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Everyone asks when you're going to have a baby and you start to get upset. When a family member asks you this question, the situation becomes a bit more difficult because you may feel you owe them an answer. However, the timing of the birth announcement depends on you and the person you love. If you are not ready, distract the question or give an indirect answer. After all, you can always tell the truth to dispel any questions.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Distract the question

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   Change the topic when someone mentions your kids. Let's quickly move on to another topic when this question appears. It may seem quite sudden, but if you do so many times, your family will understand that you don't want to talk about children.
   • For example, if someone gives you a hint about the birth of a baby, you could say "Did you hear that Aunt An has a grandchild?
   • In addition, let's start a discussion about popular stars' maternity leave. Ask if Miss Thu thinks Miss Pham Huong is really pregnant or is she just gaining weight. Switching to a more humorous and gentle topic will help you avoid being noticed.

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   Leave the conversation when the topic of the children comes up. Before your family has a chance to ask questions, get permission to get up and do another job. You should take this step as soon as the topic of children is brought up so that you won't be asked about your own story.
   • For example, you could say, "I'm sorry, I need to go out for a while."

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   Let's say you don't want to answer this question. Sometimes, you need to set reasonable limits with your family.Let them know that you don't want to answer that question and move on to another story.
   • You can say "Thank you for asking but I don't want to talk about it yet."
   • Alternatively, you could say, "I understand you care about my family, but you and I won't talk about it until we decide the right time."

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   Agree with your lover from before. Plan ahead with your partner about what to say. This way, your family members won't feel offended when you tell them that you two won't talk about it, while your partner tells your loved ones everything.
   • In general, you should keep this private. This means that maybe one of you wants to discuss your birth plan with other family members, while the other just wants to keep quiet. In this case, it is probably best to agree with someone who wants to keep it confidential.
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Method 2 of 3: Give a straight answer

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   Tell the person this is uncomfortable. This method helps you to express your feelings and makes it easier for the asker to understand you. By saying this question makes you uncomfortable, you prevent similar topics in the future.
   • For example, you could say, "I appreciate you wanting to know when we are going to have a baby, but this is our own matter with him, and actually this question also makes me uncomfortable."

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   Choose a vague but acceptable response in response to a loved one. You don't have to feel overwhelmed when someone asks you this question. Choose a vague answer every time someone asks so you don't have to think about what you need to say anymore. After a certain amount of time, your family will give up.
   • Say, "We'll give birth when we're ready."
   • Alternatively, you can also reply, "Must be a few years."

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   Respond to that question by saying that you are already family. This method is very effective if you are not sure when to give birth. This will show people that you have felt a complete self, and that they should stop asking when you will have a real family.
   • For example, you could say, "We see we already have a family. We have jobs and cats, and we love playing with the kids!"

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   Tell your loved one when you are ready, let them know. Your loved one just wants to be involved, and most of them would love to have an extra baby in the house. By saying you will post later, you are implying that you really want to let them join, just that you are not ready right now.
   • For example, you could say, "I know we love having kids in the house, but we're not ready. When we decide to have grandchildren, we will notify us first."
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Method 3 of 3: Tell the truth

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   Communicate plans to loved ones before meetings. If you are afraid of being cornered during family events, talk to each household member individually first. Explain your birth plan to them. You can answer the specific questions they ask before meeting the whole family.

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   Say you have a reproductive health problem. Sometimes a blunt answer is the best way to get people to stop wondering. Of course you should only answer this if you are really having problems conceiving and feel comfortable sharing that. Often people will stop asking questions once you've made it clear that you have a problem.
   • For example, you could say, "Actually, we're trying, but we're having trouble giving birth. Maybe in a year or two, we'll adopt a baby."

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   Let the person know that your situation is not right now. Whether you don't have enough space in your home to have more children, or you don't have the money to support children, be polite to tell everyone about it. That will make them understand that one day you will be ready, but in the near future you are not planning to have a baby.
   • For example, you could say, "I know our parents are ready to have grandchildren, but we really can't afford a mouthful. We don't want to have a baby until we have enough money." .

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   Let them know that you want to strengthen your relationship first. Many couples want to make sure they have a strong relationship before having a baby. You can tell your loved one that it can take a few years to let them know.
   • For example, you might say, "You know, we want to wait a few years before the baby is born. We want to have a strong relationship before we become a parent."

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   Tell him you don't want to have a baby. If you're not going to have a baby, it's best to be honest. This may disappoint them, but your family will have more time to deal with that disappointment if you speak early now.
   • For example, you could say "Actually, a family like this is enough for us. We think that if we don't need more children, a family is perfect, so we won't have children."
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Advice

• Leave the room to calm down if annoying words start to get in your way.
• Please be patient. Your family members just want to know when they can pamper a cute baby.
• When they ask, just saying "Soon" is enough.