly and tries to maintain eye contact with you all the time. During a telephone conversation, a voice that is lower or higher indicates a need for intimacy.
6. Learn to recognize the signs that you are suffering from divorce. When there is pair bonding, that is, an extraordinarily close bond within a couple, it means that a divorce can cause a greater degree of stress and anxiety. If she is very restless or upset when you are traveling, for example, she may miss you.

Warnings

• Never stalk someone in person or over the internet. If you find yourself completely obsessed with whether or not someone misses you, talk to a counselor, therapist, or close friend.
• Keep in mind that adults also sometimes suffer from severe forms of separation anxiety. If you keep wondering if someone is missing you, maybe you should talk to a counselor or therapist. Seek professional help if you experience the following symptoms in daily life: feeling abnormally worried when you are separated from the people you love; being extremely afraid that the people you love will leave you; nightmares in which you dream that you are being separated from someone; or fear that something serious will happen to the people you love when in reality they are in no danger at all.