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Being a parent can be very difficult to see their children grow. This is like they go from cute little children into an age of erratic personality to an independent adult too quickly. Getting used to your children growing up means preparing both you and your baby for each new phase of life. That means being protective but also loosening so that your child can become independent.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Put Your Children in School

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   Keep a positive attitude despite worry and sadness. A positive attitude toward your child's maturity is essential. Think about what your child has learned and be proud of, as well as when you are proud of your child learning to walk or sleep by himself.
   • In the same way, try to appreciate your child's perfecting abilities such as going to school by himself, completing assignments without your help, and making your own decisions.
   • Instead of lamenting how your children are growing up, take pride in them and be proud of yourself because you, with your support and love, have helped your baby to be who it is now.

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   Allow your child to play freely before starting school. The desire to supervise children to guide and protect them is very strong and difficult to control. Often the relaxation of control and also the first challenge for parents and children is to let them play in the yard.
   • Talk to your child and let them know what can be done and what cannot.
   • Allow your child to play, but watch and be ready to respond.
   • When you see your child respect the convention and behave the way you want, you can gradually loosen control and take a step back.

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   Let your child know in advance what to expect at school. Get your child ready by taking daily schedules, expectations, joys and fears as part of going to school. At the same time, prepare for your child to be more independent.
   • Ask your children about what makes them suspicious and afraid and find common answers for them. This will remind you that your child still needs you but in another way.
   • Talk and explain to your child what to expect in kindergarten or school.
   • Practice getting to school by waking up early, preparing a lunch to bring and taking your child to school. Show your child your own class. This will help both you and your child feel emotionally ready when the day is finally here.

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   Make up for the void in your daily routine with something positive. Although you will certainly be busy, you can feel empty in everyday life while your child is at school. Filling the gap with something you enjoy makes the change easier and benefits both you and your baby in the long run.
   • In spite of the fact that you don't have any extra time when your children go to school, it's time to start a new hobby. This moment is like a new phase in your life because it is, and it's a good time to improve yourself, expand your understanding or try something you've always wanted to do.
   • There may be many opportunities for you to volunteer and participate in activities at your child's school. It can be a positive solution and create a new bond between you and your baby. However, be cautious about using such opportunities to continue being "around" with your children. Even at this young age, you need to begin to loosen supervision gradually.
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Part 2 of 3: Orientation of the Transition Period

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   Talk to your child about the physical changes they are going through. Your child is growing, which becomes apparent as you begin to notice changes in his or her body. Use your experience and empathy to guide and ensure your child enters this transition period.
   • The obvious physical changes that appear at this point are due to hormonal changes in the body. The endocrine glands produce hormones that lead to changes in the body.
   • These physical / hormonal changes lead to psychological and emotional changes.
   • Be open to answering questions as your body changes begin. In fact, it's best to start talking about your body's changes before puberty. Tell your child that such changes are normal and part of growth. Be straightforward and honestly answer every question face-to-face, despite any spontaneous discomfort (and between you and your baby).
   • Although many schools offer special classes or classes when your child reaches puberty, don't depend entirely on it. Combining school lessons on body change with your perspective will help your child better arm and encourage him to trust and interact with you as the changes occur.

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   Be prepared to accept erratic emotions at this stage in your child's life. The hormonal changes your baby is going through have a direct effect on the brain. Therefore, children's interests, wants and needs will also change. You can almost certainly know that your feelings of sadness and anger will increase during this period.
   • They may want to be free, even refuse to tell you about their day. But the next day, they may require your attention and want you to listen to them right away. Just listen. They will let you know if they need your opinion or advice.
   • Understand that children love you, even when they act like an erratic arrogant child. These emotional fluctuations are caused by the sudden change in hormone levels in a child's body. But remember that it is true that your child can get angry loudly just to annoy you a little, that doesn't mean they don't love you!

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   Show your child you love and support them. If your child wants to try something new, support him. When you succeed or fail, support them. In this way, you assert your role as a parent and contribute to your child's development.
   • Your child's emotional fluctuations can give you a headache, but remember that they are affected by it too. They are trying to develop their character in the face of such changes, and need your support in this moment.
   • Whatever the problem, show yourself clearly to your child. Let them know that you love them and are there to support them. This will give your child a place to rely on in times of crisis.
   • You should also keep in mind that a child's brain is incomplete before the age of 20. Inadequate brain development can cause emotional turmoil that often upset parents.

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   Accept new, but limited relationships. As children watch for changes in their bodies, they begin a new series of social experiences. That can be revealed by new friendships and the beginning of romantic interests.
   • Maintain open communication. When you accept your child's choices and friends, your child will become less shy and want to talk about what's going on in his or her life.
   • Be willing to accept your child starting out with new groups of friends. Toddlers feel safe in a group. They have a strong desire to be part of a group of friends because they haven't developed their own independent personality yet.
   • Try to stay in relationships and spend time with them, eat dinner and talk with them. You want to be your child's friend.
   • However, you should also set limits as children at this age tend to behave risky. Set clear lines between good and bad behavior, and between healthy and unhealthy relationships.

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   Realize that they won't need you as much, or at least in the same way. This is when your child shows an increased need for independence. For example, your child wants to spend more time with friends than with you.
   • Give your child space, but be ready to be there when you need it. Give your child space to relax and solve their own problems.If you overprotect your children and solve all their problems, they will be hard-pressed to deal with important life issues.
   • This is also a good time to talk about money. The weekly allowance for your kids is probably not just for movies and meals with friends. Seriously discuss your family budget with your child and may help your child earn a little extra money to save. Making money yourself builds self-esteem and independence.

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   Deal with your own stress. Raising a child of any age is hard work, but raising a teenager is harder than anything. While helping your child deal with the stresses of change and the challenges they face, don't forget to control your own stress. If you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to care for your baby.
   • Proactively focus on getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising regularly, relaxing, participating in favorite activities, receiving support from spouse, brothers, friends, etc. to deal with stress.
   • Your child is watching and learning from the things you do, even in puberty and has a tendency to deny your true existence. Show your child that it is necessary to take care of the mind and body.
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Part 3 of 3: Let Your Child Live Independent

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   Understand the concept of "empty home syndrome". You may think that you will enjoy having more free time (and space in the house) when your children live separately, but feel sad and relaxed instead. It can be difficult to let go of your child's independence and adjust later even if you know he is ready.
   • First of all, realize for yourself that your child doesn't need your daily help anymore. Children do not like friends around like before and you are no longer aware of all the problems in their lives. That is normal and feeling sad is also normal.
   • As an experienced parent, understand the changes that are happening in the life of an adult child. Understand that they love you and are not meant to hurt you.
   • It is normal to experience a sense of loss now, even if you are lucky enough to see your baby often. Do not ignore or deny these feelings; Accept them as a natural part of parenting. You have spent your whole life protecting and raising your children, so of course it will be difficult to let them go out of your arms.

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   Make an effort to spend time with your children. When your children become independent adults, it doesn't mean they'll disappear from your life forever. In fact, they may need you more than ever before in other ways. Make the most of the time you spend with your children, whether it is an important day or just a moment's moment.
   • Today's technology allows you to easily contact your children, over the phone or on the internet. Stay in touch and be a part of your child's life as an adult. However, don't overdo it (for example, calling them every day), as you can make them avoid you. Remember that your child is in the process of trying to navigate life as an independent adult.
   • Be ready when your child wants to talk or meet. Don't ignore these opportunities, as you will never know when they will come as your child's adult life gets busier.

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   Learn to live comfortably. Do not cling to children, try to protect them from all bad things. Give your child the freedom to make mistakes and succeed. We all learn best from our own experiences and mistakes.
   • Don't always rush to help your child. Give advice when your child asks for it and be understanding and understanding often. You won't be of any help if you deal with all the problems in their lives.
   • Sometimes your relevant advice will be ignored, and you simply have to accept it as part of your child's life and learning.
   • Support your child's career even if you hope he or she pursues another job. Don't try to use your baby to make your dream come true. When pursuing work with passion, your children will become more confident in themselves.

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   Go on living and doing what you want. Do things you couldn't do while your kids are home. Being a parent is a serious job that requires you to give your child full care and care less about yourself. Deal with the fact that your baby is growing up by spending more time with yourself.
   • Find a hobby or do something you didn't have time to do while your child was around. Focus on fitness and overall health, or spend more time in your career (especially if it's fun).
   • Make plans to hang out with friends. You can compensate for your loneliness by exchanging and sharing experiences.
   • Do what you love to do. You will still be the parent, but don't forget that you are a unified entity. Do you remember all the dreams and ambitions you had before the baby was born? It's time to start thinking and making a plan to realize that dream and ambition.
   • When you consciously make a conscious effort to continue with life after your children mature, you will not feel a loss when your children are separated. It is very difficult and difficult to overcome "empty nest syndrome" but it will be easier if you anticipate and aim to live independently.
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