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• To step
• Part 1 of 3: Making your goals clearer
• Part 2 of 3: Taking action
• Part 3 of 3: Getting help from others

There are several things in this world that we want. Some of these are things we can get or achieve ourselves. Sometimes we need help from others, such as parents or colleagues. Knowing what you want and learning how to ask for it are the keys to achieving your goals.

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Part 1 of 3: Making your goals clearer

1. Understand your values. Make sure you know what's most important to you to live your life the way you want to. Things you want must be consistent with those values. If they aren't, you may not be able to reach them, or you may lose something important on the way there.
   • These conflicts are not always visible at first sight. For example, if you want to start a business, it will take a lot of time. If one of your values ​​involves spending a lot of time with your family, these ideas can conflict.
2. Make your goals specific. Broad goals like "make more money" or "get healthier" are a good start, but you'll want more details. Define success clearly and with some clear measurable milestones of your progress. This can help you get a sense of how things are going and the steps you need to take to get there.
   • For example, instead of a broad goal such as "get healthier," choose a specific milestone, such as "be able to walk 10 km" or "lose 10 pounds."
3. Write down what you want. Include your reasons for wanting something. This can make your desire more concrete and remind you of what you want. It can also help to clarify if this is something you really want or if there is more to it.
4. Tell yourself you're worth it. Many people, especially women, do not ask for things because they feel they are insufficient or they don't deserve it. Think about why you might feel this way. Examine and acknowledge your fears to clarify what you need to do to get what you want.
   • Don't worry about other people's wants and concerns. Your life, boundaries, and desires are different from others, and that's okay. Recognizing what you want and how unique it is to you is an important step in getting what you want.
5. Try something new. Sometimes there are things you didn't even know you wanted. Be open to new achievements, jobs and experiences, anything that can potentially broaden your horizons and change your perspective on the world.
   • Listen to other people's suggestions for new things to try, such as taking lessons or exploring the great outdoors. You may find a new hobby or life goal that you had not considered before.

Part 2 of 3: Taking action

1. Let go of your doubts. Many people don't go for things they want because they question their capabilities. Identify and question your doubts, and make sure they don't get in your way.
2. Save money. Many things people want, including new acquisitions, skills, or even a new job, can cost money. Find out the cost of what you are trying to do and look at your expenses.
   • If you're considering a big purchase, or want to do something else expensive, putting aside a little bit of money every month, or every time you get paid, can get you there. Doing this regularly can also help you save more and manage your money better.
   • Don't just look at the cost of what you want. Take a look at the things you already spend money on. If there are things you can leave out that get in the way of your goals, stop spending money on them.
3. Make a plan. Once you've decided what you want, figure out what steps you need to take to get there.
   • Identify potential obstacles or problems and make sure your plan includes ways to get around them. This is the place where you face the doubts you couldn't explain. These obstacles can be related to money, time, your options or help from others.
   • Create manageable milestones to get what you want. This can keep you on track by completing smaller tasks in a reasonable amount of time, rather than trying to accomplish a big goal in one sitting. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, set a goal to lose five pounds in two weeks to get yourself started. This is better than a starvation diet and trying to lose 10 pounds in the same period.
   • Set clear deadlines in your plan. A specific date or time frame to achieve what you want can keep you motivated and focused. This will also help you stay on track until the end result.
   • Follow your plan. Many people fail because they give up too quickly. Setbacks can be a normal part of success, so stick to your plan and give it your all, even if it doesn't always go well.
4. Learn to accept failure. Sometimes you don't always get what you are looking for. Rather than seeing that as a reason to quit, see it as an opportunity for something different, and possibly bigger.
   • For example, if you're saving for a major purchase, the item you want may not be available by the time you save the money. That's okay, maybe there is something different or better you can buy. You may also want to wait until a better article becomes available.

Part 3 of 3: Getting help from others

1. Ask for help. People can't read minds, and unless you tell them you want something, they won't know. People generally want to be useful, especially to a friend or family member.
   • Ask in person. It's always better to ask the person for something in person rather than calling or sending an email. In the first case, it is much more difficult to reject you.
   • Please provide specific details. When you ask, give details of what you want and when you want it. Avoid ambiguous words like "coming soon" - provide the person with specific deadlines instead. A specific request also shows the other person that you have spent a lot of time considering what you want and how they can help.
2. Be enthusiastic. This is something you want, something that gets you excited. Let the other person know it means something to you. Enthusiasm is contagious, and it will be more difficult for the other person to reject you. If you are excited about the idea, they may also get excited about it and want to help you.
3. Make sure they don't have to do as much as possible. You don't want to dump an entire project on someone's shoulders. That only reduces the chance that they are willing to help. Keep your requests simple and clear, and don't be afraid to stress how little the person has to do.
   • Alternatively, instead of asking for an effort from someone, you can ask for the information you need to do the task yourself. If your goal is to improve your job performance, the other person's help may be to tell you where to learn more about certain programs, rather than demonstrate it for you.
4. Do something for each other. If someone does something for you, promise to do something in return. It could be something simple, like doing a favor, or paying it back when it comes to money.
   • For friends or colleagues at work, it can sometimes be as simple as offering lunch or doing some other favor. In a work setting you can always offer to help with some of their work.
   • If you are a child or teenager asking your parents for something, don't think you have nothing to offer them. Your promise could be doing chores around the house or getting better grades.
5. Prepare for resistance. Sometimes others will reject your request, or will need some persuasion to accept it. Consider what the other person's objections might be, and come up with some responses ahead of time. Their doubts may be similar to some of the concerns you had and resolved on your own, so that's a good place to start.
   • If you get rejected, don't be afraid to ask why. If the answer is vague or not specific enough, ask for more details. A question like "What can I do?" Is a good way to get more details and still convince someone.
   • Don't sulk or insult the other person. He or she may not want to help you, but that doesn't make them a bad person. Such a response will only make someone less willing to help you in the future.
6. Say thank you. If someone gives you something, you can be grateful for it. Be sincere and refer specifically to what the other person has done. In addition, expressing thanks is also a good way to make people willing to do something for you again in the future.
   • A formal thank-you note may be appropriate, especially in a work environment. Don't forget to keep it short and straightforward.