Author:
Laura McKinney
Date Of Creation:
8 August 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
We all understand that feeling - the feeling of falling in love with someone we shouldn't like. You may find that this person is not your match or that they already have their partner. Or maybe you already have a lover. Whatever the reason, you can stop liking someone by limiting the time you spend with them or thinking about them.Keep busy with new friends and activities. Besides, you also need to set realistic expectations for the whole process. Before you know it, this person will only be a distant memory!
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Reduce your affection
Think about their flaws. A good way to stop feeling like someone is to change the way you think about them. Everyone has shortcomings. You may not be able to recognize his or her flaws just because you idolize them too much. Spend some time thinking about their bad points.
- For example, you may want to stop liking someone because of something horrible they did or because your friends or family didn't accept them.
- You may also be reluctant to have feelings for the person either because you and they don't have much in common or they have bad traits like smoking or lying.
Keep your distance from them. The proverb "out of sight from the heart" is always true. When you are with different people or things, that person is no longer number one on your mind.- If you are part of the same social group and can't avoid meeting each other, get together with other large groups for a short while. Don't spend time alone with them.
- If you know a certain fixed place that the person goes to often, avoid going if you know they are in the area.
Limit contact with them both offline and online. Reduce all forms of contact with the person. Staying reminiscent of them will only make it harder for you to forget them. Delete phone numbers from contacts, delete email addresses and unfollow them on social media.- If you're on Facebook, you can unfollow the person without necessarily unfriending them. This will prevent their newsletter from appearing on your News feed without them being discovered. This action also avoids awkward conversations like, "Hey, why did you suddenly unlink me?"
- However, if you think you still have the urge to see their profile page, unlink them entirely. You can re-make friends with them later.
Stop talking about them. To reduce your feelings for your partner, you need to stop talking about them as much as you used to. There's nothing left to hold back and talk about how amazing they are. Take advantage of gathering with close friends to fulfill your responsibilities.- For example, you can ask your friends to change the subject or type in your voice every time you talk about the person.
Throw away reminiscent objects. It becomes more difficult to forget someone if you are surrounded by objects that make you miss them. Spend an afternoon packing and disposing of anything related to the person.
- Have you written their names in a notebook? Or do you keep an old letter from them? Did the two of you ever enjoy the Orange Crush melody together? Throw away anything they've given you and keep anything that reminds you of them.
- If you don't have the heart to throw things out (like school furniture or textbooks), try to keep them out of sight as far as possible. Cover the book with a new cover or toss the sofa you two used to sit on.
Stay away from romantic movies or songs. Listening to a special song or watching a featured movie will make you more likely to miss your crush. Avoid songs or movies that you know will make you think about them. It could be a romantic love song or simply something you both enjoyed together.
- Create a new playlist that has nothing to do with romantic love. Choose a new TV show or movie that doesn't remind you of the person.
Method 2 of 3: Keep yourself busy
Make a new friend Or reconnect with old friends. If you have a crush on someone, you can start ignoring your social circle. Start over by restoring your old friendships or making new friends. Spending time with good friends will help you feel encouraged and clear your mind of that person.
- Call up with the guys / girls you are close with and plan to meet on the weekends or have an overnight party together.
- Join a new club or team sport.
- Volunteer at a local clinic, nursing home, or animal aid center.
- Take care not to spend too much time just talking about the person while you are with your friends. Reminding too much about them can be counterproductive and make your friends uncomfortable.
Find a hobby. When you love someone passionately, you often put your passion aside. Start over and do something you enjoy. Fill your time with fun activities that will help you forget your crush. Furthermore, you will have the opportunity to meet many new people from these efforts.
- Have you always dreamed of learning the guitar? Don't be afraid to approach the guitar prodigy boy at school. Look up for DIY or handmade works on Pinterest. Or you can borrow a new book if you've neglected your reading passion for too long.
Change your habits. It can be very boring if you keep doing the routine from day to day. Not to mention that if you still go to familiar places and do the same work, it will be difficult to forget the person. Change a few things little by little to refresh your life.
- Start a new exercise or workout regimen, like a beginner 5k jogging program. Have breakfast at a new restaurant each day before going to school or work. Take a cooking class or learn a new language.
Try flirting again. Flirting or dating a new person may be the last thing on your mind, but starting over again will help ease your feelings for that person. You will never know that the next person you meet will be more attractive and interesting than the person you are trying to forget.
- Keep everything as natural as it was. Focus on meeting new people and flirting normally. Spend a lot of time hanging out with them. Simply aim to fill your social calendar, enjoy good friendships, and have a good time.
Method 3 of 3: Set realistic expectations
Choose one thing to act on immediately. Think about a possible goal you want to accomplish in relation to your feelings for that person. Maybe you want to throw away any souvenirs that spark your love or want to stop calling them. Focus on this goal to get started.
- Outlining a plan to help you achieve your goals. For example, if you want to throw away souvenirs, schedule a day to organize souvenirs, one day to pack them in boxes, and a day to throw away or give them away.
- Another goal might be setting aside an afternoon to block the person on other social media.
Write down how you feel. Suppressing your emotions may sound futuristic, but you will find that writing down these feelings will help you overcome them. Take a moment every day to write down how you feel about your crush. Tell yourself that you will try not to think about them until the time to write your feelings begins.
- You may find that in the beginning you take a lot of notes and still talk about your deep feelings for that person. However, after a while, you may find yourself mentioning them less or writing about completely different things.
- Use only your emotional writing time when needed. If you don't have any thoughts about this person that day, you don't have to write it.
Please be patient. Give yourself time to get over your deep love for that person. Emotions cannot go away overnight. Don't be too hard on yourself if you start to build up your emotions or just can't get them out of your mind. Accept whatever comes to mind.Remember that your emotions will fade with time.
- Keep track of your progress. Take some time each weekend to jot down how many times you think about your ex. Over time, you will find yourself remember them less and less.
- If the amount of time you remember them stays the same or increases over time, consider visiting a therapist to discuss how to manage your emotions.
