Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: Build Your Self-Confidence
• Part 2 of 3: Change the way you think
• Part 3 of 3: Talk to the girl
• Tips

Many guys feel uncomfortable trying to talk to a girl they like. It takes practice so that you don't have to spend a lot of time gathering your courage. Building your self-confidence and getting down to business with the right mindset can help you talk to your girlfriend with ease.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Build Your Self-Confidence

1. 1 Take care of your appearance. Shower, brush your teeth, and wear comfortable clothes that make you feel confident. Having a good-looking appearance will strengthen your confidence in yourself, and it will be much easier for you to talk to a girl. If you don't take a shower and put on yesterday's T-shirt, then you are unlikely to be confident in yourself.
2. 2 Think positively. Tell yourself that you are a wonderful person and can talk to any girl. You should not think that you are not worthy of the girl or that you will not be able to speak to her.
   • Try listening to hypnotic tapes to boost your confidence.
   • Make positive affirmations: “I am smart, good-looking, funny, and confident. I can talk to girls. "
3. 3 Watch for gestures and facial expressions. Stand up straight, straighten your shoulders and smile, even if inside you are scared and want to slouch. If you stand with your head up and smile, then you will force yourself to believe in your own confidence and become more attractive. SPECIALIST'S ADVICE

   

   Jessica Engle, MFT, MA

   
   
   Relationship Coach Jessica Ingle is a relationship coach and psychotherapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area. She founded Bay Area Dating Coach in 2009 after completing her Master's degree in Counseling Psychology. She is a licensed family and marriage psychotherapist and registered play therapist with over 10 years of experience.

   Jessica Engle, MFT, MA
   Relationship coach

   Let your body language speak of openness. Jessica Ingle, director of the Bay Area Dating Coach, says: “Paying attention to your body language is important because it affects how you feel and how confident you look. Show people your openness, keeping your shoulders back and down... Save calm facial expression or smile, as well as maintain eye contact».

   
   
4. 4 Practice saying hello to girls. Just say hello to girls passing by to learn how to talk to them. It can be difficult at first, but exercising will help you believe in yourself. You don't have to go straight to the girl you think is the most beautiful or ideal.
   • Say simple and pleasant things: “Hello! You have a beautiful dress. "

Part 2 of 3: Change the way you think

1. 1 Appreciate the girl's inner world. Her beauty may have caught your attention, but you shouldn't overdo her appearance. Before starting a conversation, try not to think about the girl's appearance. Act as if you are talking to any friend or new acquaintance. You can't think that you will like the girl even before the start of the conversation. Beauty does not at all guarantee that it is pleasant to communicate with a girl.
2. 2 Don't worry about lack of experience. Don't feel embarrassed if you've never had a girlfriend before or don't know how to communicate with them. Lack of experience shouldn't hold you back. Most likely, the girl does not care that you have never met anyone before, and you cannot gain experience if you constantly worry about your inexperience.
3. 3 Don't get hung up on a single girl. You may like or seem very beautiful a certain girl, but do not think that you have to be with her by all means. The world is full of attractive girls who are potentially suitable for you. If you focus too much on one girl, you will put unnecessary pressure on yourself, worrying about how to talk to her.
4. 4 No expectations needed. Don't set yourself the goal of being the boyfriend of the girl you're talking to. If you make grandiose plans even before the starting whistle, then you will clog your head with unnecessary thoughts. There is no need to expect anything from the conversation. Just a pleasant conversation is a good result. If you succeed in a pleasant conversation, do not expect anything afterwards except for another pleasant conversation. Having got to know the girl better, you can think about how realistic it is to build a relationship with her.

Part 3 of 3: Talk to the girl

1. 1 Be prepared to reject before speaking. In the worst case, the girl just won't want to talk to you. In this case, you need to move on. There are a lot of other girls around. If you are turned down, then you do not need to make plans on how to win the girl's heart. If you behave politely, then the girl is unlikely to answer you rudely.
2. 2 Say hello. Just say hello or hello to get her attention. If you don't worry in vain, then everything will go well. Relax and speak confidently. If you are extremely embarrassed, but nothing can be done about it, then you can say that you are embarrassed. Walk up to her and say: “Hi, I'm terribly embarrassed, but you are beautiful and I would like to meet you. Can I sit next to you? "
   • Ask a friend to help you get to know the girl.
3. 3 Talk to her. Ask the girl questions and listen carefully to the answers. Follow her words and maintain eye contact. Don't hold back your sense of humor and joke with her. Flirt and try to relax.

Tips

• By being polite and respectful, the girl will almost certainly take an interest in you.
• Try taking a few deep breaths in and out to relax.
• Compliment, but don't go overboard.