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• Method 1 of 4: Start a conversation with a guy to date him
• Method 2 of 4: Start a conversation to become friends
• Method 3 of 4: Making a call for network purposes
• Method 4 of 4: Be considerate

It can be intimidating to start a conversation with someone, especially on a social media platform like Facebook. On Facebook you don't just meet people or see someone on the other side of the room, unless you are active in groups. However, you should start a conversation with a guy, especially if you first noticed in a group. Whether you're out on a date, a new acquaintance, or a business connection, this article will help you get started.

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Method 1 of 4: Start a conversation with a guy to date him

1. First look at his profile. Before starting a conversation, see what common interests you have so that you have something to talk about. If most of his profile is shielded, you can ask him about his favorite movie or book to start the conversation.
   • For example, you could say, "I see your profile is private, so I wonder why you keep your favorite book hidden from people. What do you like to read?"
2. Ask for help. Most people want to talk for a few minutes if you need help. So ask for help with any problem you have. If you don't actually have one, you can ask something about Facebook, such as the following: "I can never figure out how to create a new paragraph in a post without it sending the post. Do you know how?"
3. Ask for recommendations. If you're new to this area (or even if you're not), you can ask him to recommend some restaurants to start the conversation.
   • Try asking a question like "Hi, I just moved here. Can you recommend a good Japanese or Thai restaurant in the area?" If he says yes, ask him to meet you there.
4. Pretend you recognize him. That is, ask him if you have met him before. You can name a place where you often come. He will say “no”, but you can move on from there.
   • For example, you can say, “Have I met you before? You look so familiar. Do you ever come across the Bakker Bart in the main street? ”
5. Make him laugh. People love to laugh, so you can attract him by making him laugh. The best jokes are the ones you connect with.
   • If you see that he is a fan of the same team as you, you can make a joke about how badly the team is doing, like “I saw you follow the local football club. They are doing so badly that I think even my child's Fs can beat them. ”
6. Try a compliment. People like to hear good things about themselves. Choose something you see on his profile. It could be about his appearance, but it doesn't have to. Studies show that non-appearance compliments actually work best.
   • You can say something about his book taste: "You have really good taste in books! I thought The Ocean at the End of the Lane very nice too. "

Method 2 of 4: Start a conversation to become friends

1. Go through his profile first. Just like starting a conversation for dating, check out his profile for common interests first, even if you just want to become friends. If it doesn't have any public information, ask him about it.
2. Keep it relaxed. If you just want an acquaintance, you shouldn't be sending out signals that you want something more.
   • In other words, you shouldn't flirt. You don't have to say anything about his beautiful eyes if you just want to be friends.
3. Try to be clear. Say why you're connecting with that person and what you want: "Hi, I'm Jake and I'm looking for new friends in the area."
4. Ask him questions about himself. People love to talk about themselves, so ask him what he likes and who he is.
   • As an example, you can say, "Hi, I saw your profile today and it interested me. Can you tell me a little bit more about yourself?"
5. Use open questions. When you initiate a conversation, open-ended questions (questions that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer) encourage you to keep the conversation going.
   • For example, you shouldn't ask "Do you like books?" but "Which books do you like?"
6. Focus on common interests. If you both love basketball, focus on that.
   • For example, you can say, “Hi, I'm Ashley. I see you like basketball. I like it too. Are you in a club? ”
7. Try an unusual word for a greeting. That is, try "hola" or "are you okay?" instead of “hi” or “hello”. Studies by OkCupid show that someone is more likely to respond to an unusual word.

Method 3 of 4: Making a call for network purposes

1. First look at his profile. It's always important to have as many details as possible before starting a conversation with someone you don't know well. Find out where he works, what kind of work he does and where he lives. You can also look for similarities, such as similar interests or the fact that you both have two cats.
2. Focus on your connections. That is, if you approach someone because they are a friend of a friend, or because someone they know suggested you start chatting, tell them.
   • For example, you can say, "I am writing this to you because Jeff Grace of ABC Financials recommended that I contact you."
3. Ask about his job. If you see that he is in a similar field, ask about the work he does.
   • For example, you can say, “Hi, I'm Jess. I see that you also work in engineering. I am new to the field, so I was wondering if I could ask you some questions about your work. ”
4. Connect the question to its location. That is, include your location to start the conversation.
   • You can say, “Hi, I'm Beca. I am new to Purmerend and I was wondering if you have some time to talk about IT jobs in this area. "
5. Be clear about what you want. If you are looking for connections, say so. If you are looking for companies that people are looking for, ask about them. Most people are willing to help if you say what you want.
   • For example, you can say, “Hi, I just moved here and I want to expand my professional network in this area. Do you mind chatting with me for a few minutes? ”

Method 4 of 4: Be considerate

1. Always ask if the other person has time to chat. That means that you must ensure that you do not disturb. People can respond, but may not have time for a long conversation.
2. Back off if the other person doesn't want to chat. If the other person makes it clear that he does not want to chat now, ask if you can do that later. If he says no, you respect his wishes.
3. Check your grammar. Most people don't like bad grammar. Also, if you are over 20, you should avoid "netspeak", such as "ff" for "even" or "d8" for "thought".
4. Stop trying to start a conversation if he doesn't answer. If you send a few messages and he doesn't respond, you stop trying to start a conversation, especially if your messages are "read".