Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 2: How to get your parents back
• Part 2 of 2: How to ask for a reduction in punishment
• Tips

If you are not allowed to leave the house, watch TV, or if you are punished in some other way for a long time, you can try to get rid of the punishment early. Parents and guardians sometimes regret overly harsh emotional responses and can be persuaded to mitigate their sentences. Even if it hurts your pride, the most effective strategy is to please your parents and show them that you can follow their rules.

Steps

Part 1 of 2: How to get your parents back

1. 1 Volunteer to help around the house. Prove that you really want to help your parent or guardian, and they can stop being so angry with you and become less strict. Do the dishes, take out the trash, or clean up after your little brother or sister.
2. 2 Don't break the rules of punishment. If you are serious about getting rid of punishment early, follow the restrictions that your parents have placed on you. If they find that you have disobeyed them, they may even increase your sentence.
3. 3 Be nice to everyone, not just your parents. When deciding whether to renew their sentence, they may begin to observe how you behave with your siblings, older relatives, and family friends. Be kind to them and make an effort to speak in a polite manner with their friends.
4. 4 Spend time with your parents. If you are forbidden in your room and sulk gloomily there, you will annoy them even more. One of the most compelling ways to prove to them that you are trying to be better is to volunteer to participate in a family celebration or event, such as visiting relatives or going out to a cafe. If you are too angry with your parents and find it difficult to be polite to them, try something you don't need to talk too much about, like watching a movie together.
5. 5 Wait a bit before asking for a penalty reduction. Your parents are likely to know that you are behaving well enough to get rid of the punishment. The longer you stick to this line of behavior (preferably a few days or even longer if the period is long), the more chances you have to convince them that you deserve leniency.

Part 2 of 2: How to ask for a reduction in punishment

1. 1 Try to talk to only one parent or guardian at first. You may find it easier to talk to one person at a time. This is especially important if one of them is stricter or more angry with you than the other.
2. 2 Find the right time to talk. Ask a parent if he / she is busy before starting a conversation. Make it clear that you want to talk about punishment before asking about anything. If he / she seems annoyed or upset, ask if it would be a better time to talk.
3. 3 Ask for forgiveness. It can hurt your pride, especially if you think you did nothing wrong. However, your parents think so and probably won't change their minds about punishment until you agree with them.
4. 4 Don't make excuses. When asking for forgiveness, do not try to shift the blame onto someone else, or even part of the blame. You can briefly explain what happened, but it is best to only talk about your own actions.
5. 5 Use "I" statements to describe how punishment affects you. Talk about your feelings and avoid using the words you / you, which might sound like you are accusing them of something. For example: "I go for a walk when I need to relax and feel depressed that I am not allowed to leave the house" or "I know that I did a wrong thing, but I am not sure what this punishment will give me. an opportunity to show that I can behave better. "
6. 6 Ask for a chance to gradually earn your old privileges. This works best for long-term punishments like house arrest. For example, ask permission to leave the house, but on the condition that you return earlier than before. If you show that you can comply with these conditions, parents may want to continue to reduce or remove the punishment altogether earlier than planned.
   • Some parenting experts recommend that parents follow this strategy (in English: use an online translator). However, be careful not to tell your parents about it.They may not appreciate the fact that their child will tell them how to raise him properly.
7. 7 Suggest an alternative punishment. Your parents can allow you to change your current punishment for something else. Depending on the situation, you can ask to do more chores around the house, not watch TV or use a computer for a certain amount of time, or agree to a tutor in some subject.
   • Your parents probably know the kind of punishment you can handle with ease. Offer a serious alternative, but one that limits you in some other way.
8. 8 If all else fails, try again in a few days. Hear what your parents have to say. If they disagree with your suggestions, just end the conversation as politely as you can. If you start to argue or swear, most likely, only increase the term and strength of the existing punishment, and not vice versa. In the case of long-term punishments, you can try again after a couple of days when the emotions subside.

Tips

• Behave as well as you can, for some time after the early cancellation of the punishment. Your parents can follow you to make sure they are making the right decision.
• Roaring too dramatically or criticizing yourself too harshly will only cause your parents to lose their temper. Avoid statements like, "I'm a terrible person, I deserve this, I hate myself."