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• Steps
• Method 1 of 4: Finding a Potential Girlfriend
• Method 2 of 4: Get Help Finding a Girlfriend
• Method 3 of 4: Chat with a potential girlfriend
• Method 4 of 4: Get Better
• Tips

No matter what stage of life you are in, finding a girlfriend can be really tricky. Perhaps your friends are not having any difficulty in meeting a great girlfriend, and your search will not be crowned with results. To find a girl, you need to go out, be open to new acquaintances and not refuse the help of friends.

Steps

Method 1 of 4: Finding a Potential Girlfriend

1. 1 Define your criteria. Think about what you definitely want to see in your girlfriend. Perhaps you are looking for someone who shares your religious views, or someone who certainly dreams of having children. Highlight the traits that your potential girlfriend should have.
   • Ponder both the major and minor features. It is probably important for you to meet someone with a similar outlook on life. But maybe you also want the girl to run marathons with you, or watch TV avidly with you, or work in the same industry as you.
   • Despite the desire to have a girl with a super attractive appearance, you should not put this item at the top of your list. Your relationship should be based on something deeper than just a “pretty cover”.
2. 2 Come out into the light. If you retire and sit at home, then you are unlikely to meet anyone. Break out of your daily routine and start spending time in public places where you can meet new people. Consider visiting places like:
   • supermarket;
   • bookstore or library;
   • coffee house;
   • the park;
   • places for walking;
   • a music shop.
3. 3 Try new activities. If you're having a hard time finding a potential dating girl, you might want to try something new to expand your social circle. Start a new hobby, join a hobby club, or some activity (like skiing or hiking).
   • Try to choose what you have at least some interest in. Don't pretend that you enjoy an activity just because there are a lot of girls doing it. Otherwise, you will start a potential relationship with lies and falsehood.
   • If you're a student, try taking extra classes or taking directions that aren't familiar to you. Even if it seems to you that you are not a creative person, try enrolling in a theater group or student KVN. You will be able to get to know the girl better in a setting that she likes.
4. 4 Be open to different types of people. Perhaps you have a very specific image of a girl who would be attracted to you. However, among all types of people, you can find those with whom you will become great friends, and some of them may be your potential romantic partner. Try not to judge a book by its cover.
5. 5 Make friends with girls. Expand your social circle by surrounding yourself with more girlfriends. For example, at first some girl seemed like a potential partner to you, but then you decided that nothing would come of it. Do not immediately cross it out of your life. You can still be friends. Plus, most likely, she has a bunch of girlfriends. SPECIALIST'S ADVICE

   

   Jessica Engle, MFT, MA

   
   
   Relationship Coach Jessica Ingle is a relationship coach and psychotherapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area. She founded Bay Area Dating Coach in 2009 after completing her Master's degree in Counseling Psychology. She is a licensed family and marriage psychotherapist and registered play therapist with over 10 years of experience.

   Jessica Engle, MFT, MA
   Relationship coach

   If you want to get to know someone without the help of friends, try to be open. Look around, pay attention to those around you, and smile, even if it is awkward or difficult for you.

Method 2 of 4: Get Help Finding a Girlfriend

1. 1 Tell others that you are looking for. Many relationships start with someone telling their friends that they are looking for a partner. Maybe your buddies know a single girl who is also looking for a couple, and they will help you connect with each other.
2. 2 Register on a dating site. Today, more and more people find each other on the Internet using dating sites or applications such as Loveplanet.ru or Tinder.Explore these sites and register with one of them. Complete your profile and get ready to meet new people.
3. 3 Walk on blind dates. Your friends and family want to help you find your happiness. They can arrange a blind date with your girl, but that can seem pretty awkward to you. Nevertheless, it is worth taking the risk and agreeing to such an adventure. See this as an opportunity to meet a new and interesting person.

Method 3 of 4: Chat with a potential girlfriend

1. 1 Approach her when and where she feels relaxed. Choose a suitable time and place to speak to the girl. Supermarkets, museums, coffee shops, and dog playgrounds are all great places to meet a lady who is in high spirits and doesn't feel stressed out.
   • In a bar or club, a woman is already on the alert. Perhaps she's not looking for a long-term relationship or wants to spend the evening with her friends. These are not ideal places to find a partner for more than one night.
2. 2 Be casual and friendly. People usually appreciate a good sense of humor. Light and offensive jokes can make a girl laugh. There are many different situations where you can demonstrate your sense of humor. Try to joke with the following things:
   • Circumstances around you. If you are in a park or walking down the street, and suddenly noticed something funny, tell me about it.
   • Laugh at yourself. If you are very tall, joke that from your height you can see the neighboring city.
   • Tell funny stories about yourself. As a teenager, did you get involved in a stupid scuffle at school? Retell it in colorful detail, mentioning the funny clothes you wore back then, or which song you were "off" to before the fight.
   • Talk about current events. Some of the things that happen in the news or in the lives of celebrities can be a great joke.
   • Subsequently, this can turn into jokes that only you two can understand.
   • Be careful not to use rude or offensive humor. Until you get to know the person very well, such jokes should be avoided at all costs.
3. 3 Compliment her. Show what grabbed your attention about her and praise that trait. For example, you might say:
   • "I really love your long hair."
   • "You made some very useful comments in class today."
   • "It's very easy to communicate with you."
4. 4 Call her by name. Once you know her name, mention her name several times in the conversation. You may want to write it down later so you don't forget.
5. 5 Don't let potential rejection stop you. You may be afraid to talk to a girl because she might refuse you. Don't let the fear of rejection deter you from starting a conversation. In the worst case, she will ignore you or ask you to leave. However, in the best case, she will continue the conversation.
   • It will also help demonstrate your self-confidence. See this as an opportunity to gain approval.
6. 6 Don't be superficial. When meeting a new girl, give her a chance, even if at first glance she doesn't match your ideals. Don't reject the person for stupid or insignificant reasons.
   • Make sure you're complimenting more than just her looks. Of course, you can say that she looks good, but do not forget to praise her aesthetic taste or her ability to get around traffic congestion.
7. 7 Try to chat with her more than once. If you liked someone but the first conversation didn't go well, you definitely need to talk to the person again. Perhaps at the first meeting, the girl was distracted by something or something bothered her.
   • You may need to set up a "casual" meeting.For example, if you originally met at a dog playground, keep coming there regularly with the dog until you see that girl again.
8. 8 Don't act weird or desperate. Don't make your girlfriend feel uncomfortable with obsessive behavior, stalking, or trying to talk to her about inappropriate things. Give her some personal space to set the right tone for a potential relationship.

Method 4 of 4: Get Better

1. 1 Be confident in yourself. Having confidence in yourself will demonstrate to a potential girlfriend that you consider yourself a person worthy of getting to know him better. Believe in yourself, treat others with respect and behave with dignity.
   • Positive and confident body language will show others that you respect yourself and have healthy self-esteem. This body language includes maintaining constant eye contact, frequent smiles, friendly demeanor, and upright posture.
2. 2 Be yourself. Know who you are and what you are. Don't try to pretend you are not. Don't try to change to please others. Take pride in your virtues and qualities that make you unique.
3. 3 Lead a healthy lifestyle. This will show your potential girlfriend that you are taking care of yourself and your body. Eat plenty of wholesome foods, get adequate sleep, and exercise regularly. Give up alcohol and quit smoking.
4. 4 Spend time with your friends. Don't devote all your time to the girl. Make sure you continue to make time for your buddies. It is also important to keep your own interests in mind when looking for a girlfriend.

Tips

• Try to assess the situation before approaching the girl. If she seems to be busy or not interested in you, you should change your approach. However, this does not mean that you should avoid it. If she's already dating someone, chances are good that she has some good single girlfriends to introduce you to.