Content

• To step
• Tips
• Warnings

Okay, you really screwed up this time! She's furious with you, and you don't know if she'll ever forgive you! Should you send her flowers? Bringing her favorite pastry? Buy her a new BMW? Maybe even say you're sorry, whatever they say in the movies? Let's run through the options for a minute so we can help you fix it.

To step

1. Be the first to apologize. Apologies mean a lot, but only if they are sincere. Apologize. Say something like "I'm sorry my actions caused anyone discomfort." This roughly translates to "Well, sorry you stepped on your toes so quickly!"
   • "Honey, sorry I pissed you off trying to hook up with your sister, I was very drunk" isn't very good. You're putting the blame on your girlfriend by saying she's angry. You also try to cover yourself with it. So it's not really an apology.
   • Rather say something like "Honey, sorry for my behavior. It was inappropriate, and I have no explanation for it. It will never happen again." She will not forgive you right away, but at least you have taken responsibility for your actions and expressed regret. You don't blame anyone but yourself. That is very important.
2. Write an apology letter. Sometimes words are not enough. No matter how horrible or insignificant what you did, when you write a letter, you let her know that you realize that you are to blame. It shows her how sorry you are, and that you will never do it again. Moreover, it gives her something she can, and will, reread. You can add a little extra force to your attempt by having the letter delivered with a bunch of flowers.
   • In the example above, you may have not one, but two letters to write. The first letter, with roses (or whatever her favorite flower is), to your friend; the second letter to her sister. Don't send her sister a bunch of flowers unless it's a bouquet you could give your mom too.
3. Tell her how much you love her. Tell her you're sorry and you never meant to hurt her. Now is a good time to wrap up the conversation and leave.
4. Let the matter cool down for a moment. Don't keep making excuses. She will only get more angry than she already is. Have your say and apologize. If you live with her, take a walk. Or look for a present. Stay away from each other for a while. If you don't live together, go home.
5. Speak up the next day. E-mail or text her, and talk a little about the little ones. This allows the conversation to start on the right track again. However, you cannot completely ignore the fact that you were wrong.
6. Give her time if she needs it. She may never forgive you. There is no other option than to wait for her.

Tips

• Don't let anyone else apologize for you, instead of yourself. Be a guy and face the consequences.
• Tell her you love her, but only if you mean it.
• Sometimes it is better not to tell her what you are going to change. This can make her even more angry. No words but deeds.
• Never ask a friend why she is angry! She will only get more angry with you and her friend. If she wanted you to know why, she would have told you.
• The interaction between apology and forgiveness is a natural part of human life. If you're sincere, and haven't screwed up too much, and if she's forgiving, then you can count your blessings and do whatever your heart tells you to do.
• If you've told her how sorry you are, you can ask her a few things about herself. Make her feel special again.
• If you know her, ask her mother for advice. Sometimes mothers just know best. The mother can also try to glue things together. For this you need to be fairly close to her mother.
• Make her feel loved. Kisses, sex, and romance are always good.

Warnings

• Don't keep apologizing all the time. It will eventually irritate her.
• Tell her you'll never do it again, and that you promise never to hurt her again. And don't do that. There is a term for chronic excuses: abuse.
• Don't keep going on about it, or rake it up if she's already forgiven you.
• Don't rush her to give the answer. If everything's okay, she'll let you know.
• Don't act like an idiot. Don't hit walls or hurt yourself. You may think this is the only way to vent your anger, but she will probably only get scared of you.
• Never tell a girl she's "hot." Girls don't like that. Tell her she's "beautiful."
• Don't ask her too many questions. You don't want to scare her.
• Try to seem upset, but don't overdo it!
• Do not give her a long-lasting keepsake or jewelry. This is not exactly a time to want to remember.