Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 3: The basic idea
• Part 2 of 3: Finding a subject
• Part 3 of 3: Expanding your knowledge
• Tips

To understand the psyche of other people and the way they behave and act, creating a profile is an important skill to learn. Pause the world around you and observe the people around you. Many people travel from Point A to Point B, but have you ever really looked at them carefully? In other words, look beyond what you see at first glance.

To step

Part 1 of 3: The basic idea

1. Compare people with onions. Consider 4 layers of an onion as the personality of the human being. The deeper you get into the "ui" will determine how well you can read someone.
   • The Skin: We as humans, show and reveal our personalities and traits to others without even realizing it. This could be a simple conversation at a bus stop about the weather or other topics about lifestyle and the world around us.
   • Second layer: People we appreciate or get to know better, such as colleagues or classmates instead of a random stranger, are now able to understand you better as a result of the relaxation and confidence in the relationship you have with them.
   • Third layer: The bond of a relationship, such as that between best friends and within a marriage, creates a "fixed" sense of security between people. This layer is defined as presenting yourself in a way that allows you to connect on a personal basis, such as sharing secrets based on trust, telling about fears and concerns to the other, etc.
   • The Core: Each person has a "core", where thoughts and secrets are not shared with anyone but ourselves. This layer is more psychic than anything else, because we cling to the reality of something and accept or cannot accept it.
2. Eliminate projection boundaries around you. Prepare to accept the truth as it is conveyed instead of forcing yourself to believe something that is not.
   • Many situations can arise because of shame, guilt and insecurity that make us blind to accepting reality.
3. Don't allow prejudice when you show yourself. Prejudice in psychology goes far beyond race or gender. Understand that prejudice is basing an opinion on an idea without knowing the facts. Try to stay neutral before sinking into false assumptions.

Part 2 of 3: Finding a subject

1. Analyze a person you know. Do not start with strangers, because you will have to observe them much longer. Suggestions are your partner, colleague or friend.
2. Recognize their "basic profile". A basic profile (baseline) of a person is defined as their comfort zone or resting state.
3. Observe their behavior at random times. Take notes on how they react at certain times, make an evaluation on different days, and see their interaction.
   • We all have different stress levels at work compared to being relaxed at home or when someone holds a grudge against one specific person and behaves completely differently towards the other.
4. Brainstorm a list of patterns. Organize your list according to the most common traits and behaviors the person has displayed. These patterns are the basis for finding out the truth or falsehood about someone.
   • Different voice (normal tone, excited, anxious, defensive, etc)
   • Eye movements
   • Facial expressions
   • Body language (how they present themselves)
5. Concentrate on things that are not patterns. List unexpected moments, behaviors, or ticks from that person that do not match the "baseline" profile.

Part 3 of 3: Expanding your knowledge

1. Describe who they are. Allow them to "become" their personality, appearance and styles.
2. Recognize how they use their voice with others nearby. A small voice may mean that they are shy, but consider other environmental factors, such as fatigue. Loud sounds indicate the need to rise above the other, to take over, or to attack the other.
   • Does the sound of the voice change when an opinion is defended, or are they naturally balanced?
   • Do they communicate with you in an adult or immature way? This will give you a good idea of ​​the highest completed education and vocabulary.
   • Know and distinguish between exaggeration, sarcasm, slang, and other verbal expressions used in conversation.Notice how words relate to context as this can be an indication of whether they have a good education or whether they are pretending to be smarter than they are.
3. Analyze their personal space. See how their life at home or at work relates to the way they behave in public.
   • What kind of environment do they live in? Housing for people with a low income shows that people can afford to live on their own, but with welfare, compared to a person in a wealthy neighborhood who does not depend on it.
   • Organizational talent tells a lot, but don't be too quick to judge. If they have a busy schedule, an unkempt house can simply mean that they don't have time to keep it tidy, while someone who has the time comes across as a lazy person. Usually, the more organized someone is and wants to show this, the more self-confidence they have and are not immediately overwhelmed by a series of events.
   • How is private life shared with others? Many people would rather not talk about it in public, but when you enter someone's office, you enter someone's privacy at work. Many people (even doctors and psychologists) post pictures of their families on their desks. This will help you decipher that that person cares about their family and thinks about them every time they see the photos.
4. Research what they are wearing. Treat these ratings as you would a house or a car. You can tell the degree to which someone is organized from the way someone dresses and presents.
   • Are the clothes hanging loosely or are they tucked in? Are they suitable for a business environment or a relaxing holiday? Does it look professional or more appropriate for someone living in a suburb?
   • As for hairstyle? Does it seem like they spent time on it or just "took a quick look in the mirror and thought it was fine"? The "watch and go" kind of people might reap a "as long as it looks reasonable" personality instead of reaching out and trying to see if this is the best they can do when they appear in public.
   • What kind of footwear are they wearing? Are they proud that their shoes have been polished or are they wearing sandals that have had their day?
5. Note their reaction to sudden events in public. When they burp, are they unabashedly doing it or are they trying to hide it? Belching, sneezing, and coughing can differentiate those who follow proper etiquette from those who don't in a number of ways.
6. Watch the eye movements. Is someone looking straight into your eyes or slightly to the side? Does someone look away when you ask for an honest answer? Look at the path the eyes follow when you discover that someone is not telling the truth.
7. Assess how calm a person stays around other people. Some people seem nervous, especially in a busy environment, and try to make up everything to avoid being in such a place.
   • Impatient people, rather than relaxed people, tend to tap their feet when standing still. Often times they will fiddle with something like biting their lips, sighing or looking at their watch / mobile more than necessary.

Tips

• Profiling people is used on a daily basis, from interviewing potential new employees to playing poker.