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• Method 1 of 3: Pay attention to your body language
• Method 2 of 3: Make yourself look friendly
• Method 3 of 3: Talk to others
• Expert advice
• Tips
• Warnings

Feeling comfortable and adopting a relaxed attitude when you are at a party, a work gathering, or any other social event is not that easy. With a little time and effort, you can create your own relaxed, open, and inviting atmosphere that will attract people to you, and increase the likelihood of more social interaction. By using open body language, learning how to engage others, and working on your appearance, you can make you look and feel more approachable.

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Method 1 of 3: Pay attention to your body language

1. Smile a lot. With a warm, inviting smile, you can make everyone feel comfortable around you. Moreover, by smiling you automatically give the impression that you are having a good time. People will notice your smile and think that you are nice, pleasant company and open to chat. Studies have shown that smiling also calms you down and makes your heart beat less quickly, so you will feel more comfortable around others right away!
2. Have an open attitude. When people are uncomfortable in a place, they often have a tendency to physically shut themselves off from the people around them. Therefore, pay attention to your posture. If you're nervous or cranky, don't forget to stand up straight, keep your arms at the sides of your body, and lean toward the people talking to you. Reminding yourself to take that attitude will naturally improve your mood and make people approach you more easily.
   • Show that you are interested in what others are saying to you by leaning their way when they talk to you. Orient your feet, your legs, and the rest of your body so that they point to your conversation partner. This way you show him or her that you are actively listening and that you are involved in his or her story.
   • Never fold your arms when in company. With your arms folded you can transmit negative signals such as "I don't have time" or "Leave me alone". Others will look at your body and unconsciously pay attention to your body language. That is why it is important to be aware of the types of signals you are sending.
3. Make regular eye contact. At a party and in other social situations, people usually look around the room and there is a good chance that they will start a conversation with someone who makes eye contact. Therefore, do not stare at the floor or at your feet. Look up and be aware of your surroundings so that you can grab the attention of others.
   • If someone approaches you, smile and also make eye contact with the other person during the conversation. If you are talking to one person, make eye contact regularly for seven to ten seconds. When talking to multiple people, make eye contact for periods of three to five seconds. Simply making eye contact shows that you can be trusted and that you are interested in the topic of conversation.
4. Don't fidget. It's okay if you're feeling a little nervous, bored, or unhappy, but if you want to come across as approachable, make sure you don't put out negative emotions like that. Sliding back and forth, biting your nails, twirling your hair, and tinkering in other ways can give the impression that you are bored or stressed or nervous. Be aware of these habits, and take a few deep breaths if you feel the urge to fidget again.
   • Try not to touch your face too often. You could indicate that you feel anxious or uncomfortable.
   • Tapping the ground with your foot can give the impression that you are impatient or bored. As a result, people may feel that you are not interested in the conversation.
5. Mirror the movements of the other. If you are talking to someone at a party or event, pay attention to their gestures, posture and stature and try to imitate them. If the other person has taken on an open posture, adopt that posture. If he or she makes vivid gestures when telling a story, try to do the same. Copying someone's body language can help you gain confidence and help you bond with the other person, if you don't overdo it. If you do it the right way, mirroring someone's attitude can help you build rapport with the other and let them know that you value their company.
   • Before imitating his or her body language, think about your relationship with the other person. Avoid imitating the gestures of someone superior to you. For example, if you imitate your employer's body language during a meeting or gathering, he or she might find it rude or even threatening.

Method 2 of 3: Make yourself look friendly

1. Put together a friendly wardrobe. Your wardrobe can help you look nice and inviting. And looking representative can help boost your confidence. Ask if an employee at a clothing store can help you choose certain types of clothing that fit you well and are suitable for your figure. By choosing garments that dress well, fit snugly and are versatile, you show others that you feel good about yourself, have self-confidence and are pleasant company.
   • Always check that your clothes are not wrinkled.
2. Wear clothes that suit the occasion. By wearing appropriate clothing, you let others know that you respect them and are happy to be there. Always pay attention to your clothes. People will be less likely to approach you if your clothes draw attention in a negative way.
   • For example, shorts and sandals are not elegant enough for most weddings. If you're not sure how formal a particular occasion will be, kindly ask whoever invited you if there might be a dress code in place.
3. Choose a hairstyle that suits your face. Ask a good hairdresser which model would suit you well. He or she can help you decide what would be the right style for you, based on the texture of your hair and the shape of your face. By making sure you always look well-groomed, you can increase the likelihood that others will notice you and get the impression that you are spontaneous and comfortable in your own skin.
4. Wear inviting colors. Colors can affect the way people view and respond to you. Wearing different shades of blue and green and warm earth tones such as light yellow and beige can help you appear more approachable, trustworthy and confident as a person. People who wear red come across as more assertive, less approachable, and even more unfriendly than others. Use the colors in your closet that will give you a positive, inviting look.
   • If you are going to a job interview or need to attend a lecture or a work meeting, opt for a dark blue or green outfit to put people at ease.
   • Complete your outfit with accessories in calm, friendly colors. For example, wear a green scarf or a green jacket when going to a casual brunch with a new group of friends so that you will appear calm and gentle.
5. Use a name card. When you are at work or at a business meeting, always carry a name card. People will see your business card as an invitation to approach you, and are therefore more likely to initiate a conversation with you. In this way you will be able to communicate better that you are willing to talk to people and are available and open to making contacts and expanding your network.

Method 3 of 3: Talk to others

1. Make sure you are not distracted during a conversation and do not interrupt the other person. Listening plays an important role in determining the quality of your relationship with others and can help you communicate that you are kind and approachable. If you are fascinated in a conversation with someone, always let the other person finish or finish his or her story and do not interrupt your conversation partner. Keep making eye contact and smiling, and nod every now and then to show that you are listening and engaged in the conversation. People are more likely to come up to you and have a chat with you if they feel that you are interested and can focus your attention on the person you are talking to.
   • Do not look at your phone when you are talking to someone. Be polite and make sure you are clearly listening and paying attention to the conversation.
   • Concentrate on what the other person is saying. Make sure you don't daydream and don't get distracted by other conversations in the area.
2. Show understanding for the feelings of your conversation partner. If someone tells you about a negative or painful experience he or she has had, empathize with the other person and respond appropriately. Don't judge his or her emotional response or give advice unless he or she explicitly asks you to. Sometimes someone will share their feelings with you looking for support rather than the idea of ​​asking for good advice. By showing support and understanding, your conversation partner will feel more comfortable in your company. Others will notice and be more likely to start a conversation with you.
   • If someone tells you that he or she feels bad because their dog is sick, show that you respect their feelings. For example, say, "Oh, how annoying you. This must be a difficult time for you. I understand how desperate it can be when your pet is sick. "Show your conversation partner that you can offer support, are kind, and understand his or her emotional response.
3. Ask questions. If you don't understand exactly what someone means, or would like to hear more about how he or she thinks about a particular topic, ask your conversation partner to explain his or her point of view more precisely, or to phrase it differently. Show that you are paying attention to what the other person is saying and that you would like to hear more about it. That way, the conversation will go more smoothly. Your conversation partner and other people around you will notice how thoughtful and perceptive you are, making it easier for others to approach you.
   • It is often also a good idea to ask questions, if you have a common interest, for example. "Jane told me you just went to Berlin." I went to Berlin years ago! What did you like the most? "By finding something you have in common, you can keep the conversation from getting stuck and make it more interesting and lively.

Expert advice

• Concentrate on the first impression you give. People often decide within a moment whether or not they will approach you. Therefore, never forget to smile, make eye contact, and appear friendly when you meet new people.
• Wear blue to look more approachable. Psychologists have concluded that people who wear blue appear calmer, more trustworthy, and more approachable. Bright red and bright yellow give you a more aggressive look.
• Wear clothes that are appropriate for your age. Older people tend to find people who dress more formally more approachable, while younger people tend to find the opposite.

Tips

• On occasions such as a housewarming party or another party at someone's home, offer to help the host or hostess. Sometimes having a specific job can make you feel more comfortable. Plus, it's a great way to show that you're grateful and willing to lend a hand.
• If you are experiencing feelings of fear or panic, remember that the more you try to use open body language, the easier it will be over time and the less stress it will cause you. As a result, you will automatically become more confident.

Warnings

• If you have feelings of anxiety or depression, consider making an appointment with a therapist so you can discuss your fears and possible treatment options. Research and experience have shown that cognitive behavioral therapy and certain medications prescribed by your doctor can help reduce symptoms of anxiety and panic. Always try to take good care of yourself and do not hesitate to seek professional help if necessary.