Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: Fall in love with the present moment
• Part 2 of 3: Use durable physiological solutions
• Part 3 of 3: Use durable psychological solutions
• Tips
• Warnings

Learn to love life as it is one of the most important steps towards a happy and healthy life. It won't take away your hardships or frustrations, but loving life will help you get through difficult times more easily. Go to the recommendations and love your life!

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Fall in love with the present moment

1. 1 Don't think about the results. One of the major changes that needs to be made is simply to stop controlling the outcome of each situation. Understand that only the reaction to the situation is in your hands. The need for control is due to fear, but fear only prevents us from loving life.
   • Think about how the prospect of giving up the need to control the situation scares you. For example, if you are worried that your girlfriend might forget to buy wine for an important event and her forgetfulness could ruin the whole event, consider whether the assumption is true. Will the event really be spoiled? It is possible that the event will be spoiled not by lack of wine, but by your attitude to the situation.
   • For example, if you have entered into a relationship (or are looking for a partner), then it is perfectly normal to plan ahead the desired development of events, but at the same time realize that things will not necessarily turn out exactly as you envisioned.
   • For example, a person has a health problem (any). You don't need to be constantly angry about this situation. Remember that a person cannot control the disease (although he can take actions that can improve or worsen the situation), but he controls his reactions and actions.
2. 2 Be flexible. In this case, flexibility has nothing to do with gymnastics. Be open-minded about different possibilities, which correlates with giving up the need to control the outcome of the situation, since lack of flexibility can result from emotional trauma and physical pain. Be calm about changing plans or unfinished tasks if necessary.
   • A tough attitude and attitude towards life can create resistance that will only interfere with enjoying the present moment.
3. 3 Feel free to be selfish. Caring for others allows you to live and enjoy your life, but do as you see fit, because this is your life and only you can make decisions. Don't let others distract you from your goals.
4. 4 Don't give up your values ​​in happiness and sorrow. Keep a constant gaze in times of success and failure. Consider if you are living your values. If the answer is no, try changing that aspect of your life.
   • Try jotting down phrases that you would love to hear about yourself at your own funeral, or imagine what you would be doing if you didn't have to make money for a living. This will help you understand your values ​​and views.
   • Change your daily routine. The changes don't have to be global, but start doing something differently to eliminate the possibility of automated actions. For example, start commuting to work on a new route, or visit different coffee shops periodically.
5. 5 Face the problems. Everyone faces problems big and small. You shouldn't ignore or shy away from problems so as not to aggravate the situation. It is also not at all necessary to solve all your problems at once. Try to deal with problems as they arise and do not wait for the weather by the sea. This will strengthen your ability to love life as problems stop snowballing.
   • Focus on finding a solution, not the problem itself. For example, if you are having a fight with your roommate, then you don't need to dwell on the situation. Think about what each of you can do to fix the problem.
   • Consider if the problem is really the problem. Often we inflate the elephant out of a fly. For example, if talking on the phone makes you anxious, think about the reasons.Force yourself to find meaning in a situation that at first glance seems meaningless. Doing this will help you ease the anxiety around the imaginary problem.
6. 6 Take breaks. Sometimes you need to take breaks from everything to recuperate and love life. For example, try pampering yourself and just relaxing.
   • Take a warm bath and turn on an audiobook or music to take your mind off your worries.
   • Periodically allow yourself to daydream. Perhaps you commute to school or work every day on public transport. At this time, try to let your imagination run wild and not think about anything else. It is very beneficial for your well-being, overall health, and productivity.
   • Do something enjoyable. Any major or minor activity (be it reading or a trip to the sea) that allows you to take a break from your daily routine will do.

Part 2 of 3: Use durable physiological solutions

1. 1 Laugh. Many people say that laughter is the best medicine, and that laughter actually improves health and mood. Laughter improves circulation and sleep, strengthens the immune system, and also allows relaxation and even lowers blood sugar.
   • In moments of tension, watch your favorite comedies and YouTube videos. Laughter can help you relieve stress.
   • Get together with friends and remember funny moments from the past. Laughing with friends can help you feel supported and build a positive outlook on life.
2. 2 Monitor your health. Health has a significant impact on your emotions and attitudes. It's not easy to love life with a cold or flu. Always monitor your health - and your attitude towards life will certainly change.
   • Exercise releases chemicals in your body that improve mood, fight depression, and promote healthy sleep. Even minor physical activity is beneficial. Walk, run, do yoga or just dance to the music!
   • Drink plenty of water. Water is essential for the health of the body. With dehydration, the work of all internal organs becomes difficult and the state of health worsens. Aim to drink 8 glasses of water a day (drinks high in sugar and caffeine will dehydrate you). The required volume of liquid is about two liters of water daily (excluding tea and soup).
   • Eat a balanced diet. Avoid eating sugar or processed foods as often (sometimes you can!). Choose fruits and vegetables, protein and healthy carbohydrates like brown rice, quinoa, whole grains, and oatmeal.
   • Maintain a healthy sleep schedule. A good night's sleep strengthens the immune system, which is beneficial in fighting depression and illness. The optimal amount of sleep is 8-9 hours each night (if the night's sleep is shorter, try to take a nap during the day).
3. 3 Do pleasant things. Each person has activities that he does not like, and if you only do such things, then it will be difficult for you to love life. Every day you need to find time for your favorite activities. Sometimes it can be little things like a relaxing bath, and sometimes indulge yourself with a good meal or a meeting with friends.
4. 4 Step outside your comfort zone. If you want to love your life, start trying new things and doing things that make you worry. You need to get rid of the fear that fetters and robs you of happiness.
   • Start small, especially if new things make you anxious. Try knitting and cooking in the comfort of your own home. Watch YouTube tutorials and build your skills.
   • The more you try new things and step out of your comfort zone, the easier it will be. If you are fighting your fear of trying new things, practice is essential.
   • Do not punish yourself if you did not dare to take a new step (could not jump with a parachute or go on a trip alone).There are always things that are difficult to decide on, and this is quite normal! Try something else.
5. 5 Sing it. Singing, especially in company, releases hormones (endorphins and oxytocin) in the body that improve mood and reduce stress. Group singing allows you to feel connected with others and perceive yourself as a part of the community. Another support system will bring a sense of security, depression and loneliness.
   • Try to find a choir or group singing class in your city. You can even create your own group. Start getting together with your friends and singing your favorite songs!
   • Singing alone is also beneficial because singing allows you to regulate your breathing in a manner similar to yoga, which helps you relax.
   • You may be thinking, "But I can't sing." You don't have to be an opera diva to enjoy singing. If you are embarrassed to sing in front of others, close your bedroom and sing only for yourself.
6. 6 Help others. Use your time, energy, and resources to help others. Charity work allows you to look at life from the outside and gain a sense of purpose. Philanthropy can also help ease stress or anxiety, and it can also help you bond with others.
   • Offer to help at your local homeless cafeteria or shelter. Make it a goal to volunteer at least once a month (or even once a week). Help people and animals.
   • It is also helpful to help friends and family. Drive your grandfather to the doctor's appointment or help a friend move. Prepare dinner for the whole family (if you rarely cook at home) or have your parents wash the car.

Part 3 of 3: Use durable psychological solutions

1. 1 Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness allows you to feel the present moment and not think about the past or the future. Such thoughts often make it difficult to focus on the love of life and feelings of happiness.
   • Try to consciously perform one action. This could be lunch or homework. Pay attention to the flavor of the food and the texture of the food. Are the potatoes crunching? Is the meat hot? Salty soup? Avoid judgments like “the dish is too hot or too heavy,” as such judgments are based on negative attitudes. Be neutral.
   • Set aside 20 minutes a day for mindful breathing. Try counting as you inhale (for example, you can count to four) and then exhale two counts longer (for example, count to six). Watch the belly rise and fall as you breathe deeply. If thoughts start to wander, just go back to counting. You can also use apps like Insight Timer to help the beginner better understand the process of mindfulness meditation.
   • Take breaks for 5 minutes. During breaks between class or work, try looking out the window rather than checking your phone and email. Pay attention to the view of the street, the weather, the color of the sky. Again, dispense with value judgments in your observations.
2. 2 Express your gratitude. Rejoice in the events that are taking place, value the experience and do not take anything for granted. It will help you love life and feel like a happy person.
   • Keep a gratitude journal and write down everything you are grateful for (shelter and food on the table or good health). Be grateful to people for being kind to you.
   • Notice the little things. Little things make life much easier or more difficult. Focus on a warm jacket on a cold winter day, a delicious cupcake, or a kind word.
   • Talk about reasons for being grateful. Talk to a close family member, friend, or therapist about things you are grateful for. This will help you to better remember the good events of the day and not dwell on the difficulties.
3. 3 Set personal, achievable goals. You can set and implement big, long-term goals, but don't forget about smaller and short-term goals.This will help you feel successful and remember that you are capable of a lot!
   • Make it a goal to clean up your bedroom or home every month. Play music and sing along to complete the task and cheer yourself up.
   • Don't beat yourself up if you can't get what you want or get back to the original deadline. Instead, think about what lesson you've learned and what you will do differently next time. Your actions should be taken as a rewarding experience and not seen as a failure in order to increase your productivity and love life.
4. 4 Strive to think positively. Negative thoughts are harmful to the body and spirit as they affect the perception of all life. Periodic negative thoughts aren't going anywhere, but it's important not to get stuck in a loop. Focus on the positive to love your life.
   • Don't compare yourself to others. Focus on your life and the things that make you happy. You only have to please yourself, so don't worry about what others think.
   • Don't let negative thoughts linger in your mind. Acknowledge and let go of the thoughts that are in your head. For example, if the thought occurred to you: "I am ugly," then tell yourself: "I thought I was ugly. Is this a useful thought?" - and let go of that thought.
   • Don't think too much about the past or the future. Obsessing over past mistakes will prevent you from fully experiencing the present moment. Worries about the future and expectations of certain events interfere with living here and now. If your thoughts are directed to the past and the future, you need to draw attention to the present: the tree outside the window, breathing, the sound of rain.
   • Don't forget that everything goes away. You will not be forever in a traffic jam and you will not always be lucky. Remember that each moment is fleeting and does not repeat itself twice to make it easier for you to understand and let go of the situation.

Tips

• Remember to take care of yourself. Selflessness and willingness to appear at the first call of everyone around you will not bring you happiness. Helping people is necessary, but remember about yourself as well.
• When in doubt, try to imagine the worst possible course of events. Do not commit illegal activities and try not to get into trouble.
• In any situation, it is important to remember that there are always people who now have a harder time.

Warnings

• The only person who should always take care of you is yourself.
• There will always be difficult or sad days in which any action will not help you get rid of that feeling. This is fine! This happens to everyone. Take care of yourself and everything will pass.
• Don't let others treat you badly. If someone speaks badly about you, then the problem is not with you, but with the other person.