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• Steps
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Everyone has days in life when trouble follows trouble and negative energy accumulates, which we tend to rip off on our friends and loved ones. Repeated over and over again such breakdowns can lead to emotional violence, which causes equal harm to both parties to the conflict, and therefore it is so important to timely suspend these processes at an early stage and prevent an aggravation of the situation. This article provides some guidelines and instructions to help prevent negative development of such a relationship.

Steps

1. 1 Take care of yourself. An unhappy person is more likely to hurt others. A healthy lifestyle and the right balance of work and rest help to improve the psychological climate and reduce the risk of sharp angles in relationships.
2. 2 Determine the causes of stress in your life. The person who is making you nervous may have nothing to do with the real reasons for your irritability. Analyzing the situation and figuring out the true cause of your emotional discomfort is an important step in solving the problem.
3. 3 Talk openly and honestly about your concerns with someone you trust. Verbalizing the problem is an excellent way not only to release the accumulated negative, but also allows you to formulate a real problem for yourself during the conversation, and therefore half-solve it. Try to choose a person for your revelations who has not previously been the object of your attacks. For example, it could be a friend who lives far away from you, or better yet, a counselor or therapist. Try to listen to the advice and judgment of this person and do not try to use him as a dump for your resentment and negative energy.
4. 4 Actively look for a way out of this situation. Try in all possible ways to eliminate the problem until it leads to a breakdown and the following irreversible consequences. Try not to dwell on the problem and avoid flare-ups whenever possible. Talk to friends and family about solutions to your problems. Develop a daily coping strategy for yourself that will help you cope with irritability and increase your resilience to stress.
5. 5 Try to be as conscious and thoughtful as possible in what you do and say. Before you say anything, try to formulate your words in your mind. If you are angry, nervous, or sarcastic, then consider whether you really need to voice this to your opponent at the moment, or if your thought could be rephrased in a more neutral way.
6. 6 Use some of the coping strategies you have developed to help prevent deadlocks. Try to "take root". Remember that the person who makes you feel irritated may actually be just a reason, but not the cause of your irritability.
7. 7 When you have made measurable progress in controlling your emotions and negative behaviors, try to apologize to the person you hurt. It is best to do this in person, but if the person is avoiding you, then a phone call or letter may well be suitable. You can justify your behavior with the problems in your life, but it is imperative to make the person understand that you do not consider this an excuse for your actions. Explain that you are working to cope with the situation and solve these problems.

Tips

• If you really want to get rid of the vicious practice of relieving your tension on others, then it is best to seek help from someone outside of your narrow circle of friends and acquaintances. It is best to find a professional in the field. Sometimes the real problem is hidden so deeply that it can only be told about it to a person who has no personal relationship with you, because we often confess with strangers much more willingly and easier than with people close to us, because we are afraid of their disappointment.
• Emotional abuse does not necessarily have to manifest itself in screaming and outright conflict. Any caustic and biting comment or a casually thrown phrase can often hurt much stronger and more painful than an openly aggressive statement. Sometimes close friends allow themselves to poke fun at each other in this borderline manner on the verge of a foul, but this is normal and usually does not lead to conflicts, since both sides are friendly. However, when such jokes are constantly aimed at the same person, then they can take on forms of emotional violence, causing both sides a lot of trouble and taking them out of the bounds of what is acceptable.So always try to consider the other person's feelings and put yourself in their shoes before making a derogatory comment, even if you're just joking.