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• Part 1 of 3: Treating your sister positively
• Part 2 of 3: Changing your attitude towards your sister
• Part 3 of 3: Dealing with conflict with your sister
• Tips

Do you and your sister argue often? That's a problem, but it can be fixed. Learning how to get along with your sister (s) is an important part of developing a strong, lifelong relationship. Strive to interact positively with your sister. Be polite and kind to her. Treat her more like a friend. Appreciate her good qualities. Try to think about what makes your sister likable and interesting. In the event of a conflict, you talk things out instead of fighting or arguing. With a little hard work, you can maintain a good relationship with your sister. If your sister is mad at you, give her some time. Apologize and try to calm her down. Buy her something nice to make up for it. Take her shopping. Or, if you are angry with your sister, report it. Make sure to stay calm while talking to her. Try to get along with your sister (s). If that doesn't work, get advice from someone you really trust. Try to get along with your sisters at all costs. They are family. And deep down they love you as much as you love them.

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Part 1 of 3: Treating your sister positively

1. Support your sister's achievements. If you want a good relationship with your sister, make sure she feels supported. Instead of getting jealous of your sister's accomplishments, become her personal supporter. This will make your sister feel appreciated and will strengthen your bond.
   • When your sister achieves something, sincerely congratulate her. If she gets a high grade for a course, say something like, "Good work! I am so proud of you'. Supporting your sister increases the likelihood that she will support you too.
   • It's normal to be jealous at times. Sometimes you wish you were the one who accomplished something. Just because you feel a negative emotion doesn't mean you should act on it. Try to put your own negativity aside and sincerely congratulate your sister.
2. Set respectful boundaries. Borders are important to a healthy relationship. Without solid boundaries, positive relationships are difficult. You are entitled to your own physical and emotional space. When you feel your sister is invading your personal space, let her know politely, rather than reacting angrily.
   • If your sister makes you angry, you have the right to ask her to stop. Siblings sometimes take a while to understand each other's boundaries, and your sister can sometimes accidentally make you uncomfortable. Respond accordingly in these situations.
   • Ask your sister to stop this behavior, but in an adult way. Don't say, "Get out of my room!" I don't want you here. ”Instead, say something like,“ I need some space of my own sometimes, and I don't like it when you're in my room trying to read. ”If your sister keeps disturbing you and continue to treat you rude, you can discuss this with your parents. You also can't communicate with your sister by avoiding her for a while until she learns to treat you with respect again.
   • Sometimes your sibling may not understand that you are trying to set boundaries. Don't hesitate to ask a parent for help if your sibling doesn't respect your boundaries.
3. Do chores together. A great way to improve your relationship is to work together. Help your sister with some of her tasks and ask her for help in return. For example, doing the dishes together will encourage teamwork and a sense of togetherness.
   • Making chores fun together can strengthen your bond. If doing the dishes seems tedious, try making up songs to pass the time.
4. Treat your sister more like a friend. Many people tend to take siblings for granted. You may not see your sister as an individual if you are used to seeing her as another family member. Try to treat your sister like a friend. Many siblings eventually become good friends.
   • Think about how you treat your friends at school. Chances are you won't tease and torment them like you might do to your sister. Try to treat your sister just as kindly.
   • Occasionally do things with your sister. Just because she's family doesn't mean the two of you can't hang out as friends. Go shopping. Take a bike ride together. Play a board game. This can enable a positive relationship between you and your sister.

Part 2 of 3: Changing your attitude towards your sister

1. Don't be jealous of her talents. Jealousy is common among siblings and can be a major cause of tension. For example, if your sister is a bookworm, she can get a lot of attention from family members. Admire her talents instead of being jealous of them.
   • Think about your own talents and skills. Your sister may have already read Jane Austen's work, but you may be an excellent basketball player. Your sister may be great at figure skating, but you may excel at horseback riding.
   • Remember that everyone is unique. There is no point in comparing yourself to your sister because you are two different people. It is normal for you to have different skills.
2. Appreciate your sister's good qualities. If you are sometimes angry with your sister, it can help to keep her good qualities in mind. Instead of focusing on things that annoy you, think about the reasons why you appreciate her.
   • During the day, take time to express your appreciation for your sister. If she does something you think is right, say so.
   • For example, "Alie, I really appreciate you helping me with my math homework tonight."
   • If you are able to express your appreciation to your sister on a regular basis, you will be less frustrated with her when conflicts arise. You will remember why your sister's good qualities outweigh her not so good ones.
3. Keep your mind on the future. It can be difficult to get along with a sibling while you're still at home, especially if the two of you share space and personal items. This can often cause frustration. In those moments, think about the future. Remind yourself that you will not always see your sister every day. This can help you appreciate her more.
   • Many siblings once turn out to be good friends. Even if the situation is tense now, you may one day consider your sister your best friend.
   • Keep this in mind when you feel frustrated. Remember that a single moment does not define an entire relationship. Having perspective will help you let go of certain frustrations.
4. Don't label your sister. When you live with someone, it is sometimes difficult to see them as an individual. You can think of your sister in terms of a family role. For example, "My sister is the smart one" or "My sister is always good". Try to look beyond these definitions. Do your best to see your sister more as an individual.
   • Stop for a moment when you find yourself labeling your sister. Please take a moment to question the validity of this box. Does your sister see herself like that? Is there anything about your sister that doesn't fit this label?
   • Focus on aspects of your sister's personality that don't fit the label you're using for her. You may think your sister is more of a sportsman than an intellectual. Take a moment to think about it and you may realize that she just got a high mark on her chemistry exam.
5. Find some time to spend with your sister. Spending time with your sister is vital to learning to appreciate her. The bond between you will be strengthened through joint activities. Try to spend some time with your sister every week.
   • Go to your sister's sports game after school. Take her to her next piano lesson. Ask her to come with you. For example, you can invite her to your next exhibition.
   • Also do things together during the day. Watch a movie with your sister after school. Play a game together. Talk about things like movies, books, and music.

Part 3 of 3: Dealing with conflict with your sister

1. Think before you respond. The worst thing you can do in a conflict is to respond immediately. If your sister hurts your feelings, pause before responding. Take a few deep breaths and count to five, for example. This will keep you from bursting into anger at your sister, which could make the situation worse.
2. Express yourself with words. Use words to resolve conflicts. Don't yell and scream, because then you don't really communicate. Never resort to physical violence as this will only make things worse. You also don't want to accidentally hurt your sister during an argument.
   • Let your sister know that she hurt or upset you. Instead of getting angry, use simple language to explain the unacceptable behavior.
   • For example, say something like, "Ella, don't squeeze me. Squeezing hurts ". This is more effective than yelling or squeezing back.
3. Avoid topics that lead to conflict. Certain topics can simply cause arguments. Maybe your sister hates discussing things that happen at school. Maybe there is something you just disagree with. If certain topics only lead to conflict, you may want to just avoid them. No one always agrees with everything.
4. Discuss things with a parent. If there is a seemingly unsolvable problem with a sibling, talk to your parents about it. Your parents want you and your sister to get along. They will happily mediate if the two of you have a problem.
   • Don't bring it up in a negative way. You don't want your parents to think you are quarrelsome or mean. Present yourself as someone who wants to solve the problem instead of having your parents by your side.
   • For example, say something like, "Dad, I've been fighting with Sophie all the time. Can you give me some advice on how to make it clear to her not to read my diary? "

Tips

• Find things that you both enjoy doing so that you can do them together. Make this a special time for the two of you together.
• Try to make her laugh! Humor can help bring people together and reduce tension in certain situations.
• If your sister seems upset, ask her what's wrong. Showing that you care about her strengthens your relationship.
• If the two of you are arguing, walk away. You may need some distance from each other.
• Try to bake cupcakes together, because who doesn't love cupcakes? You will also have a good time in the kitchen! If she says no, don't worry; maybe she's just not in the mood.Make them with someone else and try again at another time.
• Ask her what she likes to do and list it. Then you can do those things together.