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Tired of those awkward silences between you and your boyfriend? Once you've gotten to know someone well, it can be difficult to come up with new topics to talk about. However, it is not impossible! Follow these steps to keep your conversations fresh and interesting. Whether those conversations take place in person, online, or over the phone does not matter.

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1. Ask him about topics that you know will interest him. People generally enjoy talking about themselves or their interests. Why? Because those are things they know a lot about and have thought about a lot. Here are some examples:
   • How his day went
   • Past experiences (where he lived as a child, what he enjoyed doing, which family members are important to him, etc.)
   • His hobbies
   • His favorite activities
   • His favorite books, movies, music, etc.
2. Stay informed. If you can find the time to read or watch the news, you'll end up with multiple topics in your arsenal. Keep up to date with current affairs, funny movies, or television programs. If the conversation is bleeding out a bit, ask your friend if he has heard or seen [this and that] yet. If so, then you can talk about what you got from it. And if he hasn't seen or heard about it, now is the perfect time to tell him about it.
3. Talk about hypothetical situations. Would you rather be deaf or blind? Would you rather eat spinach for the rest of your life, or listen to Christmas carols every day of the rest of your life for at least 8 hours? Try to sketch fun, interesting, or complicated situations, and ask your friend what he would like. When he answers, you can ask him to explain his choice.
   • Play devil's advocate. Refute his choice with a counter-argument, so that he is forced to reevaluate his choice. Make it clear that you are just trying to make the conversation more interesting; not that you really disagree with him about everything.
   • Other hypothetical questions might be: "What keeps you up at night?" "If you could live your life again, what would you do differently?" "What could you not live without?" had ten things, what would they be? "
4. Ask him to tell you something you don't know. This could be something about yourself, or about a particular topic that you don't know about. Whatever it is, at least you will learn something. If you want to be more specific, you can also ask him to tell you about one of his hobbies.
   • For example, choose something that arouses nostalgia in him. Ask him about his first memories, his first day at school, his first toy, and the first birthday party he can remember. This is an excellent way to get to know him better and find out what he was like as a child.
5. Ask him quirky questions. This can lead to pleasant questions if the mood is already right. Questions such as "Do you still believe in Sinterklaas?"; “If you had to choose between TV and the Internet, which one would you get rid of if you had to ?; and,“ If there weren't any clocks, what do you think life would be like? ”Keep the conversation light and entertaining. no wrong answers!
   • Tell him some funny jokes and have a laugh with him (assuming he has a good sense of humor).
6. Be complimentary. Tell him how and why you really liked a particular date. Say for example. "I loved it so much that you took me out for dinner back then. It was such a beautiful restaurant, and I felt extra special."
7. Discuss the future. Talk about the things you would like to do someday. You might want to go to Jamaica, star in a play, write a novel, or live on a boat. Ask him about his dreams. Here are some options:
   • Which school you want to go to
   • What you want to study
   • Where you want to live
   • Which countries you want to visit
   • Possible hobbies
   • What you want to become
8. Play a game. This can be a board game, but also an online game, or a video game - whatever you want. When you play against each other, you can gently "trash tal" him. If you are on the same team, you can discuss strategies and tactics. Try these classics:
   • chess
   • Checkers
   • Scrabble
   • Bullying
   • Monopoly
   • Pokemon Go
9. Listen carefully. The art of conversation also includes listening carefully and encouraging the other to talk more. Show your friend that you are genuinely interested in what he has to say. Acknowledge what he is saying by responding in the affirmative. Use your body language when he is speaking and summarize some aspects of his story. That way he knows that you are listening to him.
   • If the relationship is early and you experience a lot of silences, try not to let the conversations last longer than an hour. Talking too much can make the fresh relationship seem dull and stale.
   • Let him know you're still here. The cows and calves can quickly be exchanged for silence.

Tips

• Never tell him you don't deserve him because he's too good for you. Rather, tell him you really appreciate him!
• If you make fun of him, make sure he isn't embarrassed. That can lead to awkward silences or a bad impression.
• Relax! He's your boyfriend, don't forget that. And when the conversation runs out, the awkward silence will be broken faster than you thought possible.
• Always tell your friend how you feel.
• Flirt. A lot of guys love the thrill of the chase, and miss it when they are in a relationship.
• If it gets uncomfortable, or if you have run out of conversation material, you can choose to play a game of "Do it, dare, or the truth". This can spice up a boring conversation!
• Be yourself, and don't pretend to be what you are. You will only get nervous trying to be "perfect." Remember that he chose you for who "you" are.
• Always be yourself with him.
• Be yourself by being honest about how you are.
• Sometimes guys would rather be respected than loved. Be careful not to undermine his manhood by criticizing the things he says or does. A slightly different choice of words or a slightly different tone can make a huge difference.
• Tell him if you are shy or quiet. He loves you, he will understand.
• Hold his hand when you talk. For some people, the silence becomes a little less uncomfortable.
• He's your boyfriend, you should be able to talk to him about anything.
• Don't be shy with him.
• Put on a movie or a piece of music to break the awkwardness. The music, a celebrity, or a movie can also provide additional conversation material.
• Tell him the benefits of your family and your hobbies. This will make him ask questions to revive the conversation.
• Ask him to go for a walk with you. This can create a relaxing and peaceful climate.
• Monopoly and Scrabble are good games for breaking the ice. A video game for two players is good too.
• Talk about something funny you heard in the news. Like how Honey Boo Boo's mom was getting married to Mama June, and the crazy dress she was wearing.

Warnings

• Don't lie, just to have some conversation.
• Forget your previous boyfriends. If he hears you talk about them, it can make him uncomfortable, especially if you praise or denigrate them. He will wonder if he is up to their standard and will not be able to appreciate the comparisons.
• Don't try to complain and whine. Nobody can appreciate that for long. If it becomes a habit, it will show your lack of self-esteem. He may feel like you have to mess with others just to have something to say.
• Never say "I love you" to start a conversation. Say it when you are absolutely ready. He will feel uncomfortable if this sentence is used to fill in a sentence. You too, by the way.
• Topics to avoid in a fledgling relationship: marriage, kids, expensive gifts, and the fact that you don't like his family. Be careful with conversations about the future of the two of you "as a couple." Wait until you both know that you are made for each other.
• Don't brag or gossip about your friends. You hit a mud figure with this.