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Educating your teen on healthy and safe sex can be one of the most awkward conversations, but this is part of your responsibilities as a parent. You should learn about masturbation and sexuality to create the most educational and comfortable conversation possible with your child.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Understanding knowledge

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   Decide whether or not to address the issue. It is not always appropriate to bring the topic of masturbation to teenagers, as it will depend on your family's religious and cultural perspectives. Overall, it is good to take the opportunity to educate your child about safe, healthy sex and have a good “adult story” overview, however, not always necessary. discuss specifically about masturbation.
   • There is no concrete and correct way to approach the problem. There are two conflicting opinions, some parents who advocate for healthy sex argue that it is necessary to encourage masturbation, or even give sex toys to their teenage children and chat in a way. are specific about the difference between love and sex, while parents at the other extreme think this is a terrible idea.
   • On top of that, you need to decide what kind of attitudes and behaviors you are comfortable with to convey to your child in the early stages of "adult preparation".

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   Seize opportunities to teach. Most recent studies show that a deeper understanding of masturbation is important to a holistic understanding of healthy sexual development in teenagers. Instead of just telling your child to stop masturbating, or say masturbation is a common thing, consider helping your child understand that masturbation is a part of sexual health and well-being. While the conversation can be awkward, just focusing on the following topics will reduce the confusion. Take opportunities to educate your child about:
   • Health and hygiene
   • Common misconceptions
   • Moderation

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   Put yourself in your shoes. Talking about sex with children is difficult, discussing masturbation is a thousand times more difficult. This is also a short time to educate your child and is an opportunity to explain health and safety, so should not be overlooked. It is important that parents step back, relax and plan the information and communication with their children.
   • Your reaction to the fact that your child is masturbating can create an external impression on the child, the way she / she understands sex and also how the child develops into an adult. It is important to keep this in mind.

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   Allowing your religious and cultural concerns. There is nothing psychological or physiological wrong with a teen who is masturbating.In fact, taking a selfie is a normal part of developing a healthy sex life. However, for some parents, the primary concern (if any) with adolescent masturbation is religion and culture. If you think that masturbation is morally wrong, then it's more important to put your child's health issues above the conversation.
   • You don't have to discuss the "right / wrong" of masturbation, even if you think so. Instead, focus on cleanliness, pornographic culture, and more distant topics to make sure your child won't develop bad habits.
   • Most of the religious curfews do not mention masturbation, they leave these sexual activities open and classify them as difficult topics to classify. You don't have to make it a "big deal" or make an effort to dissuade your child or take it as a disgrace. Masturbation is extremely common, both psychological or physiological, and completely harmless.

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   Correct common misconceptions about masturbation. Maybe your child has heard a lot about folk legends or gossip about masturbation at school or from friends. You may have heard of these myths as well, but are still unsure about their authenticity. It is important that you learn to distinguish between facts and misconceptions if you wish to guide your child through this issue.
   • Masturbation does not cause blindness, hair growth on the palms of the hands or impotence.
   • Nocturnal nightmares or "wet dreams" are neither a type of masturbation nor a symptom of a "physiological weakness" or a sign of moral decline.
   • It would not be true to say "everyone" or "no one" masturbated. Lots of people, both men and women, practice masturbation on a regular basis, but it is not essential to a happy and inclusive life, nor is it a barrier to life. that nice.

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   Consider giving the little girl a book. Let the experts do this for you and consider giving your child a book on teen sex as a gift and also as a guide. This is a great way to reduce the embarrassment of the problem, as well as make sure your child gets the right advice about sexual instincts during this critical period. Here are some great tips on teen sex:
   • "Handbook of the Son" compiled by Anh Tuyet
   • "Handbook of Daughter" by Thanh Giang
   • "War of the Age of Rise" by Associate Professor, Dr. Nguyen Thi Phuong Hoa
   • "Adolescence And Sexual Issues" - Many authors

Part 2 of 3: Talking with your child

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   Take time to talk in private with your child. Dinner with grandparents and grandmothers is not the time to talk about this sensitive topic. Make your conversation as short and smooth as possible by doing it privately, at the right time and without stress, not when you are feeling flustered by the discovery. some "proof," or when you're feeling frustrated.
   • Try putting yourself in the shoes of a little girl or a boy and predict how they'll feel if you bring this up. Many teenagers may feel ashamed and alone, feeling like the only one going through this.

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   Be as open as possible. This is an awkward teenage conversation, so don't question it. You don't have to know your child's "frequency" of masturbation or ask other embarrassing questions. Focus only on what you want your child to know, while keeping the story relatively simple and short. Try to lead as follows:
   • "I don't want to embarrass you, but you're old enough to talk about sex and masturbation, so I want you to know something, okay?"

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   Use a gentle tone of voice. Nothing in this conversation should make the child feel serious. Use the same calm, steady, and reassuring tone you would use as you would when discussing homework or chores with your child. Keep everything normal.
   • If you are feeling angry or confused, admit to the problem: "Grandparents never told me about these things and I wish they did. I think it's very important, though. It's a bit hard to say. "

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   Reassure me. When you convey something to your child, reassure that what he or she is going through is normal and that nothing should feel guilty about. A toddler can absorb a lot of extremely mixed information from friends at school, and that can make her / the boy feel confused when her personal desires are not the same as what others say.
   • Try saying, "I know what you're going through can be weird, but you need to know that it's all right, healthy and you don't have to feel guilty about it."

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   Talk about cleanliness and safety. Another important thing that you need to confirm with your teen is the basic cleanliness and safety associated with masturbation. When teenagers first explore their bodies, they are more likely to overthink dangerous behavior and you need to be clear with your child about what to avoid.
   • For girls: encourage proper hand washing and cleaning of sex toys, use the right toys or equipment and discuss sexual activity, urinary health as part of a discussion general discussion on gender health.
   • For boys: encourage hygiene during and after masturbation, as well as discuss safe practices.

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   Encourage moderation. While masturbation is a normal and healthy activity, parents should not be subjective. Masturbation addiction and distraction from school are potential “selfie” problems teenagers may experience, and that's why it's important to encourage moderation.
   • You don't need to go into the details regarding frequency: some have a very high libido, while others are much lower. There is no certain standard. However, it is important to reinforce your view of your child that for a healthy social life that includes normal teen activities and duties like school, masturbation is behavior. should not have.
   • It is also important to encourage moderation in relation to bodily emotions. Teenagers need to be gentle with their body because their sexual instincts are developing, taking care to avoid harm, and practicing sex in a healthy way.
   • All teenagers should be accustomed to controlling and understanding sexual desires, distinguishing what is "lust" and what is love.

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   Be open to questions. The best thing you can do for your child at this stage is to become a friend. Be open to questions, trying to answer them in the most honest and straightforward way possible, without embarrassing the atmosphere. If you find that your child doesn't want to say more then don't go into the matter, end the story by letting them know that he or she can talk to you at any time.

Part 3 of 3: Avoid awkward situations

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   Stop "looking for evidence". If your child is turning adulthood, they should have a good conversation about masturbation. You don't “need proof” nor should you stalk your child's private life, such as checking your child's bed sheets or underwear or checking your computer's browser history to judge that it's possible. You have taken a selfie, you should know that the sudden increase in sex hormones is the reason that puts your baby into a constant state of sexual desire.

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   Do not blame you for masturbating. There is no reason to do so unless your child is addicted to masturbation, in which case you should see a specialist. Limiting reprimand for that only makes the girl or the boy more frustrating and annoying.

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   Don't stop. Remember that education is different from setting rules. Usually, when someone has the right information, they can set their own rules. This is a good learning experience for teenagers. Simple upbringing has a positive effect on your teen, so choose to sit down and talk to your child about the issue.

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   Don't overdo it. Some teenagers will feel embarrassed at the thought of talking to their parents about masturbation, and this is completely understandable. This is an extremely delicate behavior and is not easy to discuss in any situation. If you feel you have to question your toddler's safety and well-being, go ahead with it, but you also need to know when to stop and end the conversation to ease your feelings. Awkward feeling.
   • Don't linger behind questions and determination to find the truth, nor do you need to comment when you find your child in the bathroom for too long in the shower. If you have fulfilled your duties and talked to your child, do not disturb those private moments.
   • If you feel your toddler has a problem with masturbation and needs intervention, do so by limiting your child's time alone and limiting Internet access if necessary.

Advice

• Observe the minor's general mood and behavior, but do not prick it. Sometimes, constant masturbation can become a symptom of other problems (though not really serious). If you have enough reason to doubt this, articles like WikiHow won't help you much, and you should consider seeking professional advice.
• It is not necessary that you use a solution in any of the methods above. You can combine several ways.
• It is also important to encourage healthy Internet use and ensure your kids are surfing the web safely. How this affects the minor is up to the parent. You can choose to monitor your child's Internet usage or have a healthy and open conversation about it.

Warning

• Don't discourage masturbation among teenagers. The development of sexuality is a complex and confusing issue for puberty, and it is parental deterrence that will make that frustration worse.