Content

• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

Do you think you are too intrusive? Perhaps someone told you this or you yourself think so ... well, you are not the first and not the last who thinks so ...

Steps

1. 1 Determine if you are really obsessive or making an elephant out of a fly. Perhaps someone remembered this to you out of anger, during a quarrel or in an exacerbated situation; then it may not be true. However, if three or four, some of whom were your friends, mentioned this, it is quite possible that this is true ... and even if it is, then it is not so bad.
   • Many people have different understandings of what is the essence of "obsession" and the first thing you need to understand is the meaning of this word. There are certain boundaries; if you constantly call a certain person and feel the need to know not only what he is doing, but also what he is thinking, then this is most likely overkill and he will not thank you for it. On the other hand, if you are concerned that you have not been contacted for a week and decide to call, this is not an obsession.
2. 2 Understand that there are many things that lead to obsession in a person, but the main and common feeling is the feeling of insecurity. People who are insecure or uncomfortable with themselves tend to question their relationships with people in social situations. If you are worried that you are too annoying, step back for a couple of minutes and assess yourself and the situation. Look around ... find a pen and paper and write a list of what you are not comfortable with. Pick five basic things (don't pay attention to what is not in the top five, without putting them there, you yourself defined them as unnecessary). Now, if this top five contains any of the above views, personality traits, or your past ... ignore them. All of these points make you unique. No matter how terrible things are from your point of view, people who care about you will react normally and support you, help you, or even not notice it.
3. 3 Trust me, once you gain confidence in yourself, you will become a more attractive person. People will want to be in your company and capture your positive attitude, especially if you add a smile and a little humor. You don't have to chase relationships with your friends or lover, and if they want to communicate with you, they will.
4. 4 The primary way to "avoid becoming obsessive" is to find a common language with yourself. Secondly, don't get obsessed or get hung up on one topic, friendship or relationship.If you need help, people who love you will be there to help you. There is a bit of danger in becoming the "boy who cries wolf"; if you constantly cry and forgive people to help, they will eventually get tired ... however, if you help yourself and become more self-confident, people will be more willing to help you and take a step towards meeting when you really need help.

Tips

• Obviously; do not call people all the time, do not worry about what they are doing or what they think. More often than not, what happens to people or what they think about happens so quickly that they may not attach importance to it, and you will start to exaggerate.
• Let people come to you. If people want to communicate with you, they will. Take care of your personal affairs - work, study, hobbies, ... if you set a goal for yourself and succeed in one of these endeavors, you will raise your self-esteem.
• Be confident in yourself.
• Love yourself, you are unique, created and shaped by your environment, experience and people in your life ... never resent or complain about it, never assume that the other person will connect all the dots and realize it for you. If you trust someone, you will understand how difficult it is. Be your own best friend.

Warnings

• If you do something annoying, repent of it, it happened because it was a bad idea from the very beginning ... don't dig deeper. Just leave it as it is, turn off your phone, interrupt the topic under discussion and take a breath. There is a chance that everything will end by itself. This is better than continuing to dig in the hope of saving the situation.
• Don't get overconfident.
• Think for yourself ... look at the situation and think if you would feel comfortable if a loved one did this.
• Try not to hang out with those with whom you had a bad breakup.