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• Method 1 of 2: Make a plan for the interview
• Method 2 of 2: Ask your friend out

Telling your boyfriend that you like him is scary, but it's also the only way to know for sure if he likes you too. If he's single, be brave and ask him! Then you no longer have to spend time wondering how it might be. If he says he's not interested you can start getting over it, and if he is interested you can finally go on that date you've been dreaming of!

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Method 1 of 2: Make a plan for the interview

1. Don't ask your crush out on a date if he's currently in a relationship. Although there is a very slim chance that he will leave his relationship to be with you, it is very rare. Most of the time, he will find it uncomfortable and see it as a threat to his current relationship. Find out if he's single before asking him out. You should also try to find out what his sexuality is if you're not sure. It's a good idea to find out if he's gay, bi, or straight to know if you have a shot depending on your gender.
   • If you really like your boyfriend who is in a relationship or doesn't like people of your gender, try dating other people to get yourself thinking about something else.
2. Write down what you want to say in advance. This will help you feel less nervous during the actual questioning process. Make a note on your phone or a piece of paper. Work on it until it feels right. You won't actually start reading it out loud when you ask your friend out, but it can help you feel less nervous if you've thought about what to say ahead of time.
   • Write something like, “I've been feeling like I like you as more than a friend lately, and was wondering if you'd like to go on a date with me? No pressure, though! "
3. Practice what you want to say. When you've captured the general idea of ​​what you want to say, practice it in front of the mirror. If you're comfortable with it, practice it in front of a friend. Your friend can give you feedback on how you sound, and whether you could say something better in a different way.
   • Remember it's okay to look a little nervous. Everyone knows asking a friend out is scary. Just focus on sounding clear and casual.
4. Tell the person you like that you want to speak to them privately. If your crush is single then it's time to be brave and ask him out. Talking in real life is the best way to do it because it is much easier to gauge someone's reactions and emotions in real life instead of via WhatsApp. It is also better to have this conversation in private, because you will be very vulnerable.
   • If he says yes, it is good that you have had the conversation in private, in case you want to make out.
   • If you are really shy to ask him out in person, you can ask him out via text message.
   • You can tell him something like, "Can we meet in the park after school? I have something I want to talk to you about," or "I need to talk to you about something. Can you meet in private somewhere this week?" send.
   • If you're worried he'll think something is wrong you can add, "Don't worry, it's nothing bad."
5. Encourage yourself. Remind yourself of all your good traits, or have a friend remind you if you're too nervous. Remember, you are a wonderful, valuable person who deserves love, and the person you like may also like you. And if your current crush rejects you, it says nothing about your value as a person. Maybe the timing is wrong, or he is interested in someone else, or he has just as much on his mind right now.
   • Giving yourself a pep talk will boost your confidence and prepare yourself for the conversation.
   • Tell yourself something like, "I am a sweet, creative person and he would be happy to date me." Remind yourself of your characteristics that you are most proud of, such as your courage, honesty, work ethic, or zest for life. Maybe you are a great dancer or basketball player, or you always make your friends laugh. Tell yourself all the reasons why you are great.
   • Tell yourself, "I'm beautiful. I deserve love. If he doesn't like me someone else will."
6. Prepare support in case of rejection. Prepare yourself for the worst. Your friend may reject you, and you may feel very sad. Recognize that this is a possibility. Everyone experiences a broken heart at some point in their life, and that is very difficult, but with time you can get over it. Before asking your friend out, you can have another friend come over to support you with big hugs and encouragement, instead of sitting alone.
   • It will feel less scary knowing that your other friend is cheering you on and is just a phone call away.
   • This way you will also have someone to celebrate with when things go well!

Method 2 of 2: Ask your friend out

1. Recognize that what you are about to say may be surprising. Telling him this can prepare him a little emotionally for what you are going to say so that he is not shocked. It also indicates that you are thinking about his feelings and expecting his feelings so that he won't feel guilty if he shows surprise.
   • Say, "I know this may be surprising but I just wanted to let you know how I've been feeling lately."
2. Ask him out clearly, but casually. Be clear about the fact that you like him as more than a friend, but don't express your infinite love. That would be shocking if he never thought of you that way before.
   • Say something like, "Lately, I've been feeling like I like you as more than a friend. I was wondering if you'd like to go on one?"
   • Avoid asking, "Do you like me too?" or, “Do you want to be my boyfriend?” because he may not have feelings for you yet, but he may be open to the opportunity to go on a date.
   • It is very important to be clear and to use scary words like "date" or else he may not understand that you are asking him out.
3. Make it seem like your feelings are recent. If he says yes and you start a relationship, you can later tell him the truth about how long you've liked him, if it's been a long time. Otherwise, it's better to keep it a secret to make your friendship feel less uncomfortable.
   • Even if you've been in love with your boyfriend for months or years, say, "Lately, I've been feeling ..." so he doesn't panic.
   • This takes the pressure off, and it's not really a lie, because "recently" and "lately" can be defined in many different ways.
4. Be clear that your friendship is your top priority. Make it clear that you weren't friends with him just because you wanted to date him. Your boyfriend will feel more comfortable knowing that he won't lose your friendship whether he wants to go out with you or not.
   • Say, "Our friendship is my top priority, so if you don't want to go out, I understand that, and I don't want this to ruin our friendship."
5. Respect his answer. Real life is not like a rom-com where you can convince someone to love you by talking to him or her about it. Instead, you have to respect his feelings. Think about how you would feel if you turned someone down and they kept bothering you to change your mind.
   • Try to remember that rejection says nothing about your worth as a person or your long-term chances of finding love. It just means that this one guy likes you as a friend, not a crush.
6. Expect changes in your relationship. If he says yes, your friendship will change because you will both have to figure out how you want to move forward. You might want to go on a date, start making out, or whatever feels right for you. If he says no, both of you will have to pretend it's not uncomfortable, until in the end it really isn't uncomfortable anymore.
   • While you may feel embarrassed or sad now, it is possible to maintain a friendship after a rejection. You may need to give yourself some time and space to heal, but with time you can get over the rejection, fall in love with someone else, and still keep this friendship in your life.
   • If you decide to start dating, it is best to have a conversation soon about how this will affect your relationships with mutual friends and other aspects of your friendship.