Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: Overcome shyness
• Part 2 of 3: Get Involved in Activities
• Part 3 of 3: Watch Your Look
• Tips

Meeting new people at school is a very difficult process, especially if everyone is a member of a group. This is especially difficult for shy people and beginners.When you are a high school student, it is very important to try to make friends and have new experiences. This article will discuss how to become more outgoing in high school.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Overcome shyness

1. 1 Accept the fact that you are not perfect. Everyone can make mistakes.
   • Don't worry so much about saying the wrong thing.
   • Stop expecting perfect results from yourself all at once.
   • Allow yourself to be spontaneous.
2. 2 Stop saying no. Continuously declining invitations to social events can ultimately interfere with your social life.
   • If you are invited to join any event, say your firm "Yes!"
   • Don't be afraid to try new things. You won't get anywhere if you avoid new experiences and people because of your anxiety.
   • Social experiences are also very rewarding. The larger it is, the easier it will be for you to communicate with other people.
3. 3 Make eye contact. If you avoid eye contact, you may simply not be noticed or remembered.
   • Look at people with friendliness. This will make them more likely to start a conversation with you.
   • Eye contact makes other people feel comfortable with you.
   • Looking at your interlocutor's face will help you appreciate their feelings and emotions, moreover, it will give you confidence in the conversation.

Part 2 of 3: Get Involved in Activities

1. 1 Decide on your interests and strengths. Most schools have many clubs or groups to suit almost all tastes.
   • Are you interested in art? Music?
   • Do you like to play some kind of sports games?
   • What about theater or dance?
   • Are you strong in math or any other science?
2. 2 Talk to consultants. Their job is to help you find exactly what you like.
   • They have a full list of school clubs and activities.
   • They can help you align your interests and talents with the electives available at the school.
   • Your advisor will help you get in touch with sports coaches or club leaders.
   • They can also give you tips on how to be more socially confident.
3. 3 Join the club or section of your choice. You will see how many people share your interests.
   • Try to spend less time alone and more time in your chosen club, this will increase your social activity.
   • Don't be afraid of being thought of as a nerd. In your club or group, you will find people with similar interests and tastes.
   • Working on group projects can help you showcase your talents and make new friends.
   • Try to communicate with people from the club not only at school, but also go with them to coffee or to the movies.
4. 4 Participate in sports. In sports teams, friendships are often very strong.
   • Joining a sports team can help you find other kids who love the same activity.
   • Oftentimes, sports teams organize socially significant events for their players.
   • Exercising can help you build confidence.
   • If you are part of a team, then you will gain a lot of social skills, as you must learn how to work as a team in order to win a match or a championship.
   • Children who play sports often build strong friendships.
5. 5 Join volunteer activities. Many schools or churches support charity movements.
   • Through volunteer programs, you can meet many interesting people.
   • Volunteering to help the Red Cross or similar organizations can help you find other children with similar interests and goals.
   • By helping people, you can increase your self-esteem.
   • This broadening of horizons creates interesting experiences that can be shared with others.
6. 6 Use social media. Sites like Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest can help you get more involved in communities and groups.
   • There are many pages, groups and events on Facebook, so finding the right community or activity should be easy for you.
   • This way, you will be able to find youth groups, campaigns and social events that take place outside of the school.
   • This will also allow you to find clubs and other educational activities in your city.
   • You may find that people you already know have similar interests on social media. This will help you break the ice when you talk to them.

Part 3 of 3: Watch Your Look

1. 1 Boost your self-confidence. Take pride in your appearance, or make minor adjustments to your appearance to feel more confident.
   • You don't have to change your appearance to make friends.
   • If making small changes makes you feel more confident, then resort to it.
   • You can choose new bows and clothes that suit your own unique personality. You don't have to wear what everyone is wearing!
2. 2 Do not forget about basic self-care. Hygiene is always important.
   • Other children will prefer clean and nicely dressed friends.
   • Use deodorant daily.
   • Remember to brush your teeth regularly.
   • Take a daily shower or bath and keep your hair clean.
   • Guys have to keep an eye out for facial hair. If there is a beard, then it should not be patchy or unkempt.
   • Do not forget to pluck your eyebrows in time and remove excess hair from your face.
   • Make sure your nails always look clean and filed.
3. 3 Take care of your skin. During adolescence, children often experience acne.
   • Wash your face daily with a mild face cleanser.
   • If you have pimples, in no case should you squeeze them out. This can provoke the appearance of new and the formation of scars.
   • Try an over-the-counter topical acne treatment.
   • If your acne is getting worse and uncomfortable, see your doctor or dermatologist.
4. 4 Dress nicely. Your clothing must be clean and presentable.
   • Make sure your clothes are not stained.
   • Keep your clothes fresh and ironed.
   • Don't wear the same thing for two days in a row.
   • Make sure your clothes really fit you. Don't wear baggy or tight-fitting items.
   • Don't wear light-colored socks with dark shoes and vice versa, and try not to wear socks with sandals.
5. 5 Paint. Makeup doesn't have to be aggressive - just highlight the merits and hide the flaws. A change in appearance does not mean a change in personality.
   • Change your hairstyle. Choose the one that best suits your face type and personal preference.
   • Consider switching from glasses to contact lenses. If you still need to wear glasses, choose a frame that suits your face and clothing style.
   • If you have dull or uneven teeth, consider whitening or straightening. Of course, this pleasure is expensive and not available to everyone, but it can help you change your appearance.
6. 6 Keep yourself in shape. To be healthy and keep your body fit, you must exercise.
   • Get off the couch, put on your tracksuit, and go for a walk or run.
   • Exercise is the path to a healthier appearance.
   • Exercising regularly will give you more confidence.
   • You don't have to lose weight to be liked by people! However, physical activity is also social activity that makes it possible to make new friends.

Tips

• Try to be confident in yourself. This may seem like a daunting task, but over time, you will develop this trait in yourself.
• Don't pretend to be someone else. Each person has unique talents and ideas that can bring a lot of fun at social gatherings.
• Don't hang out with people who humiliate you.
• If you are still having problems, talk to your counselor or psychotherapist.