Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Pretending You Are Not Interested
• Method 2 of 3: How to end a conversation without delay
• Method 3 of 3: How to end a conversation with someone you see often
• Tips
• Warnings

While it is impolite to suddenly end a conversation, there are times when this is the only way to avoid conflict. If someone is persistently and aggressively rude to you or trying to drag you into a conflict, there are several ways to silence the person. Here are some of them.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Pretending You Are Not Interested

1. 1 Try to evade the conversation with certain gestures. While it is considered impolite to turn away, leave headphones in your ears, and avoid looking, doing this will show the person that you are not in the mood for a conversation. It will also save you from being rude in the future.
   • Continue going about your business as if nothing happened.
   • Get up and walk around the room, be active and find something to do instead of just listening.
2. 2 Get into the conversation as soon as possible. Say something like "I would like to add something" or "Can I interrupt you for a second?" This often makes it clear to the interlocutor that he is talking too much. Although people tend to speak quickly, a little respite or a moment of silence can help deal with the one-sided flow of the discussion.
   • Let the person know that you want to say something by raising your hands up, opening your mouth, or closing your palms. Any method of interrupting the flow of another person's thoughts will give you a chance to speak up for yourself.
   • If the person expresses a desire to finish the thought, do not let him take over the conversation again; intervene in the flow of words as soon as the person finishes the sentence.
3. 3 Monitor the flow of the conversation. This is especially necessary if you are talking to someone you know well. Let the person know that you have listened to them and steer the discussion in a different direction.
4. 4 Tell them you don't have time to talk. Phrases like “I would love to chat with you, but now I’m very busy with work”, “today is not the best day to talk, since I have a lot to do” and “unfortunately, now I cannot give you all my attention” help you get out of the conversation.
   • If you don't want to talk, use the typical excuse: “let's talk another time” or “I'm sorry, but I'm in a hurry; see you!"
   • Be more direct if you are constantly interrupted.

Method 2 of 3: How to end a conversation without delay

1. 1 Respect and protect your own interests. It can be difficult to tell someone to "shut up", even in a polite way, if you are usually nice and friendly. But if someone offends you, behaves aggressively, or even takes too much of your time, you must be able to stand up for yourself.
   • Cutting off a conversation doesn't mean breaking off friendships, so don't be afraid.
   • The constant stream of words from the other person means that he does not respect you and your time, so if you allow him to continue like this, it will only strengthen his position.
2. 2 Insist on your own. Be direct and to the point. Do not ask questions or ask to explain the situation to you in sentimental terms. Don't say, "Do you mind if I keep working?" Say in the affirmative, "I have to work now."
   • Make eye contact and speak clearly. Raise your voice if you want to be heard, but try to contain your feelings and keep your ground
   • Use declarative sentences (for example, "I ...") instead of asking questions or using conditional phrases (for example, "if only you ...").
   • Example: Don't say "well, I'm a little busy right now." Instead, say, “I have a lot to do; I'm sorry, but I don't have time to talk. "
3. 3 Make it clear that the other person has gone too far if they offend you. If the other person is being rude and offending you, tell them that you don’t want to talk about it and wish them a good day.You will make the aggressive person even more angry if you indulge him, so stay above that and find a way to dodge the unpleasant conversation.
   • Example: “That's enough. I'm not going to tolerate such insults. "
   • Ignore any further comments.
   • Understand the difference between talking and being aggressive and ask for help if you are threatened.
4. 4 Make it clear that the conversation is over. If the other person keeps talking, let him know you need to go and walk away. Be polite but confident, and don't hesitate if the person you're talking to “has something to say in the end”. You did your best to end the conversation peacefully, so don't feel guilty if the other person doesn't value your time.
   • Example: "I was glad to talk to you, but now I have to go."

Method 3 of 3: How to end a conversation with someone you see often

1. 1 Listen to the other person for a reasonable amount of time. Listen carefully to the interlocutor to understand not only what he is talking about, but also why he is talking so much. While some people talk a lot because of their pride or an aggressive attitude, there are some individuals who do it because they are nervous, want to get to know each other, or to vent. You will be able to gently end the conversation if you understand the reasons for the interlocutor's verbosity.
   • Ignoring people, getting into a conflict or pretending to be interested will only prolong the unpleasant conversation. It is best to remain polite but speak openly.
2. 2 Set time boundaries for the conversation. If you know about the excessive talkativeness of the interlocutor, and you often have to extricate yourself from a prolonged conversation, make it clear in advance that you have very little time.
   • Example: "Glad to see you, but I can't talk to you for a long time."
3. 3 Learn to interrupt a conversation with a colleague. While working, you have every chance to enjoy peace and quiet. Saying that “the deadline is coming,” that you’re trying to “concentrate on work,” or that you “don’t want to talk about it in the office,” saves you having to have a long and unpleasant conversation with the employee.
   • Talk to your HR manager or manager if your employee has a habit of annoying you with conversations.
   • Example: "Nice to see you, but I only have 5 minutes!"
   • Example: "I have to take the children, so I have to run."
4. 4 Learn to interrupt a conversation with a friend or loved one. If you spend most of your time with the same person, you probably want to be alone sometimes. Most likely, your loved ones also need to be alone from time to time. Find an activity that requires silence, such as reading, watching movies, or meditating.
   • "I need time to relax and think, so let's talk in an hour." Spending time alone will help you both focus on the really important things and then talk them over together.
   • Example: “Today has been such a tiring day! I would like a little peace and quiet. "
5. 5 Learn to avoid unnecessary conversations with your parents. We all love our parents, but sometimes they drive us crazy, talking incessantly. While you should always treat your parents with respect, there are several ways to avoid endless conversations without provoking family drama. Tell your parents to write them a letter or e-mail and invite them to do the same - this will give you time to resolve personal issues.
   • Usually, parents want to know all the details of the misfortunes that befell their children, so talk about your problems and troubles as little as possible.
   • Don't be a stone wall - tell us the details! If you are too quiet, your parents will try to find out the reasons for this.
   • Chat with your parents as often as possible.This may seem counterproductive to you, but talking to your parents regularly can help you avoid lengthy conversations, such as if you were talking to them once a month or once a year.
   • Example: “I was very happy to talk to you, Mom, but I have to run. I call you!"
6. 6 Learn to end the conversation with the abuser. Getting the abuser to leave you alone is tricky, but silencing him or her is easier than you think. Laugh at his insults addressed to you, ignore the offender and suppress the urge to scream.
   • Being shy or sarcastic will knock the ground out from under his feet. "Would your mother approve of your words?" “Someone seems to have seen enough of adult films” or “What a shame, someone must have hurt you when you were little” are all sarcastic phrases that help you deal with hostility from the abuser.

Tips

• While it may seem like saying “shut up” is enough, being rude can turn against you and further escalate the tension.
• Disguising an aggressive attitude behind a calm demeanor will make the other person want to disturb you and start talking even more.
• Try not to fall for the bait of the famous "talkers".
• Don't be rude to your interlocutor. Be polite and honest, but stay true to your principles.

Warnings

• If your friend has a habit of sharing his thoughts without any restrictions or respect for you, tell someone who can protect you about it. Don't let such people emotionally manipulate you by making you listen to their endless chatter.