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• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

If your parents are overly caring and don't want you to date an older guy, here are some ways to talk to them.

Steps

1. 1 Do good things, get good grades, and always try to act responsibly.
2. 2 When your parents start to pamper you and tell you you deserve a reward, give up the praise. Just say that you are doing all of this because you feel you have to, not for any reward. Your parents will start to trust you and look at you as an adult.
3. 3 After a while, when you've already built a reputation and built a little trust, just say in the sweetest voice you can: “I just remembered: several of my girlfriends are going for a walk, and they invited me. But they will all come with their boyfriends, so I want to ask if I can take a boyfriend with me? "
4. 4 When they start asking questions, say: “I have known this guy for a long time and he is like a friend to me. He is very kind and knows how to treat a girl, so I don't have to worry about anything. He is very good, but he is (indicate age, how old he is). I know he's older, but my friends will be with us, so I'll be safe. He is very responsible and honest, so I trust him and invited him to take a walk with my friends. "
5. 5 If they say yes, don't say YES!! " and don't pretend that you are really happy. Behave like an adult. Just say thank you and ask if you can be of any help.
6. 6 If someone says no to you, don't say NO!! " and do not whine plaintively. Just try to negotiate with them in the coming days.
7. 7 If that doesn't work, just say: “Mom / Dad, please, I behaved well. I just want to do one thing, and I'll be very happy if I succeed. Mom / Dad, please. "
8. 8 Make sure you follow all the rules - you know when to come home and how to behave. When your parents see that you are behaving responsibly with this guy, they will allow you to date him further.
9. 9 When talking to a guy on the phone, make sure your parents only hear good things - they will have a good impression of the guy.
10. 10 Have the guy meet your parents. He must communicate in an acceptable tone and be courteous. Good luck!

Tips

• Wait a few weeks after the event to maintain their confidence.
• Always ask permission 1 or 2 weeks in advance (whichever you think your parents will answer) goodbye, just in case your parents say no.
• If they say yes earlier than you expected, always continue to be good. If you change in the wrong direction, your parents may cancel the date.You will not be able to go to the meeting, and the guy will think that you fooled him.
• If you are worried that your parents will say no, don't lie and say that you are just going to meet your girlfriends. They will appreciate more when you tell the truth. In addition, if they are among those parents who like to ask a lot of questions, then they will quite easily guess that your story is not true.
• Never ask permission the next day or an hour after being denied, because then you will look desperate.
• Whenever you say good things to your parents to cheer them up, tell them as many pleasant things as possible and try to say what they usually expect from you, but know that you rarely do it. This will make them more excited and happy.
• Always be calm.
• It's always easier to focus on one parent and ask for what you want to do.
• After leaving the door, walk calmly and never run. This way, your parents will not think that you are going to do something bad.
• Always ask your parents for permission, even if they don't mind you hanging out with other guys and friends, they usually don't ask you a lot of questions, don't scold you, and don't say, "Go ask your mom (dad)."

Warnings

• Call your parents to let them know that you are safe and that nothing bad is happening to you.
• Whenever you ask for something, do not say “so ...” or “can I ...” right after the praise, because they will get the impression that you have planned this all in advance and will be suspicious. This is not good for you!
• You should know a guy who is older than you very well before you even think about dating him. Pedophiles are NOT a myth.
• Make sure that when you say something nice to your parents, you have evidence to back it up, just in case.
• If your parents say no, keep in mind that it is because they are trying to follow your interests, not because they do not want you to feel good.