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Beyoncé once said, "Knowing yourself is the wisest thing a human being can possess. Understanding your goals, preferences, morals, needs, standards, what you won't forgive, and what you It defines who you are. That's right. Also, remember that as you grow older and interact with many different people and experiences, you will gradually develop as a person. If you have trouble understanding yourself, reassess yourself to discover your true self.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Look at yourself more closely

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   Determine what you like and dislike. People often focus on what they like best. It is important to find out what makes you happy and excited, and it's also helpful to know what makes you sad and upset. One of the first steps in a self-assessment is to sit down and make a list of all the likes and dislikes.
   • Your likes and dislikes often indicate how you present yourself to others. These things can separate us or connect us with the people around us. Understanding them helps you to know what you want to improve in life and what to stay away from. Knowing what you like and dislike can help guide your career, place, interests, and type of person.
   • Applying this activity to see if what you like and dislike is too rigid. Are you restraining yourself? Is there something you want to do or try to do that is beyond what you think is theoretical only? Build courage to try something completely new. You can explore another side of yourself.

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   Identify your strengths and weaknesses. Just as the things you like and dislike will give you insight into who you are, understanding your strengths and weaknesses will do the same thing. Write a list of your strengths and abilities on paper.
   • For most people, strengths or talents coincide with what they like, and weaknesses or challenges coincide with what they dislike. Let's say you love pies, cookies, and cakes and your forte is baking - both have connections. On the other hand, maybe you don't like sport and your weakness is physical coordination or stamina.
   • In many cases, challenges can turn out to be something you don't like because you're not naturally good at them. This said reason you like or dislike something.
   • It also makes sense to understand these. However, you can dig deeper and decide whether you are working to improve anything that seems challenging, or if you want to focus your energy on what you are good at.

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   Evaluate what makes you comfortable. We can understand ourselves in the most comfortable conditions, but also gain considerable insight from times when we feel bad. Recall the last time you felt depressed or stressed. In the meantime, what comfort do you want to find? What makes you feel better?
   • Knowing what makes you comfortable tells you a lot about who you are. Maybe you always need someone to lift you up or help you forget something. You can watch your favorite movie or be passionate about reading a certain novel. Comfort can also come from food, which is common among people who put affection in their food and drink.

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   Record your thoughts and feelings in a journal. A great way to learn more about yourself is to be an observer of thoughts and feelings. Practice for a week or so to get a broader view of a topic you think about regularly or to determine the mood you're experiencing. Do you have a positive mindset? Or negative thinking?
   • Reviewing a journal can reveal the way of life you want to be but not aware of. You can re-write about wanting to travel, someone you like, or a new hobby you want to try.
   • After you find a few recurring topics in your journal, take some time to consider the meanings of those thoughts and feelings - and if you want to do them.

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   Take a personality test. Another way to better understand yourself is to complete an online personality assessment. Some people don't like being categorized, while others think categorizing themselves and their behavior bring order to life. If you enjoy discovering yourself by testing you are related (or different) to others, taking an online personality test can be helpful.
   • Some websites like HumanMetrics.com ask you to answer a series of questions (in English) about your interests and how you view the world or yourself. The tool will then analyze your responses to reveal a personality type that can help you learn your interests or careers to promote and how you communicate with people around you.
   • Remember that any free online reviews cannot be considered completely accurate. They just give you a general understanding of who you are. However, if you want an in-depth analysis of your personality, you will need to see a clinical psychologist.
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Part 2 of 3: Ask yourself important questions

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   Dig deeper to know your core values. Values ​​are the basic standards that you truly value, that affect your decisions, your behavior, and your attitudes. These are the beliefs or principles that you will replace or fight for: family, equality, justice, peace, gratitude, trustworthiness, fairness, financial stability, integrity, etc. If you do not know your core values, you will not be able to verify whether your choices are consistent with those values. Discover core values ​​by:
   • Think about two people you admire. What characteristics do you admire about them?
   • Think about a time when you felt really proud. What happened? Did you help someone? Did you achieve your goal? Do you fight for your own interests or that of others?
   • Think about what interests you most in your community or in the world. These may include, but are not limited to, issues such as government, the environment, education, feminism, crime, etc.
   • Think about what 3 items you would save if the house caught fire (assuming everyone was safe). Why would you save those 3 items?

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   Ask if you are living a proud life. As F. Scott Fitzgerald famously put it: "I hope you live a life you are proud of. If you find yourself not proud, I hope you have the strength to start it all over again." ". If you died today, do you think you left behind what you hoped for?

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   Ask yourself what you want to do if the money doesn't matter. When we are children, we often have many lofty dreams. As we mature and suffer more social influences, we change those dreams. Go back to a time when you had a clear dream to fulfill, but it was extinguished for the wrong timing or because you didn't have enough money. Write down how you want to live your day without thinking about your finances. How will you live?

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   Determine what life would be like if you weren't afraid of failure. We often miss out on great opportunities or don't take chances because we worry that we will embarrass ourselves by making mistakes. Lack of confidence can define a lifetime, if you don't try to fix it. Sadly, it's also so powerful that you say "what if" over time. Here are a few ways to overcome your fear of failure, if you think it is holding you back from being the person you want to be:
   • Know that failure is essential. When we make mistakes, we can evaluate our actions and improve our working methods. We grow and learn through failure.
   • Visualize your success. One way to overcome your fear of failure is to constantly imagine yourself accomplishing your goals.
   • Always persevere. Continue to move towards the goals in spite of the defeat. Often times, we achieve our wildest dream the moment we intend to give up. Don't let small failures make you lose your bigger goals.

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   Ask other people what they think of you. Once you've asked a lot of other questions about yourself, meet a few people you are close to and ask what they think of you. Their rating could be a list of traits or examples of a particular moment that, in their opinion, briefly summarize who you are.
   • After consulting with a few relatives or friends, think about their response. How do they describe you? Are you surprised by those reviews? Were you disappointed? Are these understandings consistent with who you want to be or how you see yourself?
   • If you value others' opinions, you may ask yourself what you need to do to better harmonize with their views and yours. Perhaps you have a false view of yourself and need to reassess your actions.
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Part 3 of 3: Consider how you connect with others

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   Find out if you are an introvert or an extrovert. If you've done personality assessments online, one of the factors that can be assessed is whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. These are terms used by Carl Jung to describe the source of your energy in life - from the inside or outside world.
   • Introverted describes a person who receives energy from examining the inner world of thoughts, ideas, memories and reactions. These people enjoy being lonely and may enjoy spending time with one or two people who share the same connection. Maybe they are pensive or discreet. Outward describes a person receiving energy from interacting with the outside world. They love to participate in activities and bond with all types of people. They get excited when they are around others. They can act before they think twice about the decision.
   • Common explanations describe introverts as shy and indifferent, while extroverts are said to be close and outgoing. These explanations are inaccurate because most researchers have understood that these traits represent only partially for personality diversity. No one is 100% introverted or extroverted, they are only inclined to one side or the other under certain circumstances.

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   Choose what kind of friend you want to be. Discovering who you are also includes understanding your expectations, feelings, and actions in relation to your friendship. Think about past friendships. Do you enjoy chatting with your friends every day or rarely? Do you regularly hold meetings or are you just an invitee? Do you value spending time with friends? Do you share something private about yourself with friends or are you very careful about it? Do you support / encourage your friends when they are bored? Do you give up everything when your friends need it? Do you have reasonable demands for friendship (like: not expecting your friends to be around or just being friends with you)?
   • Once you've asked yourself these questions, decide if you're happy with your type of friendliness. If not, talk to your best friend and see if they have advice on how you can be a better friend in the future.

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   Evaluate those around you. It is said that you are the “average” of the 5 people closest to you. This concept is based on the law of average: the outcome of an event will be based on the average of all possible outcomes. This rule also applies to relationships. The person you spend most of your time with will have a strong influence on you - whether you like it or not. Take a closer look at your closest relationships, as these people will also define who you are.
   • Of course, you are yourself, you can make your own decisions and make your own conclusions. However, those around you influence your life in a subtle way. Maybe they will introduce you to new food, fashion, books, and music. Introduce jobs for you. Out at night to party with friends. Cry on your shoulder after breaking up.
   • Do you see some traits of yourself coming from the people closest to you? Are you happy with traits that you influenced by others? Simply put, if you are around someone positive, hopeful, you will feel and act similarly. If you are around negative, bad people, these attitudes can make life boring. If you want to know who you are, look around for the answer.

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   Think about what you do when you are alone. What you do with others reveals a lot about you, but so will what you do when you are alone. Often times, we are strongly influenced by social groups to think, act, and feel in some way. However, when we are completely alone, we are close to what we are - barely socially influenced.
   • When you are alone, how do you spend your time? Not happy to be alone? Are you satisfied? Do you read books in silence? Do you play loud music and dance in front of a mirror? Do you dream about mythical dreams?
   • Think about those activities and find out what they say about you.
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Advice

• Spend a few days or weeks fully exploring each of your self-discovery exercises so you can identify who you really are. Don't do all of the exercises at once.
• Accept who you are, no matter what others say. Only you can decide who you are!

What you need

• A notebook / diary and pen