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• Part 1 of 3: Cultivating your extrovert qualities
• Part 2 of 3: Behaving with confidence
• Part 3 of 3: Taking risks

Whether you are shy or already cheerful, everyone can want to be an extrovert. This type of person is usually open, energetic, and is likely to say yes to adventure and excitement. But you may be afraid or unsure of how to be more outgoing. Cultivating extroverted qualities, acting with confidence, and taking safe risks can help you become smoother and bolder in your life.

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Part 1 of 3: Cultivating your extrovert qualities

1. Radiate positivity with body language. Your facial expression, posture, and the way you speak can all affect how funny you come across. Use your body language to give others a positive first impression and make you appear happier and more approachable. Try one of the following signals to indicate to others that you are interested in reaching out to them and having a conversation:
   • Raise your eyebrows
   • Shake hands
   • Open your arms for a hug
   • Laugh
   • Make eye contact
   • Stand in the center or close to the center of the room
2. Approach other people. It can be difficult to overcome social fears and walk up to someone, but this is one of the best ways to not only become more outgoing, but also more approachable. While this may seem counterintuitive, showing your willingness to walk up to someone and introduce yourself can help the person relax. Conversely, this can initiate conversations and build your confidence.
   • Take a look around the room or space where you are and see if there are any potential conversation partners. Make eye contact with the person and slowly walk towards her.
   • Watch the other person's body language as you approach her. If she crosses her arms or looks away, it could be a sign that she's not interested in talking to you. Just go ahead and find someone else who appears approachable and interesting.
3. Start conversations. You can help yourself become more outgoing by starting conversations in any situation. It can be difficult at first, but the more often you start a conversation, the easier it will become and the more relaxed you will appear. This also signals to other people that you are open, outgoing and approachable.
   • Talk to people in your immediate vicinity, even if they are complete strangers. Whether you're at a business conference or a family picnic, see the people around you as potential conversation partners. Give them cues with your body language that you are interested in a chat.
   • Keep topics appropriate for the situation. For example, don't talk about your personal life at a business conference, or use a wedding to vent about your work.
4. Use an icebreaker. Whether you're with new people or old friends, you can be a little reluctant to actually participate in a conversation or activity. Break the ice with a joke or comment to ease tension and make people happy.
   • Think ahead of time about lighthearted or funny things to say. Make sure it is right for the situation. For example, if you're with people you don't know, you could say "No wonder it's so hot here, there are a lot of lobbyists blowing hot air here." In a situation where you do know the people, you can exclaim “The grill master has arrived”.
   • Give a compliment that can relax other people and make them happy. This can make it easier for you to be cozier afterward. For example, you can say "you have the prettiest red hair" or "that's a nice watch you have there".
5. Introduce yourself. Even if you already know each other, let the person or group know who you are. This can be a sign to people that you are approachable and enjoy having a conversation.
   • If you don't know someone, let them know your name and a little bit about yourself. For example, you can try Hi, my name is Jack and I love to swim. I come to this beach a few times a week and I have never seen you before. What's your name and do you love this beach and swimming so much? Repeat the person's name to help you remember and show your interest. For example, you can say “Hi Christopher, nice to meet you! Are you going into the water now? ”
   • Be honest with people you know. You can say something like, “Hi, this is the new Emily. I try to be a bit cozier with people and to crawl out of my shell ”. You might find that your friends, family, or even acquaintances can pick up this hint to help you socialize, with invitations or starting conversations with you.
6. Out of your mind. You can keep a conversation going by sharing your thoughts and opinions. However, don't forget to keep the mood as light as possible so that the conversation doesn't end or alienates you from your conversation partner.
   • Find a shared interest you have with the person and start talking about it. You can say something like “can you believe what's going on in the cycling world right now? It is ridiculous!"
   • Make the conversation as natural as possible between different types of topics. Make sure that each person talks equally, which can boost your confidence and help you become more free in conversations.
   • Feel free to express your opinions in a way that engages your conversation partner. For example, you could say, “I've noticed prices at our local supermarket have gone up a lot, and while I like to support small businesses, I'm not sure I can afford to do my shopping there. Do you have this experience too? ”
7. Expand by accepting invitations. Throw a small party or night out, or hold someone by her suggestion to do something together, especially if these are activities that you don't normally do. Getting out and interacting with other people can help you become more sociable and relaxed. It also contains a risk element.
   • Organize a dinner or a small get-together in a restaurant. Invite different people from your social and / or professional circle. This will put you in the center of attention as a hostess and force you to talk to everyone and start group conversations.
   • Invite someone you would like to get to know better for coffee or lunch. Continue your time together with a new meeting and see if a friendship develops.
   • Accept the invitations others give you. This can give you the opportunity to meet new people and work on becoming more fun. Remember, declining an invitation multiple times will send a message that you are not interested. It can lead to you being excluded from fun activities.
8. Circulate in different groups. One of the hallmarks of an outgoing person is that they are not quiet around strangers and talk to many different people in any situation. Take the opportunity at personal or professional events to participate in conversations with a variety of people. It may not be easy at first, but the more you do this, the easier it will become.
   • Place yourself next to a person or in a group. Listen to what they are saying and then intervene by saying, “Can I join us? I am very interested in this conversation. ”
   • Introduce yourself to someone in a group. She can then reintroduce you to the group and / or the conversation.

Part 2 of 3: Behaving with confidence

1. Realize that everyone is special. Each person has different things that they excel at and can provide. Recognizing that you are special and have something to add to any conversation or situation can boost your confidence to become more outgoing or take risks.
   • Find out what makes you special and list these items. For example, you can be a seasoned world traveler. Since it is not necessarily a common trait, your ability to embrace the world around you gives you a unique view of the world that many people may be interested in.
   • Avoid comparing yourself to others, which can undermine your confidence.
2. Accept yourself. Part of self-confidence is accepting yourself for who you are. You can be a calm person by nature and shouldn't force yourself to become an extrovert. You can also be confident and brave and impressive if you are more of an introvert by nature. A well-posted comment can be as fun or interesting as chatting for five minutes.
   • See that you have many wonderful things to offer the world and the people around you. List these qualities or elements and refer to them if you are unsure.
   • Realize that accepting yourself can also help others to be nice to you. This can install a lot of confidence in you.
3. Believe in yourself. Without belief in yourself and your skills, it can be difficult to get more fun and brave. Remind yourself that you are and can be successful in anything you want, with positive reinforcement and emphasizing the positive in your life.
   • Give yourself daily affirmations. For example, tell yourself "I've spent so much time traveling and this has given me a very unique view of the world and helped me to realize that everyone deserves equality."
   • Surround yourself with people who believe in you and build your confidence.
   • Remember, confidence can come from just about anything, such as knowing you're in a positive relationship, having a good work ethic, or even looking good. This can boost your confidence and make you better able to approach others or take risks.
   • Remember that failure is an important part of believing in yourself. For example, if you've lost your job and went through a tough time finding a great new job eventually, this shows your ability to be successful even with adversity.
4. Challenge negative thoughts. It's not uncommon to have negative thoughts or feelings at times. But how you deal with these kinds of thoughts has a major impact on how you interact with others, and can either strengthen or undermine your self-confidence. Recognize the following thoughts that reduce your confidence, and then tell yourself to reassess the feelings and thought patterns that can boost your confidence.
   • All or nothing thoughts, meaning you see things as either all good or all bad. For example, you say, "If I don't get this job, it means I'm a failure." Instead, say "If I don't get this job, it means something better is waiting for me."
   • Mentally filtering, which means that you only see negative sides of a person, and it warps your view of him or the situation. For example, turn “I let the team down and now they will blame me for the loss” to “I made a mistake, but so do others. We can learn from this and look ahead. ”
   • Converting positive things to negative, which means taking a random achievement and finding a way not to make it count. For example, you can say "Hey, I won a race and it feels great!" instead of "I just won that race because no one was participating."
   • Confusing feelings with facts. You may think you're a failure because you're having a bad day and feel that way. Remind yourself of all your achievements to counter this.
5. Encourage yourself. It is important to tell yourself that there have been positive developments and that they are yet to come. Praise yourself for making positive changes and achieving your goals.
   • Remember to focus on the positive in every situation, even if you can't see it at first. For example, you can say “My dissertation may not be perfect, but it is finished. I have completed an academic marathon, which many people cannot do. ”
   • Don't let bumps in the road discourage you. Encourage yourself to get up, dust off, and carry on by turning what happened into positive terms.
6. Have fun. The ability to relax and have a good time shows your confidence. Focus on the positive, which can help you be more sociable with others and more brave in your life.
   • Find company that is light-hearted and has a lot of fun. They may laugh or smile a lot. This can help you feel relaxed and confident and make it more likely that you will express yourself or take a risk.
   • Let negativity slide off your back. If you experience something negative, accept it and then move on. Exposure to negative opinions or behavior can undermine your ability to act with confidence.

Part 3 of 3: Taking risks

1. Make goals for yourself. If you want to be braver, it usually means taking risks. Figure out how you want to be more brave and then set achievable goals for yourself.
   • Use the SMART method as a guideline for your goals. SMART stands for: specific, measurable, acceptable, realistic, time-bound. For example, you may want to paraglide. Your goal may be “I want to get over my fear of heights so that I can enjoy the view from up there. I will work on getting used to looking out from higher buildings so that I can celebrate my next birthday by gliding with a partner. ”
   • Put your goals on paper to validate them. Update your goals when you meet them. Consider re-evaluating your goals at regular intervals to make sure they are still acceptable.
2. Have realistic expectations. Make sure your desire to be more brave is within the realm of the realistic for you. This can prevent you from reaching your goals, which in turn can undermine your confidence and willingness to be brave.
   • See if your goals are realistic by talking to or examining others. For example, if you want to be a gymnast but are a little older, it can be difficult to get to the Olympics. But that doesn't mean you can't enjoy gymnastics lessons or competitions.
3. Try new experiences. Anytime you try something new, you are brave because there is a chance you may not like it or fail at it. Trying new activities or having different experiences whenever you can will not only make you more brave, but it can also boost your confidence and help you become more outgoing around others.
   • Stay open to anything you haven't tried yet. For example, if a friend invites you to try out a new restaurant, don't hesitate to go. Chances are you will find something you like and even if you don't, you can say you've tried it.
   • Participate in new or different activities. Get out of your comfort zone and join a club or try to change your routine. For example, maybe you run every day but would like to spice up your workout. You could then try Crossfit, or another sport like yoga, they can both challenge you in ways other than running.
   • Be greater than your fears. Anytime you try something new, there may be an element of fear involved. Take a deep breath and reassure yourself that this is good for you.
4. Embrace changes. Everyone experiences changes at some point in their life. Often times, the change has to do with having courage or getting more brave in your life. Welcome change when it comes your way, it can help you take risks more easily in the future.
   • Remember that you are able to deal with whatever life throws at you. This can give you the confidence to keep going. When in doubt, take a step back, relax, and let it go.
   • Take small steps to accept the changes in your life. Breaking changes into small, manageable pieces can make it easier to embrace, and it can make you more able to take the risks involved.
5. Accept failure. Like change, most people face failure. But how you deal with that failure can make you more brave and confident. Keep going, as many risk takers experience setbacks before they find success.
   • Find out what caused your failure and apply what you have learned for future success. For example, if the design of your smartphone app did not work, read the comments and implement improvements to a new design based on the feedback.
   • Ask for help when and where you need it. Not only can this help you become more brave in the future, but simply asking for help can help you become more outgoing.