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• Method 1 of 4: Thinking about your actions (and reactions)
• Method 2 of 4: Examine things differently
• Method 3 of 4: Consider your place in the universe

Life can be very overwhelming at times. This feeling may be normal, but it can undermine routines and lifestyles. You should try to develop your own methods of putting your life in perspective, regardless of what upsets you. From major life events to everyday life, life has a hand in throwing us off balance. The goal is to learn how to put everything in perspective.

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Method 1 of 4: Thinking about your actions (and reactions)

1. Stop and think. When you feel like you are unable to put things in perspective, or that life seems too much for you, stop what you are doing and think about the situation. Taking the time to ask yourself some simple questions and be more aware of the situation can help you see things differently.
   • Ask yourself: What exactly am I struggling with? Pointing out the specifics can help you discover how to judge and change.
   • Consider: How do I really feel about this situation now? If your emotions are restless, you probably won't be able to put things in clear perspective.
   • Peins: Why am I reacting this way? What are the causes and are they correct? Sometimes we can overreact to a situation. Stopping to think about why we would do this can help us put our thoughts in a clearer perspective.
2. Accept things you cannot change. Worrying about things beyond your control can be useless and infuriate you.This can definitely lead to a cloudy perspective on life. To get into a habit of accepting things that cannot be changed, you can do the following:
   • Acknowledge your role in the situation. Is the situation beyond your control, or is there something you can do to change it?
   • Stay positive. If you are in a situation that you cannot change, at least try to see something positive in it. This will help you process it.
   • Continue. If you find yourself in a recurring situation beyond your control, analyze the steps that got you there and consider an alternative route.
3. List and evaluate your perspectives. This will help you become more honest with yourself. It will also provide a tangible list to consider when trying to evaluate your values ​​and perspectives.
   • Think about perspectives. How do these perspectives shape you and your relationships with others. This will help you develop perspective about your life and your relationships. Ask yourself:
   • "Does my opinion of [x] affect the way I treat [y]?"
   • For example, "Does my opinion of Judaism affect the way I treat my Christian friends?"
   • Will my parents' unhappy marriage affect the way I treat my partner? Is it fair?

Method 2 of 4: Examine things differently

1. Stop comparing yourself and your actions to others. Comparing yourself to others - in any way, such as job, appearance, intelligence, etc. - is unfair. You live a completely different life from others, and it has affected you and shaped you in a different way. This will help reduce expectations you place on yourself and put your own life in perspective.
   • Remember that you are unique; no one else has exactly the same past as you.
   • For example, don't compare your appearance with your friends. They have had different experiences than you.
   • If you feel like you are not as smart as your classmates, consider the fact that you have a different educational background and experiences from them.
2. Learn from the past and from others. Whatever you struggle with, a good way to put your life in perspective is to think about what happened before. Think about what happened in the past and think about your problems in relation to it.
   • Your problems and your life can still cause you to feel strong emotions. It is very important not to reject your emotions, even if you think you "may not have been so bad". Reflecting on historical facts is for considering change, not rejecting your thoughts.
   • Read books about history or take classes about a culture that interests you. There are also great history podcasts that are offered for free through reputable institutions and organizations.
3. Talk to others. A great way to find perspective is to talk to others. They can help you consider new points of view or recognize your points of view and opinion.
   • Always be polite and respectful about people's perspectives, even if they are different from yours. Perspectives and attitudes can be personal.
4. Focus on what you can do. Seeing a situation as hopeless can make it difficult for you to get something done, but you can change that. If you feel like you are unable to make a change, try to find something small you can do.
   • For example, if you feel that you are unable to find a job, try to find out what you can do to start the process. Maybe you can find three jobs to apply for, or fill out an application form in a place where they are looking for people.
5. Look at the future. A negative outlook can make you feel that things will never change, instead of seeing the future with hope and possibilities. Try to replace any negative thoughts you have about the present with positive thoughts about the future.
   • For example, if you think to yourself, "I'm never going to finish this project," try asking yourself something like "When I imagine I will finish this project, what do I see happening to achieve that goal?"
6. Acknowledge your feelings instead of focusing on others. Fears about how other people see you can also hinder your ability to have a positive outlook. Instead of focusing on how other people may or may not see you, try to focus on how you see yourself.
   • For example, if you find yourself thinking "Nobody likes me", ask yourself "What do I like about myself?"

Method 3 of 4: Consider your place in the universe

1. Remember that things change. Life is in constant flux and, as with the seasons, things change. Studies have shown that those who can adapt and accept life changes lead happier (and sometimes longer) lives.
   • A great way to do this is to look at old photos. You can see how you physically change to put things into perspective.
   • You can take pictures of yourself in the moment to create a baseline of what you want to change. This "before" photo can be a great motivator and help you focus on the now.
2. Imagine the world around you. You are one of more than 7 billion people on this Earth. This can be a calming thought if you think you are the only person struggling with a specific problem.
   • You are one person in this universe. You will not be able to overcome all world problems on your own.
   • Another great way to gain perspective is to watch documentaries to learn about the world around you. Your local library may have some great copies to get you started. Learning about other cultures or history can definitely put your life in perspective.
3. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. When you are struggling with your own problems, think about people who are less fortunate than you.
   • One way to do this is to connect with your own empathy. Think about how many children have no food or no families. Use this empathy for good and consider donating to charities.
4. Recognize that you are only a small part of this universe. As with the population of the world, it can sometimes be calming (though sometimes mind-boggling and terrifying) to think about what a great universe we live in.
   • For example, the sun, which is so small in the sky, is 150 million kilometers away. when we think about this it is easy to see how small we really are and how small our problems can be.
   • Go star gazing to do this. The sky can seem endless.
   • View pictures of the universe. There are great free images available to show you how beautiful and grand the Universe is.
   EXPERT TIP

   Create new goals. One step to maintain your perspective is by setting achievable goals, rather than focusing on goals that are too big or unattainable.

   • For example, if you need to lose 50 pounds and you can't really put that into perspective or believe it, try breaking it into smaller goals. For example, start with losing 2.5 kilos per month.
5. Forgive yourself. You cannot go on and put your life in perspective without forgiveness first. Recognize what you are struggling with, and then work to forgive yourself.
   • For example, if you feel like you are holding onto a mistake in the past, you can try to write down what you should forgive yourself. After acknowledging this, think about the feelings associated with this past action. Take small steps from here to let go of these feelings and get a new perspective.
6. Avoid the drama. If you find yourself stressed and out of perspective because of the drama in your life, try to get yourself out of dramatic situations.
   • Don't hang out with friends who enjoy causing drama.
   • Consider switching careers to keep a healthy outlook on life.
   • Surround yourself with people who make you feel good and who support the positive.
7. Determine that you are your own person. To maintain a healthy perspective, you must always remember that you are your own person. You, and no one else, are responsible for your own actions and reactions.
   • Take the time to pamper yourself. Take the day off and do something you enjoy. This will help you realize that you can make it on your own.
   • Think about what YOU want to achieve in life, not what someone expects you to do.