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Are you still cheating in love? One of the most important steps in gaining love is allowing yourself to open up, so remove your protective cover. If you're not ready to date someone, step out of your comfort zone and try to meet new people. When you start dating, keep positive thoughts and get to know the other person comfortably. Note, you can't rush with love; Be patient, don't try to force everything to go your way and let the emotions develop naturally.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Allow yourself to open up

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   Identify your barriers. Ask yourself if you are in cover to avoid injury. Opening up with someone can be risky, so it's okay to feel scared of getting too close to someone. To fall in love, you need to open your heart and understand your hurdles as the first step in overcoming it.
   • If you have had a few relationships in the past, think about times when you have avoided showing intimate with your partner. For example, don't express your feelings out of fear that they might not feel the same way.
   • It can be difficult to think about your barrier, especially when it is often related to past trauma. Be honest with yourself and remember that everyone has fear and insecurity.

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   Accept the things that you cannot change about yourself. Nobody is perfect and you should accept who you really are. Loving yourself can make it easier for you to open up to your partner and develop feelings for them.
   • That means you can always change. For example, you cannot increase or decrease your height, but you can eat healthily and exercise for the best health.
   • Remind yourself that you are a great person, and that you have a lot of good qualities! You can look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I'm a good person, don't be afraid to show yourself! Take off your protective cover and allow yourself to be loved ”.

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   Transform overly critical thoughts. Everyone has a critic at heart, and sometimes self-criticism can become irrational and impractical. If you find yourself thinking about things like "I'm not good" or "They'll never love me," stop that thought and remind yourself to see things objectively.

   Advice: Every time you have negative critical thoughts, convert them. Instead of saying, "I never do a good job," tell yourself, "Nobody is perfect, but I just keep doing my best. It is normal to make mistakes sometimes ”.

   
   

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   Avoid playing tag. Playing a game of chasing and suppressing your emotions is a common practice in dating today. However, it's better to state your true feelings. You don't have to say small details on your first date, but be honest instead of playing tag.
   • For example, if you had an interesting date with someone, let them know. Don't hesitate to send them a text message “Thank you for the enjoyable evening! I'm really happy ”if you want to. You don't have to wait 3 days before calling or pretending not to care for them to follow you.
   • Opening up is an important part of building an intimate relationship. You don't have to admit your deepest feelings right away, but you and your significant other won't be able to fall in love with chasing.

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   Don't be afraid to be rejected. Unrequited love for someone will hurt you, but this is not for anyone. You can get over the pain, even if at that moment you thought you couldn't. However, you will miss out on many wonderful things about love if you don't allow yourself to take risks.
   • If you choose to go out and then stumble, don't see it as the end. Relationships end for many reasons. Not getting along with someone doesn't mean you have a problem.
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Method 2 of 3: Meet new people

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   Step out of your comfort zone instead of relying on fate. If you are not ready to date, try to chat with new people, such as chatting with the person in line behind while waiting for the check in the supermarket, greeting someone at the coffee shop or having lunch with Someone at school or work.
   • Finding love can sometimes take a lot of effort. Don't just wait and assume that the perfect lover will find you. Go out and meet people to see what kind of person you want to love.
   • Even if you are not interested in dating someone, it can help you become more comfortable communicating.

   A few tips for talking

   "The coffee here is the best, don't you think?"

   “Hi - I just saw your book. Hemingway is my favorite author! ”

   “The weather today is so beautiful! I don't know how you are, but I'm ready for spring. ”

   “I felt that yesterday's homework was countless. And what do you see? "

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   Make time for a new hobby or join a club. A new hobby can help you meet new people and get you out of your comfort zone. Get involved in activities that relate to your interests. That way, you will have something in common with the people you meet.
   • For example, if you enjoy reading, join a reading club. You can also take a cooking class, yoga or rock climbing, or join a soccer or basketball club. If you are a student-student, join a school club. If you have a dog, you can take him to the park and meet dog lovers.

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   Try online dating. Briefly introduce yourself with the vivid language of your resume. You can mention a few hobbies, but don't overstate yourself. As for images, be sure to choose photos that look directly into the camera and bring out your sunny smile.
   • Stay calm and trust your intuition when meeting other people online. You can chat over a dating app or website, then swap numbers when you feel comfortable. Talk on the phone before you meet up and only make appointments in public.
   • Note, online dating is for adults only. If you are under 18, choose to meet lots of people at school, through friends or extracurricular activities.

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   Make a list of the qualities you want from your partner. When you go out and meet new people, don't assume that everything will be fine if you meet a potential audience. Intuition is only partial, and you still need a list of traits the person should have.
   • For example, perhaps accountability, honesty, and humor tops your list. If you have goals, such as having children or traveling around the world, find someone who shares your ideal relationship.
   • Although looks play an attractive role, you should not consider this as a top priority. The most important thing is to find someone who appreciates and accepts who you really are.

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   Avoid hasty judgment. Whether you meet someone in class or online, try to think outside the box. Knowing the qualities you want from your partner can help, but don't make hasty judgments and assume someone isn't right for you.
   • Likewise, never say that you are not worthy of someone. Keep an objective perspective and don't lower yourself.
   • Open your heart to the opportunities. You may end up with feelings for the person you least expect.
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Method 3 of 3: Building long-term cohesion

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   Try to keep a positive and open attitude. When you date someone, focus on having fun with them. Enjoy learning about them, try new things with them and let them know more about you. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself and the person you are dating.
   • For example, during your first few dates with someone, you might ask questions and show a sincere interest in their responses. If the two are compatible, you will be very excited to learn about their childhood or hobbies.
   • Even after you have fallen in love with someone, you still need to keep a positive and open attitude. Having a crush is something you cannot control, but in order to stay emotionally active, you need to make choices. Choose to have fun, learn more about each other and share new experiences.

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   Communicate with the person openly. Communication is always important, even if you are in the learning phase or have been married for many years. Communicate deeply with each other often, such as sharing your hopes and fears, telling funny stories, and talking about how healthy the relationship is.
   • For in-depth conversations, choose a time that is not as busy as during or after dinner. Ask open-ended questions like, "What was the most interesting thing for you today?" instead of asking questions just answering yes or no.

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   Communicate goals and plans. Let's share your feelings about the relationship and your wishes for the future. As the relationship strengthens, the two of you can discuss goals like getting married, having children, and buying a home.
   • Meeting each other's needs is a factor that contributes to the creation of love. Sharing and helping each other accomplish your goals can strengthen the bond between you and your ex.
   • Besides, it will be better if you both have the same goals in life. For example, if you are ready to build a home, you probably won't want to be in a serious relationship with someone who doesn't want to have children.

   Advice: The right time to talk about cohabitation and engagement will depend on your relationship. Let's cover these topics lightly. You might ask, "Do you want to have children in the future?" or "When do you think people who love each other are ready to live together?"

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   Share new experiences to create a new relationship. Being comfortable with your partner is wonderful, but you don't want to get stuck in the familiarity. Let's try new things together and visit new places to deepen your feelings. If you feel the relationship needs more "spice up," talk to your partner about refreshing familiar things.
   • Schedule regular evening dates, but don't do the same activity over and over. You can try new restaurants or cuisines, or explore new places in the city.
   • Take on an interesting challenge or learn a new skill together. You can also skydive, go hiking or rock climbing, or take a cooking class.

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   Show interest in each other's passions. Encourage each other to pursue interests other than the relationship. You will give each other space to practice their own hobbies, but still support each other.
   • For example, your lover is someone who likes to run long distance. The two of you can enjoy many other activities together, but practice is something they need to do alone. You will give them space but still cheer them on in the races saying, "I'm so proud that you beat my best this week!"
   • When a relationship is ripe, lovers often feel like they've somewhat lost themselves. Pursuing common and personal goals can help you and your significant other maintain a lasting loving relationship.

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   Good gestures for each other. Using small gestures of love is also a great way to show your love for that person. For example, write the note "I love you, have a good day!" before they go to work, or wash the dishes after they prepare dinner. Good gestures can really nurture your emotions.
   • If you feel like you are slowly falling out of love with your spouse or long-term lover, small gestures of kindness will help. Take the initiative to write words of love, buy gifts for them and help them with housework. When they notice your effort in the relationship, they will do the same.

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   Handle conflicts in a healthy way. Point out a problem or behavior in a calm and constructive manner instead of attacking the other person. Disagree is inevitable in all relationships. Proper handling of conflict plays a very important role in love.
   • For example, say “I feel like I'm doing a lot of housework. Can you help me with any part? " will be constructive, but "You're very lazy and I hate it" has an offensive connotation.
   • When resolving a conflict, avoid getting angry at the past, re-ignoring the past, threatening to break up in a lack of clarity, or making a sarcastic comment.
   • If you or your significant other needs space to calm down, don't just walk away and get cold together. Instead, say, “I think we need space to calm down. Let's talk about this when you're both out of anger. ”

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   Let the relationship develop naturally, rather than push it hard. Try to let go of the need to control the outcome of the relationship. In love, you can't always control the situation; So please try to be patient. You cannot decide to love someone or force someone to love you.
   • If you are worried about being out of control, take a deep breath and tell yourself, “Don't worry and don't take the problem seriously. You enjoy being with the person and that is the most important thing right now. If the two of you can't get together in the future, it's fine! ”
   • Over time, you will find many people who seem potential but cannot go very far with you. There is no way to force yourself to fall in love. If you are dating someone but are not in love, take it as a learning opportunity. Gradually, you will find someone who is right for you.
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Advice

• Don't fall in love with someone just because they look good, behave well to you, or don't mind spending money on you. True love is built on respect, trust and compassion for one another.
• Regular dating can help you determine what's right and not for you. If you've just started dating, don't try to take the problem seriously or expect to find someone for you right away.
• Love looks scary! Opening up and revealing secret things to someone will take time; so please be patient with each other.
• If you've ever had hurt in the past, remember that it's not caused by someone in the present. You should leave the past and live in the present with your partner.
• If you find it difficult to take off your protective cover or experience love, try talking to a therapist. They can help you understand and overcome your barriers.