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You are trying to get to know someone. Email, dating sites, and messaging services can make communicating with friends and family more convenient, but it's hard to get to know someone new when you're not in person. More and more people are meeting their friends, partners and spouses online online and this is something that confuses everyone! Be curious, but not pressured; relax, and try to be yourself.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Start a conversation

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   Stop thinking too much. If you're trying to get to know someone (and probably flirt with them), the goal of early online chats is to help them understand who you are. You want to be yourself, and following the script will only get you far from your goals.
   • Starting an online chat is difficult for most people. You are not the first and you are not the last.
   • In the worst case scenario, this becomes an experience. In the best case, you will have a deep relationship with someone. No cases will happen until you test.

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   Choose the right time. Text the person while they're online. It is easier to start a conversation right then and there instead of waiting for them to respond later.
   • Choose when you don't have to move. You don't want to be stressed, and you want a smooth conversation to give you a chance to progress.

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   Start small. Send the person a brief text and ask how they are doing these days. For example, "Hi, how are you these days?". You will talk more comfortably once you start - no return!
   • They will usually answer the question "how are you doing" and then ask you again. Please prepare an answer.
   • Avoid blunt answers like "I'm fine"Anyone can say" okay. "Tell that person who you are, "I'm having a lot of fun! Today, my friends and I discovered an abandoned house on the hill. It was great, but very creepy."or "My dance team became the national team. I'm really excited!’
   • Mention things that interest you but avoid bragging.

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   Ask about common interests. Here's how to initiate a classic and sincere conversation. If you're in the same class, ask what homework is. If you share a club, ask about the upcoming event. That allows you to start talking naturally, removing the initial barrier for a more detailed conversation.
   • Try saying: "Oh, I forgot to do my English homework today. Have you done it?"’
   • Or: "Hey, you know when the next contest is going to take place? I didn't notice when the coach announced during today's training session ...’

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   Compliment them. If someone does something commendable, of course praise them. This is another great way to start a conversation and make your significant other feel appreciated. Don't overdo it - moderate compliments or they'll feel you're flattering.
   • If you are in the same class: "You did a great job today! I never thought I knew so much about Ulysses S. Grant!’
   • If you are in the same group: "You did a great job in the 91 km sprint today. You really supported the team well’.

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   Ask a question. If you've ever met someone on the dating site OKCupid or the dating app Tinder, you probably don't have any real life connections to chat with. Ask the person an open-ended question about themselves. Their profiles will inspire you.
   • For example: "I see you like hip hop. Are there any good shows lately?’
   • Or: "I like your beard. How long have you been growing your beard?’

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   Be careful with hacksaw. Cynicism can have the opposite effect of expectations: they work for some, but cause others to run away. Jawgying words are as cheesy or tempting, especially if they're different from what you think about yourself. Impress with sincerity, and if that includes jokes — be yourself! advertisement

Part 2 of 3: Continuing the conversation

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   Be ready to join the conversation. Read messages and respond carefully. Talking is about observing cues and understanding what people say. While you talk to the person, pay attention to the content and progress of the conversation.
   • In this respect, chatting online will be even easier than talking in person. You will be able to review the conversation if you need to remember a specific detail.

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   Make a question. Please really care about that person. Science has proven that people love to talk about themselves. If you ask someone, they'll have a lot to say.
   • Ask questions leading to other questions. If you ask "What kind of music do you like?"and they replied "I like a lot of music — rock, pop, punk. I watch many local music programs"- ask them, "Are there any music shows recently?’
   • Avoid asking yes-or-no questions. A simple "yes" or "no" answer can end a conversation. If you need to ask a question with a basic answer or two possibilities, prepare your next question.

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   Don't get too curious. Be careful with sensitive topics. You will have to use your intuition, but here's a general rule of thumb: Don't ask anyone a question you don't want to answer yourself.

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   Turn your answers into questions. The conversation requires reciprocity, and you need to resume after the conversation if you want the conversation to go on. When you send a message, end with a question for the other person to answer.
   • Think of a conversation like a ball game. If you catch the ball, that's great - but the game can't continue until you throw the ball back to someone else.
   • Don't just say, "I had a great day. I think I did well on my math test!" Say, "I had a great day. I think I did well on my math test! How about you?’

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   Don't be afraid to talk about yourself. There's a delicate balance here: if you overwhelm the conversation and just talk about yourself, the other person will feel selfish or smug; But if you do not disclose any personal information, you will be just a mystery.
   • Be sincere. If you lie — weave information about yourself as someone else — it will backfire. The needle in the wrap will one day come out.
   • If the other person asks about you, answer - but try to turn your response into a question. For example, if asked about your dog say: "It's Duke. It's a Border Collie. We saved him from a cave three years ago, and now he's a member of the family. Do you have pets?’

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   Use emoticons and image characters, but don't overdo them. Emojis like ":)" and ": 3" can bring emotion and spice up your words to complement an objective online environment. They can make you like you and make you more friendly. However, emojis can reveal a lot about your feelings: if someone uses a lot of smiley faces, they probably like you.
   • There's nothing wrong with expressing your feelings, but depending on the situation you might want to joke around or until you get to know someone better. Be careful with emoticons and what they mean.
   • If you want to cleverly let the person know that you like them, use ":)". As a rule of thumb: use that icon in conversation when you're actually smiling in real life :)

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   Don't force it. If the person only answered your question in one word, regardless of your best efforts, they probably don't want to talk to you right now. If the conversation seems forced, end and try again next time.
   • It is not necessarily your fault! It is difficult to know how someone feels, especially online. Perhaps the person doesn't want to talk because they feel depressed, they have a lot to do, or they just quarreled with their parents.
   • If you try to talk to someone a lot and they don't seem to like it - stop it. Try to spend more time in person with them if you can, but only if you have a good reason to do so.
   • Give them their own space. No one likes the feeling of pressure. Better let someone go instead of making them feel bad.
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Part 3 of 3: End the conversation and make a plan

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   Talk until there's nothing left to say. Maybe you're really out of topic for conversation, or need to go somewhere. Either way, you'll need to say goodbye to your partner.
   • Say, "Ah, I have to go to school. Nice to talk to you. Have a great day."
   • Consider saying you have to go, even if you're not really right go.This is an easy way to end a conversation without feeling rude.

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   Don't feel like you need a formal plan. Online chats follow a slightly different protocol than live chat. It's not too formal. Unless your opponent has limited internet access, you do not need to arrange a "second appointment". You can say, "Let's talk again once in a while!"
   • If the conversation goes well, just text the person back in 1 or 2 days while you're both online. This time, you should get to know each other more. Make more conversations based on the information and joke you originally shared.
   • If your partner can only access the internet at a certain time or place (say about 3 hours each afternoon, or just at the library), make a formal plan. Such as, "I really enjoy talking to you. I know that you don't always go online - can I schedule a talk with you on Tuesday?’

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   Be careful. If you plan to have a face-to-face meeting, use your best judgment of the situation. A chat can tell you a lot, and people are not always the same as they say online.
   • Consider talking to the person more online before you move on to meeting in person.
   • If you are using an online dating site like OKCupid or Tinder, you can decide to see the other person soon — or immediately. Use your best judgment. If you meet a stranger, tell a friend the information about where you are going and who you will meet. Bring your phone with you, and meet in public (such as a coffee shop) during the day if possible.
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