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• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings
• What do you need

The "Elegant Aristocrat" is a rare category of Goths.You won't find studded collars, professional makeup, or thick makeup. "Elegant" Goths are not always recognized as a Goth, but they are always noticed and singled out for being unique. If this is exactly the look you are striving for, then this article is for you.

Steps

1. 1 Choose any color for your clothes. Stick to more dull and neutral colors. Leave light-colored items for special occasions. Black is optional.

1. 1 Make sure you are dressed well.
   • For Men: It is best to wear high quality white shirts with buttons. Vests, sleeveless jackets, classic blazers and trench coats are also great accessories and add a stylish touch.
   • For women: skirts and dresses. They can be flowing in the Baroque style or unpretentious and uniform. Knee-length pants go with golf (white) and elegant shoes or knee-high boots. Everything elegant will do its job - the most important thing is not to overdo it. Color matching is also very important as you certainly won't be stylish by pairing a crimson trench coat with a green skirt.
   • Try to use elegant, high-quality materials in your wardrobe, such as satin, silk, velvet, taffeta, and Venetian lace are all very pretty. If your budget is tight, try to find clothes that have eye-catching colors, floral prints, etc. You cannot look stylish in extremely low quality clothing.
2. 2 Speak calmly, this is a sign of politeness. If you speak very loudly, it will seem like you are desperately fighting for attention. Being noisy in public places will not only make you unpleasant, but also indelicate towards the people around you. A calm tone will ensure that you have a special point of view and the tact to remain polite even when arguing with people.
   • A noble person listens more than speaks.
   • Always make eye contact, but don't stare.
3. 3 Choose your words. Good vocabulary is very important, but do not use expressions if you are not sure what they mean. Try to speak clearly.
   • More importantly, don't correct others if they make grammatical mistakes. Differences in knowledge, family life, and education cause people to speak differently, and they often use slang for effect. Moreover, it is annoying and degrading when you are corrected by a know-it-all.
4. 4 Be independent. You need to be courteous, but not bend over to please others. If you do this, you can have an advantage in the future. Limit time and availability and draw boundaries with others so that they know your limits.
5. 5 Apply simple makeup. Don't use corpse makeup or make your face completely white.
   • A little white or very light powder, scarlet lipstick and a little eyeliner will complete the look, making it more elegant.
6. 6 Remember hygiene. Remember to always be neat: comb, keep your nails clean and tidy, brush your teeth and take a bath / shower. Try to use perfume in moderation, as an excess of them is not at all attractive and does not give more freshness to your body, despite popular belief. Being neat is important; to be sloppy and not elegant and unpleasant.
   • Hair should never be oily. This is vulgar and very bad.
   • Take care of your skin. You need to look after her and hide flaws. Wash your face every day and remember to wear sunscreen or a hat. Try a face mask once a week.
7. 7 Listen to classical, Gregorian and / or operatic music, and of course gothic rock.
8. 8 Decorate your room with black lace curtains and numerous white candles. Make sure the candles are white, not black, so that they stay in line with the "elegant" goth style.
9. 9 Make a small circle of friends, which would include both the Goths and those who have interests not related to the Gothic, but, nevertheless, they should be noble people.
   • Enjoy gentle, graceful laughter and good humor; no need to be loud and obnoxious. Avoid bad manners or rude language that detract from elegance and class.
   • When meeting friends or at social gatherings, you can try doing something great, but not overly formal. An idea for this could be a picnic or afternoon tea.
10. 10 If you can afford it, then visit the theater from time to time. Classical music concerts, operas, ballets, classical pieces and costume performances are all great options. Make sure you mention it to someone by accident afterwards, but don't mess it up (to impress?), Just act casually as if you're not particularly interested in it.
11. 11 Look for wisdom. It may be very difficult for you to heed the advice of more experienced people, but this is sometimes a necessary step. Regardless of your age or ability, learn from the mistakes and victories of those older or more experienced than you. It will do you good and you will be able to share wisdom or give advice.
12. 12 Be responsible. Noble people leave their environment in a state at least the same as it was before them. With the exception of restaurants that have staff whose job it is to clean up, elegant people insist on taking care of their own trash and luggage without expecting others to do so.
    • When others provide assistance, arrogant or depraved individuals feel that it is only to expect and ignore the help of others, truly noble people quickly notice this and express gratitude and appreciation.
    • When meeting friends or at social gatherings, you can try doing something great, but not overly formal. An idea for this could be a picnic or afternoon tea.
13. 13 Speak as little as possible and do it calmly and clearly. Do not Cry. This will ensure that you have dissenting opinion and tact: Be polite, even when arguing with people.
14. 14 Develop intelligence. Read, discuss philosophical and theological ideas, and if you are in school, try to get high grades. You can read special magazines to help you develop your intelligence.
    • Practice dancing, fencing, horseback riding (preferably English horses), archery, and the like.
    • Express yourself in art, prose, poetry or music and learn a dead language (Latin is best).
15. 15 Eat healthy foods. Burgers and snacks have nothing to do with classics. Do not forget about the rules of conduct at the table.
16. 16 You should know what haute cuisine is. It sounds like a cliché, check out the information on wines and cheeses. Learn how to pronounce words like Béchamel and Beaujolais.
    • Learn the rules of table behavior. Otherwise, you will look silly at dinner.
17. 17 Don't be picky about every little detail. People of this style should be selective- but if you complain about every little thing, you may seem pretentious and annoying. Pick a few points where you are actually selective.
    • For example, most people don't mind wearing Gap clothes because everyone knows they are affordable designer clothes.
    • However, they also do not skimp on footwear, because high-quality footwear is more comfortable for the feet. Be picky about the things that matter.
18. 18 Be reasonably independent, but do not violate your standards for grades and success. If you please someone, you may be manipulated / used by pretenders and stylers.Therefore, limit your time and availability for quirks and unnecessary activities and draw boundaries with unwanted people so that both they and you become aware of your boundaries (i.e., not follow them, lead your own life).

Tips

• Wear a few small but classic pieces. A small magazine, pocket watch or book will add an interesting touch to your look. Wearing a locket with a picture of someone you love will add a romantic aura to you.
• Remember, gossip is not a classic.
• If you feel like you like applying gothic touches to your clothes, try using black lace / roses / silk scarves / jewelry. Do not wear studded collars or bracelets.
• You don't have to be rich to dress like a gothic aristocrat and decorate your home well. Thrift stores are your friends when it comes to finding unique furniture, antique books and elegant clothes, all without a massive price tag.
• Sometimes the little things can add a classic touch to your life. Use vintage shawls instead of fabrics, try to get hold of old elegant copies of classic books, drink your morning tea from a real teacup, and fill your home with black and white or brown photos of friends and family in elegant frames.
• Recommended authors and poets: Goethe, Blake, Poe, Shakespeare, Marlowe, Tennyson, Byron, Anais Nin, Gorey, Wilde, Keats, Chaucer, Moliere, Hawthorne, Dickinson.
• Never think of girls as hot or sexy, just as smart, beautiful, or even adorable. Especially if you are familiar with them.
• Remember, in the style of an elegant gothic aristocrat, how you behave matters more than how much luxurious things you can afford!
• When you change your behavior, you may feel unnatural. If this happens, remind yourself that you are in a developmental stage. An elegant person is simply someone who consistently exhibits appropriate behavior. Focus on your behavior and point of view, not your feelings.
• Decorate your room with black lace curtains and numerous white candles. Make sure the candles are white, not black, so that they stay in line with the "elegant" goth style.

Warnings

• It won't make you cooler or more popular. This will only help you to be elegant, and let everyone know about it.
• If you don't like some of the above, then don't use it. It's not noble to be fake.
• Although they are very similar, do not confuse the elegant Gothic aristocrat's style with the elegant Gothic Lolita.

What do you need

• Money to buy the listed items
• Black lace and white candles
• The clothes mentioned above
• Books and poems