Author:
Lewis Jackson
Date Of Creation:
6 May 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
When you encounter a moment of embarrassment, you may feel like you are the only person that exists on Earth. However, shame is one of the most common emotions we experience. It happens to almost every human being in the world, and even to other species. While we might view shame as a negative emotion because of the way it makes us feel, it does serve a crucial social function in identifying who we have. can trust and want to build a longer lasting relationship. However, it is not good to let your feelings of shame overwhelm and ruin your experience. To get over embarrassing moments, learn to react gently and minimize internal breakdown. If the shame can't be overcome, think about what might be the underlying problem. Try to accept every embarrassing moment as normal. Instead of separating yourself from the people around you, the ability to experience real shame is one of the aspects that can help you connect with others the most.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Respond to unexpected situations
Laugh at myself. Recent research has shown that laughter and humor are both key components of overall health. The easiest way to overcome the anxiety that comes from that embarrassing moment is to laugh at yourself and laugh at the situation that just happened. This way, it is easier to get others to laugh with you than to laugh at you.
- In fact, shame is a great way to connect yourself to others, as this is something most people experience at some point in their life. If you're willing to laugh at yourself, a moment of embarrassment can become a great starting point for an interesting conversation or a new process of making friends.
- You can also try to make the situation more humorous. If you approach the situation with the right humor, it becomes less embarrassing and becomes a joke. For example, if you fall off a chair you could say something like "I can do the stunts myself!".
Admit that you were ashamed. When an embarrassing situation arises, it's best to accept it. You cannot go back in time, so in denial for what? Admit to yourself - and to others if appropriate - that you are embarrassed. This method can be a great way to initiate a conversation with someone else, as they will probably also share with you their embarrassing moment.
Explain the cause of the embarrassing situation. You may have come across an embarrassing situation in which you can understand and explain it. For example, you might have called someone the wrong name all day. But when you look back on the situation, you realize that you've spent a lot of time thinking about other people.- For example, you could say “I'm sorry I kept calling you Sang. I am constantly thinking about a good friend of mine who is in difficult times, and I am a little distracted.
Ask someone else to help you. Maybe you spilled coffee on some important papers during the meeting, or you slip and drop a stack of books on the teacher's feet. You can ask someone to help you pick up the item you dropped. This will help you shift your focus from the embarrassing situation to the task at hand. advertisement
Method 2 of 3: Minimize the problem
Deep breath. After embarrassing moments have occurred, many people often feel anxious. Blood rushed to the face, heart rate and blood pressure increased, difficulty breathing, and sweat started to exude quite a lot on the body. To calm yourself down, take a deep breath and reassess the situation. This will help you regulate the physiological response you experience (blushing, for example). It will also help you avoid saying or doing anything that might add to your shame. Take a minute to calm down and get through.
Don't get other people's attention. The worst reaction to a moment of embarrassment is to make a big deal. When embarrassing situations arise, avoid screaming, running away with tears in your face, or crying well in public. The bigger you make it, the more the situation will be imprinted on other people's minds. Remember that this moment will soon pass. If your reaction is completely normal, people will quickly forget what happened.
Tell yourself the situation isn't too embarrassing. You need to face the fact that something bad just happened to you. However, it only really gets worse once you tell yourself that. If you get over it and tell yourself it's not too bad, you won't be ashamed.
- Usually, it is you who are more strict with yourself than others. Psychologists have found that in situations of anxiety or shame, people tend to worry so much about themselves that they overestimate the other's degree of attention to them.
- With this in mind, if you run into an embarrassing situation, the people around you may be focusing more on themselves than on you.
Take an action to distract yourself. After you encounter a moment of embarrassment, you can do something to stop thinking about it. You can read books, play your favorite sports, watch TV, listen to music, and more. Redirecting your attention to other activities will help keep you from focusing on embarrassing situations.
Learn from embarrassing moments. When you encounter an embarrassing situation, learn from it. Did you slip and fall in front of your crush? Avoid wearing high heels. Did you pass out while giving a presentation? Research ways to calm yourself down before giving your presentation. advertisement
Method 3 of 3: Solve potential problems
Looking back at the feelings stemming from this situation. Remember that you can learn more about yourself through factors that make you feel ashamed. Think about the situation you have encountered. Ask yourself, "What was embarrassing in that situation?" This is not always simply because of the people surrounding you in that moment.
- For example, if you feel extremely embarrassed after failing to do something that you are usually very good at, you may have set too high expectations for yourself. In every embarrassing moment, you should look back at your own expectations and the expectations of others through your own feelings.
Consider whether you have an anxiety disorder. While the title of this article is a way to overcome embarrassing moments, many people tend to experience embarrassing situations quite often. It can happen every day. If you feel like moments of shame are constantly happening to you and you have no control over it, this may be a sign that you are experiencing social phobia. This is an anxiety disorder that has been shown to be closely related to persistent feelings of shame. This can make it harder to get over embarrassing situations when they come up.
- If you simply can't get rid of the negative emotions that arise, and they happen to you more and more often, consider taking steps to treat your stress.
See a mental health counselor. If you feel that you are having an underlying problem that is making your shame worse than usual, talk to a counselor. They will help you understand your feelings and help you understand why you are feeling. They can also provide you with strategies to minimize the amount of shame you perceive.
Practice mindfulness meditation. If you can't stop thinking about embarrassing moments, meditate. Remember that the embarrassing situation is over. Try to live in the moment. Mindfulness meditation is a technique to help you perceive and not judge your thoughts and feelings. This is a pretty effective way to prevent yourself from dipping into embarrassing moments.,
- Sit quietly for 10-15 minutes, taking deep breaths. Focus on breathing.
- Recognize your thoughts as they come to mind. Identify the emotion you are experiencing. Tell yourself, "I feel embarrassed".
- Accept the emotion you are feeling, tell yourself, "I accept my shame".
- Recognize that this is only a temporary feeling. Say to yourself "I know this is only a temporary feeling. It will subside. Now, what do I need?". Allow yourself space and confirmation of your feelings, but be aware that your thoughts and reactions to situations may not be true.
- Redirect attention back to breathing. Once the thoughts have passed from your mind, repeat the process to acknowledge them and ignore them.
- You can look for a mindfulness meditation guide online.
