Content

• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

Declaring your bisexuality openly is a difficult but important step. You are ready to explain who or what you really are, but you can worry about how others will perceive it. Some people only want to be attracted to members of one gender, which complicates things further. Fortunately, you are not alone - thousands of people have done this before and can share a couple of tips with you.

Steps

1. 1 Stay confident. If you show insecurity about your orientation, people may think that bisexuality is just a temporary stage in your life and that you are not really sure who you really are. If you beat around the bush, people will think that you are ashamed, and this may lead your loved ones to the idea that you cannot decide and that you need their help. But no one can change if doesn't want this. If you are completely confident in your orientation, it will be easier for people to accept it.
2. 2 Think about who you want to tell first. It is usually easiest to tell someone you are confident in and who will support you - for example, a close friend or girlfriend. The support of such a person will relieve you of uncertainty and help you more easily perceive the need to tell others about it.
3. 3 Decide if you should tell your parents about it now. If you are completely dependent on your parents and are not sure that they will take your news well, put it off until you become more independent.
4. 4 Remember that not all people have a clear understanding of what it means to be bisexual. Some may think that you just want to attract attention to yourself, others that you are homosexual, but refuse to admit it. For all statements, answer that you are attracted to the person's personality, and not his gender. Do not allow ambiguity in interpreting who or what you are, what you want to say and why you are explaining it.
5. 5 Don't be nervous and be rational. Be confident in what you say and explain that this is just a part of you and that being in harmony with yourself brings you joy.
6. 6 Be proud of who you are. You shouldn't be ashamed of your sexual orientation - this is just one small part of what makes up your personality.

Tips

• If people are making inappropriate statements, don't let them embarrass or upset you. Ask why they think so, and explain that you value their opinion, but that you are completely comfortable with being who you are. People who are capable of boorish comments often speak without thinking.
• In a circle of friends, try to present your bisexuality as something that is not worth paying much attention to. Some people are helped by jokes about themselves and their peculiarities. However, do not get carried away with humor, because your friends may think that you are telling this for fun.Maintain some seriousness - this will help you explain to your friends that this is not a weak point, and it really will be.
• Try to draw as little attention as possible to this feature of your personality. If you treat your bisexuality as normal and ordinary, those around you will have less reason to return to this topic. Be open about your sexual orientation.
• Don't emphasize that you are not homosexual. It only heightens the feeling that you are hiding something. Better say that now that you have realized your bisexuality, you feel much better and more confident in yourself; that you do not know with whom you will have a serious relationship, but whoever this person is, you are glad that you understand yourself well and that you are open to everything.
• Don't worry if you realize that you misunderstood your past orientation. If you have declared your homosexuality before, you can say that you now know that you are attracted to people of both sexes. It will help people understand why you are talking about your orientation. again.
• Smile. This will build your self-confidence and avoid unnecessary tension. Thanks to this, your friends will believe that there is nothing strange or wrong in your personality, and will treat you as before.
• Take a couple of deep breaths and speak clearly and without hesitation. It's better than mumbling and trying to hush up the conversation. Look at it the other way around: is it really a problem that you have heterosexual friends?
• If you can joke, do so! This will make it easier for your friends to accept your news and be able to fully accept it.
• If someone mentions your sexual orientation in conversation, react calmly and without aggression. Otherwise, people will think that you are ashamed of yourself.
• In conversations, present bisexuality as just one of the everyday facts of your biography. You can use phrases like this: "I will express my opinion from the perspective of a 32-year-old bisexual man. I believe that ..." This will divert attention from your orientation and turn the conversation to another topic.

Warnings

• Some of your friends may get scared and think that you view them as a sexual object. Explain that friends are friends, and that just because you are attracted to people of the same sex does not mean that you are attracted to everyone of that gender, just as heterosexuality does not imply sympathy for everyone of the opposite sex.
• Not all people will be willing to accept your orientation. There will be those who will treat you with prejudice, but do not let them stop you in your intentions. What others think matters much less than your own feelings and thoughts.