Content

• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

Your boss invites you to the office, closes the door and says: "... we are not satisfied with the way you work in this position, so we made the decision to dismiss. Free up your workplace and get a settlement in the accounting department." How do you deal with this situation without losing your dignity?

Steps

1. 1 Give yourself a minute (or five) to recover from the shock and collect your thoughts. Take a breath. If you feel like crying, please - this will not change the situation, but it may help you to better overcome it by splashing out your emotions.
2. 2 Take the situation right. Your first impulse may be to think of yourself as a bad worker, a person, or a failure in general, but this is just a voice of panic. Instead, tell yourself, "I did the wrong job for myself." This is important: the work is not to blame and you are not to blame, it was the combination of work and you that did not work. So don't be ashamed of the situation. There are millions of reasons why a job doesn't work out, and none of them is 100% your fault.
3. 3 Don't try to change your mind. You may be tempted to ask for another chance, but you must resist it. The decision has been made and is almost always irrevocable. Begging will only weaken your ability to negotiate further.
4. 4 Negotiate the terms of your termination. The employer does not want unnecessary problems, in particular, to earn a bad reputation. So here's what you can negotiate about:
   • Agree on how the employer will be held accountable in the event of contacting him for a recommendation. The safest version of his answer: "Yes, he worked for us as an employee, but our organization has a policy of nondisclosure of performance evaluation."
   • Ask for generous compensation. Demand payment of vacation and sick leave, as well as compensation that you think they can agree to - between one month and three months' salary. You may not be paid as much as you ask, but this is a good start to negotiations.
   • Ask the employer to extend the VHI for a certain period.
   • Ask for help finding a new job. Some employers offer the services of employment firms. If not, ask which organizations they could recommend for your job search. Perhaps they have information about vacancies.
5. 5 Quit with dignity. Do not wait until the end of the working day - pack your things at the workplace and leave. If you are stopped by colleagues to say goodbye, thank them politely, but do not shake the walls with yells about what just happened to you. Never say anything bad about your boss or the company - burn all the bridges so that you don't get hurt.
6. 6 Tell your family immediately. Even if you are still in shock and shame, tell your family about what happened and discuss how you can handle it all together. While your loved ones will experience shock and uncomfortable feelings as well, in the long run it will be easier for you to start taking further action together.
7. 7 Give yourself time to recover. You will be tempted to start looking for a new job right away, but you need to give yourself time to get over what happened, get rid of shame and panic, and start thinking clearly. Take a couple of weeks to spend with your family and concentrate on your future plans.
8. 8 Realize that this is not the end of the road. Despite the fact that it can be difficult sometimes, you should not think about the fact that your whole life is over with the termination of your job. Begin to see the situation as a turning point on the road to change for the better. Of course, this is a difficult time, but it can give you new opportunities.

Tips

• Take the time to figure out if you want to stay in the same line of business or if it's worth trying something different.
• Your friends and coworkers may keep calling you for the first few days to see how you are doing. Refrain from talking to everyone. Let everyone know through one friend that you’re okay and that you’ve just taken some time off, and then call everyone back in the next few days, weeks, or months — no matter —.
• Make sure that the termination is carried out in accordance with the terms of your employment contract and labor laws in general.
• Be responsible. When you get home, cancel all but essential purchases and budget according to what you have available. Develop a financial plan. This will reduce stress and keep you from grabbing the first job you come across.
• Sometimes dismissal compensation is given under certain conditions: you cannot discuss the reasons for the dismissal with anyone, you cannot discuss the terms of compensation, you cannot speak negatively about the company or its management, you cannot go to work for competitors, and so on. If you violate these conditions, compensation may be recovered from you back through the court.
• Get official written confirmation of the company's intentions.
• As a rule, after a notice of dismissal, access to a personal computer is closed. Accordingly, (since you are reading this article, you have not been fired yet) today, coming to work:
  • Send to your personal email address all the personal information from your computer that you would like to keep after you leave: personal mail, examples of work materials, recipes from your colleagues - whatever. Don't send all this from your work address, go to your personal mail and send from there.
  • Make copies of all the files you want to keep for yourself (document templates, work materials, contacts) and take home.

Warnings

• Resist the urge to call colleagues and complain about the company and its management.
• When you come home, do not try to pack your things and leave the city. Running away from problems only exacerbates the situation, and besides, moving to another city for no apparent reason is a red rag for employers. Better to update your resume and post it on relevant sites.