Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 3: Set boundaries
• Part 2 of 3: Record the relocation date
• Part 3 of 3: Seek support from friends
• Tips

A breakup can be a difficult process and the situation can be made even more difficult if the people who were previously a couple are still living together. The break creates many new roles and responsibilities. With a clear view of the changes and the new boundaries, you can prevent the process from becoming even more painful or creating even more tension. Both individuals who are part of the breakup should communicate with each other in a clear, open and honest manner, as they are both about to go their separate ways, but until then should try to share a living space.

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Part 1 of 3: Set boundaries

1. Discuss the finances. Cohabitation often comes with the advantage of sharing financial responsibilities. When a relationship is broken, there can be shifts or changes in financial responsibilities. You must discuss financial responsibilities openly and honestly with each other. Try to reach agreement on who will pay what in the future and then stick to the mutual agreements.
   • The goal is to divide the finances in a way that roommates would.
   • Stay honest and try to split joint bills in half to prevent either party from feeling disadvantaged.
   • Do not expect personal financial responsibilities to be shared.
   • Consider writing down or making a list of some sort of agreement that clearly states who is responsible for what costs.
2. Divide the household tasks. After the decision has been made to end the relationship, both parties should begin to take responsibility for the household chores in the house or apartment. Make sure to do your own household chores. Think of doing your own laundry. Divide the other household tasks, such as cleaning the common areas, such as the living room.
   • Be open and clear to avoid getting angry or hurt.
   • Divide the household tasks as you would with another roommate.
   • Take responsibility for your share of the household chores and clean up your own mess.
3. Set house rules and try to set boundaries. While the space you share is common, you will both benefit from boundaries now that the relationship is broken. These boundaries help ensure a sense of personal space. Discuss who can use certain rooms in the house at what times. Respect the new boundaries that you have set together.
   • Sleep in different rooms if possible.
   • Try to give each other space, so spend time in the bedroom or guest room.
   • Divide the available space in the kitchen and become responsible for your own groceries.
   • Discuss whether you are comfortable with the idea of ​​the other person inviting guests and at what times and times it is acceptable.
4. Recognize that the relationship between you is over. The most important step to living together after the relationship is broken is to recognize that the relationship is actually over. It can be very easy to fall back into old habits or elements that were part of your relationship. However, this could cause even more pain and tension. End the old relationship and resist the temptation to revert to old habits.
   • Don't fall back into the romantic aspects of the relationship.
   • Make it clear that the relationship has actually ended to prevent the situation from becoming even more painful and complicated.
5. Discuss the rules for establishing new relationships. Regardless of the fact that you are still living together, the relationship has ended and this makes it possible to start a new relationship. Openly and honestly discuss how both parties feel about seeing other people while you still share a living space. Respect what is being said by the other person and be honest about your own needs.
   • If either party is uncomfortable with the idea, it should be respected. Any future partners should therefore not be taken home. This could cause more tension and pain, making the breakup even more annoying.
   • If both parties are open to this idea, you may need to discuss appropriate agreements and boundaries.

Part 2 of 3: Record the relocation date

1. Discuss who is going to move. While this decision may not be easy, one person should probably leave the house or apartment as soon as possible. It may not be clear who should be relocating, so you should discuss this openly and honestly. Discuss the facts and logistics of the move and who can move best.
   • Try to be as objective as possible during the times when you are discussing who should move.
   • If you are able to do this, consider offering to relocate to make the decision easier.
   • Sometimes certain problems can make one of the parties unable to move. These problems are often financial in nature. If this is the case, try to plan everything as well as possible and try to find a solution together to make the situation you are in as comfortable as possible.
2. Set the date. To make the decision final, both parties must set a relocation date. This can be an exact or final date. Setting the date ensures that the process does not stagnate, making the move itself easier.
   • Decide together which timeframes work best for both of you.
   • Record an exact or latest relocation date.
   • Stick to this date and make sure the move takes place.
3. Let the move take place. Before the day of the move, make sure you are on schedule. Since both of you have agreed on an exact move-in date, it is better for the breakup process if both parties adhere to this date. Make sure you have both made the right preparations and that everything is ready for the move so that the process can run smoothly
   • If you are the one moving, you should start looking for a new place to live, find new roommates, if any, and start packing and moving your personal belongings.
   • If your ex is moving, make sure you can afford to keep this place on your own or find a new roommate if you can't afford it.

Part 3 of 3: Seek support from friends

1. Talk to friends and family members. Discussing your situation with loved ones or people you trust can boost your mood during the rough patch you are going through. Strengthening the bond with those around you who are dear to you can help you create a sense of security and stability in the aftermath of the breakup.
   • Surrounding yourself with people dear to you can keep feelings of loneliness at bay and maintain your self-esteem.
   • Try making new friends by volunteering, enrolling at a gym, or looking online for groups that have the same interests or hobbies as you.
2. Spend time outdoors. Staying at home will help you interact more with the person you were previously in a relationship with. This could lead to more stress and make the fracture more difficult. Spending time outdoors with friends or doing activities you love makes the breakup process easier for both parties.
   • Perhaps you could also stay with a friend or family member for a while.
3. Don't be afraid to enlist the help of others or talk about your feelings. During the breakup process, discussing your feelings and needs openly and honestly can be very helpful. Talk to your family and friends about how you feel and don't be afraid to ask these people for help if you need it. The support of others can help make this difficult process go as smoothly as possible.
   • If you need a conversation with or help from friends or family members, just let them know.
   • Be open and honest about your own feelings and thoughts and share them with the people you trust.
   • Also stay open and honest with your ex you still live with.

Tips

• Despite everything, try to be as friendly as possible. You need to make rational and clear choices when trying to get used to the new situation.
• Always be sincere and honest. Share your needs and feelings, but also be willing to listen to the other person.
• Try to spend time outdoors and visit friends and family regularly.