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A healthy, happy, and joyful life makes a very important contribution to good social skills. They are also essential in almost all areas of study and work. Studies have demonstrated a positive link between social skills and mental health. Even if you think you're an introvert, this wikiHow article gives you practical advice on how to improve your social skills.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Improve verbal communication skills

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   Note the volume and tone of the voice. Do not speak too soft or too loud. You need to speak loud enough for everyone to hear and show confidence but not aggression.
   • Remember to adjust the volume to suit the surroundings.
   • If possible, adjust your voice to match the people around you.

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   Learn how to talk appropriately. You can open a conversation with something known as truth or truth. Comment on the weather or an event that you recently heard in the news. Compliment someone's outfit or hairstyle. However, speaking socially is not always easy, as it is often difficult to think exactly what to say. Here are some examples:
   • "Nice hat, where did you buy it"?
   • "Why is the weather so weird?"
   • "The view from here is amazing."
   • "Is Mr. Que's class interesting?"

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   Learn how to do conversation. After talking about general issues like ongoing events, try bringing up more relevant or relevant topics by asking questions a little deeper. Questions that are polite about family, career, or interests can broaden conversation and make the story more meaningful. Remember that a conversation involves two people, so avoid talking too little or vice versa. Try to ask as many open-ended questions as possible; in other words, ask questions that include words like 'how', 'why', or 'what' instead of asking questions the other person can simply respond to, 'yes "Or" No "is not inherently effective in encouraging the other person to talk more. Here are a few ways to get the conversation going:
   • "So what are you doing?"
   • "Tell me more about your family."
   • "How do you know the owner of this party?"
   • "How long have you been on this diet program?"
   • "What are your plans this weekend?"

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   Avoid sensitive topics. There are a few topics you should avoid when interacting with someone you are not familiar with. In general, these are topics that may be controversial such as religion, politics or race / ethnicity, etc. For example:
   • While you can ask the other person about the upcoming election, it can be frustrating to ask them who they plan to vote for.
   • You can ask about someone's religion in general, but asking for a church's view on gender may not be very good.

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   End the conversation politely. Instead of suddenly ending your conversation and walking away, try to be polite. Graciously tell them you have to go and show them that you enjoyed the conversation. You can try positive statements like:
   • "I have work to go now, hope we will see you soon."
   • "I have an appointment with the bank so I have to go now. Nice to talk to you."
   • "I feel like you are busy, so I don't dare keep you. It's fun to talk to you."
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Method 2 of 3: Improve non-verbal communication skills

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   Pay attention to body language. Our gestures often convey stronger messages than words. Remember that body language plays an important role in social communication. Take note and take the time to reflect on the messages you convey to others through your postures, eyes and facial expressions.
   • If you avoid eye contact, stand far away, or cross your arms across your chest, others may understand that you don't want contact.
   • Show a more confident posture and smile a little more, make regular eye contact with the person you're talking to, straighten up, and relax your arms. This is sure to make a good impression on the person you're talking to.

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   Observe how others behave in social situations. Pay close attention to their body language and think why they are good at communicating with people. Observe their posture, gestures, facial expressions and how they make eye contact. Think about how you could imitate them or improve your body language while you speak.
   • Find out "how close" are the people you are observing. This is important because body language between close friends is different than when you are talking to a complete stranger, even in casual situations.
   • Keep in mind what you see and observe. This will guide and help you focus on your body language.

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   Improve non-verbal communication skills at home. Home is the best place to start learning new things, because the familiar environment won't frighten you. You can try recording your image while communicating with family members and consider how you can improve your body language. You can also practice posture in front of a mirror; mobilize the support of close family members, even close friends. This is an effective method, as you will get honest and helpful feedback that may not be found by others. Some other tips include: bring your shoulders back, keep your spine straight, and raise your chin parallel to the ground.
   • One of the biggest advantages of practicing at home is the privacy and low pressure.
   • Don't be shy! Only you and the mirror here! Feel free to try different expressions and gestures.

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   Focus on keeping a genuine smile as soon as you meet the other person. Everyone knows smiling is a great way to show an open mind to others and make people feel good. Just showing a smile when you meet people and you will make things easier.

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   Practice making eye contact. Practice making more eye contact when you are comfortable with it. Don't make eye contact, especially if you are uncomfortable, as this can cause discomfort. You should only look the other person in the eye for 3-5 seconds. As you make this easier, gradually making eye contact becomes natural to you.
   • When you're not sitting right next to someone, look into their ear or between their eyes. This is pretending to make eye contact, but people won't notice the difference.
   • If you are afraid of making eye contact, some psychosocial experts recommend doing this with a television set. Open the news program and try making eye contact with the announcer on television.

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   Take some more time to prepare when preparing to go out. You will feel more confident in your appearance. Every social situation becomes easier if you spend a little more time looking good and feeling confident. Make a habit of doing personal hygiene, buy some new clothes or shoes you love; Beautiful outfits not only enhance your confidence, but also help you naturally look more sociable. advertisement

Method 3 of 3: Practice in real life

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   Find a place where the people seem easy enough. Having a conversation with someone you don't know but this place seems less risky and more acceptable. Some situations are easier than others, especially when you start social interactions. Usually supermarkets or banks are not suitable places to chat with complete strangers (people just go there to buy food). In contrast, cafes, sporting events and community centers are great places to chat with interesting newbies.
   • To meet new people, you can join groups like an amateur sports club or book club. Fitness classes are also often a great place to start a conversation.

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   Start small, talk to the waiters to start practicing. Ask the bartender how that day. Thank the postman when they drop by or ask a colleague about their weekend. You don't have to dig deep into the conversation right away. Let's start with a short talk. Remember that saying hello to someone won't do you any harm. It is very unlikely that you will see them again, and the usual polite greetings are the best way to practice.

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   Choose someone who doesn't seem indifferent or busy. Approach a subject with open body language and express interest in getting to know them. This is usually a good opportunity to start a meaningful conversation.
   • Confidence in approaching others. If you worry too much, the other person will worry too!
   • Remember to put the phone away. Keeping your eyes on the phone during a conversation will annoy people and they'll think that you prefer your phone over talking to them!

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   Think about the past conversation. If the conversation goes well, take note of what you did right and try to do it again next time. If things do not go well, reassess the situation to find out exactly what you did not do well.
   • Have you approached someone who seems busy or has closed body language?
   • Is your body language open and approachable?
   • Did you open the conversation with an appropriate topic?

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   Talk more with people. Your social skills will gradually improve with practice. The more you communicate and interact with people, the better you will do.
   • Try not to let negative social interactions discourage you. Usually, such encounters are not your fault.

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   Join a support group. Support groups are often a safe and comfortable environment where you can learn to talk. You're not the only one going there to practice your speaking skills. What are you waiting for without practicing with the boat board people? The very fact that you want to improve your social skills shows that you are open and willing to practice with them. Reach out to people who share your goals for support. advertisement

Advice

• For people with social anxiety and mental health problems that make communicating with others difficult, recent studies have shown that group therapy focuses on training. Social skills can have a positive effect.
• If you have been diagnosed with social anxiety, consider seeking group therapy opportunities in your community.
• Always try to be alert, while keeping your voice polite and courteous. A smiling attitude will definitely not harm anyone.
• Invite everyone to speak as a group; People will begin to notice a change in your behavior and eventually respect you.
• Always be polite, and believe respectful interactions can teach you a lot as you try to be an example for others.
• Never forget that experience is the best teacher!

Warning

• Be careful with physical contact. Some people may be open to physical touch and contact, but others find it inappropriate or even annoying. Get acquainted first, and then just clap your partner's shoulder or give them a bang.
• Drinking alcohol or taking drugs may temporarily boost your confidence, but it doesn't improve your social skills in the long run.
• Social skills are related to culture. Remember that what you observe in Western society may be unacceptable elsewhere, especially in developing countries, where people tend to be reserved and have values. and ethical differences.