Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 4: Practice Good Communication Manners
• Method 2 of 4: Show Respect for Others
• Method 3 of 4: Learn how to behave at the table
• Method 4 of 4: Be Polite on the Internet
• Tips
• Warnings

Good manners reflect a person's ability to behave respectfully towards other people and to observe the rules of decency in society. By following social etiquette, you can develop good relationships with those around you and become more desirable conversationalists and companions. When at a table with other people, be sure to practice good manners to show respect for those present. In addition, observe etiquette on the Internet so as not to inadvertently offend or overload other people with information.

Steps

Method 1 of 4: Practice Good Communication Manners

1. 1 Use please and thank you when asking for something. Whenever you make a request or ask a person with a request, start with the word "please." So it will not seem as if you are asking for something. Once the person fulfills your request, express your gratitude to him by saying, "Thank you."
   • For example: "Could you give me this book?" As soon as you get the book, say, "Thank you."
   • Give thanks even for small things, such as when someone calls your office or takes an order from you at a restaurant.
   • If they thank you, be polite by saying, "Please."
2. 2 Introduce yourself by name when you first meet a person. If at an event you meet someone you've never seen before, introduce yourself by name and ask his or her name. When the other person says their name, repeat it to make it more likely to be remembered. Shake the person's hand firmly (but not firmly enough to hurt them).
   • For example, you might say, “Hi, my name is Anton. And you?"
   • Different cultures and countries have their own greeting rules, so be sure to check local etiquette.
   • If, while in the company of one person, you meet another acquaintance, introduce these people to each other if they have not met before. For example, you might say, “Hello! Anton, get acquainted - this is Alina. Alina, this is Anton. "
3. 3 Listen other people without interrupting. When the other person starts talking, make eye contact with them and listen carefully to follow the flow of the conversation. Do not try to shout down or interrupt him as this will look rude. As soon as the person finishes speaking, react to his words so that he knows that you were listening to him.
   • If you and the other person start talking at the same time, stop and ask him to continue to show that you are not indifferent to his words.
4. 4 Do not use obscene language. Using inappropriate vocabulary can seem rude, especially when speaking in a public place. Try your best to eliminate swearing from your vocabulary when interacting with other people. Replace bad words or just pause to collect your thoughts and think through your speech.
   • For example, you can use "damn" or "damn" instead of more rude curses.
   • You can also use more descriptive words instead of swearing. For example, instead of "zee * * * b" you can use "awesome".

   Advice: Put a rubber band or elastic strap on your wrist and click it against your skin whenever you catch yourself swearing or about to get out. Thus, you will begin to associate swearing with pain and you will use it less often.

   
   

Method 2 of 4: Show Respect for Others

1. 1 Offer help to others to show kindness and respect. If you see that a person needs help, ask if you can do something for him. If the request is reasonable and if you can easily fulfill it, take the time to help.It can even be something small, like holding a door open or helping to carry a heavy object.
   • For example, you can approach a person and ask: "Can I help you carry bags?"
   • Sometimes you don't need to ask if a person needs help. For example, you can hold the door for someone in the back or make way for a seat on the bus.
2. 2 Respect the privacy of others. People often don't like being touched unexpectedly - it makes them uncomfortable. Watch how close you are standing or sitting next to those around you, and observe their faces and body language to determine their attitude to that distance. If the person seems uncomfortable with your closeness, pull back a little and apologize.
   • If you happen to run into a person, say something like, "Sorry, I'm sorry."
3. 3 Congratulate people for their accomplishments to support them. This will show that you respect them and know how to recognize other people's successes. If one of your friends wins or gets promoted, say, "Congratulations!" - or: "Great!" This will demonstrate that you care about him.
   • Do not credit someone else's success with your own merit. For example, if a person wins a game of chess against you, don't say, "It's just because I made some bad moves." Better say, “You did a great job. You had a very good strategy. "
4. 4 Write thank you notes in response to gifts. In addition to personal gratitude, send the person a thank you note within a few days after they gave you a gift or did something special for you. In a note, tell them how much you appreciate his act and how he influenced you. At the end, before signing, write "Best wishes" or "Sincerely appreciated."
   • For example, you can write: “Dear Alina, thank you for the diary that you gave me for my birthday. Can't wait to start driving and carrying it around every day. I really appreciate this gift! Best wishes, Anton. "

Method 3 of 4: Learn how to behave at the table

1. 1 Do not place your phone or tablet on the table when eating with other people, as this will distract you from your communication. Set your phone to silent or vibrate and keep it in your pocket or bag while you eat. Do not return calls unless absolutely necessary.
   • If you need to answer a message or phone call, first apologize and leave the desk by saying something like, “Sorry, I need to answer. I'll be right back".
2. 2 Do not start eating until all meals are served. Do not start your meal as soon as you sit down at the table, as it will look rude if people do not have food yet. Instead, wait patiently in your seat until everyone is served before taking the first bite. This way you can all enjoy your meal at the same time.
   • This rule applies both at home and in a restaurant.
3. 3 Learn to hold your cutlery properly. Hold your fork and knife as if you were holding a pencil, rather than clenching them in your fist. If you need to cut something, hold the knife in your right hand and the fork in your left. Once you have cut the food, you can either leave the fork in your left hand or lower the knife and move the fork to your right hand.
   • Be sure to use the appropriate cutlery for the different dishes. If there are several knives and forks on the table, first use the extreme ones, gradually moving towards the plate.
4. 4 Do not chew with your mouth open. Generally, chewing with your mouth open or talking while eating is considered rude because no one wants to see food in your mouth. Take small bites and chew them completely with your mouth closed before swallowing or speaking. If someone asks you while you are eating, first swallow the food and then respond.
   • Cut the food into smaller pieces to avoid stuffing your mouth and make it easier for you to chew your food.
5. 5 Ask the other person at the table to give you something. Do not stretch your hand across the table - you can interfere with others, and this behavior is also considered rude. Talk to the person who is closest to the item you want on the table and ask them to pass it to you. Be sure to thank the person afterward to be kind.
   • For example, you might say, "Julia, could you give me the oil, please?"
   • If there is no room on the table in front of you to place an item, ask the person if they can put it back. For example: “Could you put the bowl back? Thanks".
6. 6 Do not put your elbows on the table while eating. You can keep your elbows on the table before and after meals, as well as between meal changes during a conversation. After you have eaten your meal, keep your palms on your lap when not in use, so as not to rest your elbows or forearms on the edge of the table.

   Advice: different cultures have their own rules about whether to keep your elbows on the table or not. Research local customs to be sure what is considered acceptable.

   
   
7. 7 Cover your mouth if you need to remove food stuck in your teeth. If you have something stuck between your teeth, cover your mouth with a tissue or hand to hide it from others. Try to discreetly remove the stuck food so as not to draw attention to yourself. Once you have removed the food stuck between your teeth, place it on the edge of a plate or wrap it in a napkin.
   • If you can't get the food stuck between your teeth out in a few seconds, apologize and leave the table to go to the bathroom.
8. 8 Apologize if you need to leave the table. If at some point during a meal you need to go to the toilet, check your phone, or leave, then apologize before you get up to notify those present that you need to leave. It is not necessary to explain the reason for leaving, provided that you come back and sit down at the table again.
   • For example, you can get up from the table and say, "Sorry, I'll be right back."

Method 4 of 4: Be Polite on the Internet

1. 1 Don't post negative or offensive things on social media. Before you post anything on the Internet, think for a couple of minutes if you would like to tell the person in person. If this is not something you would really like to share, do not post it on your profile, as it may seem unpleasant or offensive to other people who will see your post.
   • Try writing angry or negative messages in a different document than on social media. That way you can come back to it later and determine if it's really what you should publish.
   • Talk directly to people, rather than posting angry or offensive posts or statuses about them. This way you can solve the problem privately, rather than expose it to the public.

   Advice: When applying for a job and at a university, employees of the relevant institutions look at the accounts of potential employees and students on social networks, so do not post anything that may influence their decisions.

   
   
2. 2 Do not post or tag other people on them without their consent. You may find it funny to post an unflattering photo of a friend and tag him on it, however, if such an image appears in his feed, it may hurt his feelings. Before sharing anything, talk to the person directly - make sure they don't mind. Send him the photo you want to post so he knows what to expect. If he asks you not to post a photo, respect his decision and don't post it.
   • Typically, photos with a tag appear prominently on your social media account.This way, other people will be able to see the image and judge the person you mark on it.
   • Consider whether you would like a friend to post a picture of you in a similar situation. If not, chances are your friend won't want you to do this either.
3. 3 Do not divulge excess personal information on your social media accounts. Excessive frankness can be posts with personal information or simply posting a huge number of posts throughout the day. Before you post anything, consider whether you would like the information you share on the Internet to become publicly available.
   • On some social networks, for example on Twitter, it is more acceptable to post several times a day, but on VK or Facebook it is better not to do this.
   • Never post personal information on the Internet, such as addresses, phone numbers or passwords, as this could lead to being tricked or hacked into your profile.
4. 4 Make posts in lowercase, not uppercase. The use of capital letters implies a heart-rending scream. When writing a post, use uppercase letters only when you start a sentence, write a proper name or shorten a phrase. This way, your posts will be read in a normal tone.
   • For example, the option: "PLEASE READ MY NEW POST!" - reads much more aggressively than: "Please read my new post!"
5. 5 Don't send people unsolicited messages or photos. It is easy to succumb to the temptation and send a message or photo to a stranger, but you should not do this - the person will certainly be unpleasant to contemplate content that is unacceptable and unwanted for him. Use the same social norms as in real life to avoid sounding rude. If you don't know the person, introduce yourself and wait for a response. If he doesn't answer, don't inundate him with other messages, as he probably just doesn't want to chat.
   • If you yourself do not want to receive unsolicited messages, make the appropriate changes to your social media settings to limit the circle of those who can send you anything.

Tips

• Treat other people the way you want them to treat you - always be nice and friendly.
• Check out etiquette guides or books for more information on how to behave properly in various social situations.

Warnings

• Manners and etiquette vary from country to country, so always be sure to check what is rude or acceptable in your area.
• Never post personal information online.