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• Method 1 of 2: Using social interactions
• Method 2 of 2: Using a cheat
• Tips
• Warnings

This wikiHow teaches you how to put two of your Sims in a relationship with each other in The Sims 4. You can do this naturally by finding a Sim and having your Sim engage in necessary social interactions; if that sounds like too much work, there's a cheat you can use to initiate the relationship.

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Method 1 of 2: Using social interactions

1. Understand the limitations. When trying to get two Sims into a relationship, they cannot be family, nor can they be the exact opposite of each other's traits.
   • While it's technically possible to date two opposite Sims, it's difficult.
   • Your Sims' genders don't influence their dating choices.
2. Send your Sim to a social location. If you want your Sim to meet another Sim organically, send them to a club, bar, park, or similar social venue.
   • You can also just send your Sim out into the street if there are enough Sims around.
3. Have your Sim introduce themselves to another Sim. Select the Sim you want to associate your Sim with to start a conversation.
4. Look for positive signs. You will see a literal green "+" sign appear above both your Sim's head and the other Sim's head while they are talking; if you see a large amount of these, your Sims are a good match.
   • You may also see some red "-" signs. As long as you see significantly more green positives than red negatives, you are good to go.
   • If you see an influx of red negative signs, you need to find another Sim to match your Sim with.
5. Build a friendship between the two Sims. The easiest, least risky way to do this is by talking to the sim through Friendly as the call option and then select a dialog option such as Questions about day or Compliment your outfit.
   • You want the "Friendship" bar to be at least 50 percent full; lower than that, your romantic attempts will fail.
   • Avoid flirty (pink) dialogue options when building the friendship.
6. Start flirting. Once your two Sims are friends (e.g., the "Friendship" bar is at 50 percent or higher), you can start flirting with the other Sim by clicking the Romance call option and then To flirt to select.
7. Wait to see if the other Sim accepts the flirting. If the other Sim is open to romance, you will see a pink bar below the green bar "Friendship" appear under both your Sim's name and the other Sim's name.
   • If the pink bar doesn't appear, try building up the "Friendship" bar a little more before trying to flirt again.
8. Build up at least 30 percent of the "Romance" bar. Building romance works in the same way as building a friendship: select the Romance call option and select light options such as To flirt or Compliment looks.
   • Avoid physical activity until the "Romance" bar has grown a few times. Ideally, wait to use physical options until the bar reaches the 30 percent mark.
   • If the other Sim reacts unfavorably to something you do, select the Excuse option before proceeding, then move on to flirt or compliment lightly.
9. Ask the Sim to date. Once the "Romance" bar is at least 30 percent full, select the Romance menu option, and select Ask to be a friend or Ask to be a girlfriend in the resulting menu. This usually results in the Sim becoming your Sim's partner.
   • If the other Sim responds badly, start flirting again until you raise the Romance bar to about 50 percent, then try again.
10. Continue to build the relationship. Once your Sim and their partner are dating, you can use the Romance keep using options such as holding hands, kissing, and so on to build the "Romance" bar.
    • Once the "Romance" bar is 50 percent or more full, you can ask the Sim to marry your Sim. If the bar is full enough, you even have an option Get married immediately.

Method 2 of 2: Using a cheat

1. Find a Sim you want your Sim to date. Before you can use a cheat to pair your two Sims, you need to find the Sim you want your Sim to date.
2. Note the name of the other Sim. You will need the other Sim's first and last name before you can proceed.
3. Turn on the Cheats console. Press Ctrl+⇧ Shift+C. (Windows) or ⌘ Command+⇧ Shift+C. (Mac) to do this. You should see a text box appear.
4. Enter the command "Enable Cheats". Type testingcheats enabled and press ↵ Enter. This will enable cheats for your current Sims 4 game.
5. Enter the command "Modify Relationship". You use this command to raise your Sim's "Friendship" and "Romance" bars to 75 percent, allowing romance options without breaking the game. The command "Modify relationship" can be entered as follows:
   • Type modifyrelationship and press the spacebar.
   • Type your Sim's first name and press the space bar, then enter their last name and press the space bar.
   • Enter the first and last name of the Sim you want to date in the same way, making sure to press the space bar after their last name.
   • Type 75 and press the spacebar.
   • Type Friendship_Main and press ↵ Enter.
   • Repeat this command and replace "Friendship_Main" with "Romance_Main".
6. Start a conversation with the other Sim. Go to the Sim you want to pair your Sim with and start talking to them. Ultimately, you should see dialog options appear.
7. Ask the Sim to date. Since the two Sims have full "Friendship" and "Romance" bars, you can Romance select and direct Asking to be a friend or Asking to be a girlfriend Selecting. This will give your Sims a relationship.

Tips

• If you feel like you should break up, go to Mean and select Break up. This will make the Sims hate each other. You can also go to Friendly go and Asking to just be friends use to clear the "Romance" bar.
• Try to avoid Sims who have the "Not Flirty" trait. Their romantic options are limited and they often reject your Sim's romantic advances.

Warnings

• Being romantic too early will scare the other Sim. Save grand (and physical) romantic gestures until the "Romance" bar is at least one-third full.