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• Method 1 of 4: Identify a potential boyfriend
• Method 2 of 4: Invite him to a date
• Method 3 of 4: Building a relationship
• Method 4 of 4: Asking him to be your boyfriend
• Tips
• Warnings

The very idea of ​​finding a boyfriend can fill you with conflicting feelings. You may feel excited about the idea of ​​having someone to pass the time with, but you may also feel nervous about putting yourself in an emotionally vulnerable state, especially if you are unsure of the romantic / sexual preference of the guy you like. When you decide the timing is right and you are indeed ready for a boyfriend, there are ways to make the process a little easier while avoiding common mistakes.

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Method 1 of 4: Identify a potential boyfriend

1. Decide what you want in a relationship. Before you start the dating process, think about what kind of relationship you want and what kind of person you want to date. Most relationships are best when you start out as friends, because then you have a chance to find out if the two of you are compatible and if the person has the traits you would like to see in a partner.
2. Decide if you really want a boyfriend. While some people don't like being single, sometimes you have to think about what's going on in your life and whether you need a relationship at all. If you need to focus on school, work, or a family situation, the answer to that question may be no, for now. There is nothing wrong with being single.
3. Find a man who is open to a same-sex relationship. If you are part of the LGBTQ community, you may have a group of friends that you hang out with and chances are you already know someone in that group that you would like to date. If not, you can find a potential boyfriend when you go to school or work, or even when you are traveling. The possibilities are endless.
   • If you meet someone and you know that they have a same-sex preference and also know that they are open about this, you can be cautious about your interest in them.
   • If you meet someone and are unsure of their sexual orientation, don't openly express your feelings for them, as this can create an uncomfortable situation for both of you.
   • There are LGBTQ clubs and organizations all over the world that offer many programs that you can join. There are also awareness groups that focus on helping and celebrating the LGBTQ community.
4. Ask acquaintances to introduce you to someone. Many long-term relationships, and even marriages, started with an introduction from a friend or colleague. Don't be afraid to ask people from these groups to introduce you to someone. Often times, those you spend the most time with know you best, allowing them to serve as great matchmakers.
5. Use social media to meet new people. You can use social media to stay connected and meet new people. While you don't want to be aggressive when sending non-personal messages, social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, can be used to expand your network of acquaintances. The more people you meet, the more likely you will find a boyfriend.
6. Use online dating sites to meet new people. There are dating sites that give an option to search for the same gender, such as OurTime Lexa and Zoosk. As with everything in life, you should be careful when meeting someone you don't know. This rule applies when you meet someone at a supermarket or nightclub. This rule applies everywhere.

Method 2 of 4: Invite him to a date

1. Decide if you are ready for a date. Once you've picked a potential boyfriend, it's a good idea to spend some time together in a "casual" environment, such as with friends in a neutral location or gaming together, to find out if the two of you are compatible together.
2. Determine a place for a short meeting. A good location for a short first one-on-one appointment is a cafe where you can drink coffee and tea and talk a lot. You can also go to a movie, but you will have less time to talk there, because a movie theater requires silence.
   • When you meet someone in a cafe, you don't have to spend a lot of time or money, and the meeting can be over quickly if you find out there is no "spark" or mutual interest between you.
   • Make sure you look your best when you get to know someone, even when the date is casual. While you should definitely be yourself, you do want to present the best version of yourself.
3. Decide how you will invite him. Thanks to the popularity of smartphones, many people communicate via apps or text messages, but the problem is that you cannot read the tone and body language of someone else. While you can certainly ask someone on a casual date via text or email, it's better to have a conversation in person or over the phone so you can hear their voice and they hear yours.
4. Think about what you will say during this conversation. Asking someone out, no matter how casual, can be daunting. A good way to deal with this is to simply say the following: "I would like to get to know you better, do you have time to have coffee together on Saturday?"
   • When you ask someone out on a date, make sure you break the ice first by asking about their day or by having a conversation about something else first.
   • If you ask someone on a date you've never had a conversation with, it's still best to use an icebreaker first, for example, `` Do you happen to know any good restaurants around here? '' And when he answers, say, `` If I go there, will you come with me? '
   • Avoid using pickup lines, as people can tell when you are being insincere and that will usually reduce the chances of the person accepting your invitation.
5. Prepare for what you'll say if he says no. Nobody likes rejection and sometimes it can be difficult to deal with. You have to decide in advance that you will not take it personally if he does not accept your invitation. You can also prepare a response so that you are not speechless if he says no.
   • If your invitation is not accepted, you may want to say something like this: "I understand. If you change your mind or if you have the time, let me know. "

Method 3 of 4: Building a relationship

1. Get to know each other on a deeper level. Once you've followed the steps above, been on a few dates, and feel like you're okay, it's a good idea to be honest about your feelings. While it may take time to fall in love, you may soon have feelings strong enough to warrant dating more seriously, which of course can lead to boyfriends. It might be a little scary, but it can also be worth it, because being in a good relationship can contribute to a happier and more fulfilling life.
2. Share your real feelings. Once you've gotten past the early stages of getting to know each other, it's time to be honest about your feelings. If you start to feel more for him, then it's totally fine to share that information.
3. Listen to how he feels. A relationship goes both ways and it's important to really listen to him, instead of just talking about how you feel. Listen actively, which means that you listen to him to really understand what he is saying instead of just listening so that you can respond with what you want to say.
   • If you share your feelings and he doesn't feel the same way, don't feel down or worry about it. When someone doesn't share your feelings, it doesn't mean you're a bad person or not enough, it just means you weren't compatible.
4. Watch for red flags. Not all relationships are healthy relationships. It's important to keep an eye out for the red flags you may spot during the early stages of your relationship. Problems like uncontrollable anger and hurtful communication are all things you want to pay attention to because they are not part of a healthy relationship.
   • Introduce it to your close friends and family if you feel comfortable with it. Sometimes they will recognize potential problems that you cannot see.
5. Communicate your concerns. If you like him but are worried about a few minor things, it's totally fine to have a conversation about that so that your concerns can be resolved before moving on with your relationship.

Method 4 of 4: Asking him to be your boyfriend

1. Decide if you are ready for the next step. In general, being in a successful relationship requires that you believe in yourself and believe that you are worthy of love. If you love yourself, you will be better prepared to be in a relationship. If you have shared your feelings and they have been properly absorbed, after a while (the amount of time varies by couple) you may feel ready for an official relationship.
   • You cannot just assume that you are on the same page. You have to ask him whether or not he wants to be your boyfriend officially.
2. Assess whether or not he is right for you. Sometimes when you take a step back to really think about the person and your interactions, you can see whether or not there is a future for your relationship. In some cases, it's better not to move on with the relationship and instead just decide to be friends.
3. Discuss your expectations. If you decide to move forward with the relationship, be clear about your expectations and what you need from a boyfriend so that the relationship can be successful.
4. Make plans to have fun together. You can have a long, committed, and loving relationship if that's what you really want. Like all relationships, your relationship will take time, mutual respect, and constant commitment. If you both decide to be each other's boyfriend, start having fun together and enjoying each other's company.
   • It's important to be clear about what kind of relationship you want. Just saying you are friends may not be enough. You need to talk about whether your relationship is monogamous or not and whether you both see a future together.
   • If you haven't already, now is a good time to make sure he's not in another relationship, especially if you decide to be exclusive.

Tips

• Avoid trying to start a relationship with someone who has no interest in the same sex.
• Pay attention to body language and signals used to indicate whether or not they are interested, such as eye contact, compliments, and romantic gestures.
• If he says no that he doesn't want to be your boyfriend, he might still want to be your friend.
• Avoid doing things that could make your desired boyfriend feel embarrassed. This can usually be achieved by being discreet.
• Don't rush, be confident, and learn to enjoy being single. This will make you more attractive as a potential partner.

Warnings

• Be careful and discreet when using social media for dating as people can be numb and mean at times.
• Be careful not to mistake kindness for a romantic gesture.
• Some people are uncomfortable with the idea of ​​gay / bi / transgender relationships, so prepare for unexpected reactions.
• Be aware that having same-sex feelings does not necessarily mean that you are gay. Most gay people know early in life that they are gay, and can develop strange feelings due to hormones during puberty. You might just be bi-curious if you're not sure, or bisexual if you have feelings for two or more genders.