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• Method 1 of 3: Be considerate
• Method 2 of 3: Be loving
• Method 3 of 3: Keep your marriage going
• Tips
• Warnings

It's all too easy to have a fun and romantic falling in love period, but you may be concerned that your marriage will not last once that infatuation phase is over. After all, if you want to be happily married, you have to make sure that the relationship stays romantic and that you keep growing - both together and individually. While it's not always easy, you can certainly make your marriage flourish, as long as you and your partner are willing to put in the effort.

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Method 1 of 3: Be considerate

1. Respect your partner. If you want your marriage to be healthy, make sure you make your partner feel equal to you. Also take his feelings into account when making a decision, including in your daily life. If you pretend that your partner's opinion doesn't matter, or as if you are always in control, then you are guaranteed to get skewed growth in your marriage. Make sure you take your husband's opinion as seriously as your own, and that you take the time to listen to your partner and make him feel that you care.
   • Work on being kind, loving, and understanding towards your partner. If you're having a bad day and falling out with him, make sure you apologize for it; give him the basic respect he deserves, instead of thinking you can do whatever you want because you're married.
   • Respect your spouse's privacy as well. Don't poke around his phone or his computer, if you want him to feel respected.
2. Work on keeping the relationship in the present. If you care about your spouse and want to have a healthy and productive relationship, don't dwell on things that happened in the past that are both of your fault. Also, don't keep blaming your spouse for things he wouldn't have done right; instead, work on reinforcing positive behaviors, enjoy your time together, and think about anything you can look forward to together. If you really care about your husband, you take his feelings into account and you don't keep going back to the past just to get a response from him.
   • While it's not always easy to let go of the past, you shouldn't bring it up out of resentment. Remind yourself that your spouse is also a living, breathing human. You shouldn't quote the past if you just want to hurt him.
3. Take the time to listen. Listening is one of the best ways to be considerate of your husband.Don't get lost in your mind when your husband talks about his day, or just try to wait for him to finish so you can speak; make an effort to keep asking and show that you care about what he tells you. If you're having a real conversation with him, put your phone away, make eye contact, and be considerate enough to actually listen to him.
   • Of course, we all get lost when we listen to someone. If that happens during a conversation, don't pretend you were still following him; apologize and find out what your husband was really saying.
   • Ask your husband questions that show you really care about him; because you don't want him to think he's boring you.
   • Sometimes for him someone who listens to him after a long day is all he needs. You don't have to feel obliged to provide him with advice all the time.
4. Let your husband be the priority in your life. While your life doesn't have to revolve around your husband, it's important to remember that when you wanted to get married, you wanted to be the top priority for each other. Make sure you honor that decision and make all the big decisions with your husband in mind so that you can be sure that you are doing the best for both yourself and the person you are married to.
   • If your family and friends don't get along well with your partner, don't immediately get on the defensive of your partner unless your partner is really unreasonable; make sure you take his feelings seriously and give him the love and support he needs.
5. Make sure the communication between you is good. If you want a good marriage, know that communication plays a vital role in that. You and your partner should be able to share thoughts in a civilized way - especially about the things you agree on or enjoy doing together. Doing this daily will promote communication between you and keep your marriage healthy and strong.
   • Never say things out of anger that are meant to intentionally hurt your partner. Because cruel words that you uttered but didn't mean may be hard for your partner to forget - they can cause lasting damage in your relationship. If you do say something you didn't mean, make sure you apologize for it.
   • When you argue, stick to one topic and try not to attack your partner personally.
   • To communicate well, you need to be aware of your partner's thoughts and moods before starting the conversation. You should be able to read your partner's body language and facial expressions so you can tell if something is up and if the situation is relaxed enough to bring it up.
   EXPERT TIP

   Don't betray your partner's trust by mentioning things you have told each other in confidence, or use them as a weapon during an argument. If your partner has confided in you about something very private and important, don't undermine that trust by telling someone else just because you didn't really think about it. If it was something painful and personal, don't use that as a weapon in an argument, or your partner will feel betrayed. Keep in mind that your partner has shared important information with you in confidence, and take care not to betray that trust.

   • You should be the one who trusts your partner more than anyone else. Don't do anything to shake that trust. If you do make a mistake, make sure you apologize for it.
6. Be in tune with your partner's moods. If you feel that something is wrong with your partner, take the time to hug him and ask him what's wrong - those may be the times when he needs your attention the most. Don't ignore that opportunity. If your partner doesn't want to talk about it, don't push or make things worse, but show that you're there when he's ready and willing to talk to you about it.
   • If you and your partner are out with other people and you notice that something is up, don't ask about it in front of everyone else; take your partner aside to show that you really pay attention to him.

Method 2 of 3: Be loving

1. Do not forget to I love you to say. Never think that you don't have to say "I love you" because your partner already knows how you feel about him. At least once or twice a day, make an effort to tell your partner how much you love them, and make sure you think about it, look your partner in the eye, and say you really mean it. Don't just say "Love you!" while stepping out or “Love you” in a text message - take the time to personally let your partner know how much he really means to you.
   • Taking the trouble to say these four sacred words can greatly improve your relationship.
   • However, don't say these words because you want to get him done or because you want to make it up to you after an argument; only say them if you really feel that way. That's when they mean the most.
2. Start your day with a long kiss or hug. If you take the little effort to be nice to each other at the start of the day, this can have the effect of being nice to each other for the rest of the day. While you may want to start the day with your cup of coffee and get ready, a few minutes of hugging, kissing, or hugging your spouse can help you set the right tone for the day. If you don't see each other for the rest of the day, these expressions of love can leave a lasting impression that lasts until you see each other again.
   • Taking the time to kiss your partner for just six seconds in the morning can spark the spark in your relationship again. Don't just give him a routine "Bye honey" kiss on the cheek; make sure you mean it, even if you are in a hurry.
3. Make time for each other. As the relationship continues, you will notice that more and more obligations are added, so that you have less and less time together. Still, you should make sure you have time together every week, even if you sacrifice time that you would normally spend with your friends or family. Know that going to a friend's birthday party or a barbecue at your parents' house together is not the same as spending time together.
   • If you find that you've been so busy that you've barely had time to be together, try taking a few minutes of his time, such as going for a walk together on a family outing, or taking a few minutes. spend some time together at a party where you are together.
   • Try to make appointments well in advance so that you and your spouse can keep those days off in your calendar.
4. Don't underestimate the power of touch. Make sure to hug, touch, reassure, kiss, hold, or just be close to your partner as much as you can. That physical connection with your partner helps you keep the relationship good and it makes you feel close and intimate with each other, even if you are not always on the same wavelength. If you become distant or cold towards your partner, and you are not even close to your partner when you sit on the couch together, your relationship will also turn into a distant relationship.
   • Not everyone likes to be touched a lot, especially in public. If you're not comfortable hugging or touching much in public, make sure to give your partner as many reassuring touches as possible at the right times.
   • Obviously, having a good sex life also helps your relationship flourish. Be open and honest with your partner about discovering likes and dislikes.
5. Don't forget to do those little things for each other that make both of you happy and that make you feel loved. Whether it's giving your partner a hand kiss, or doing chores for him when he has a busy week, or leaving a sweet note on the mirror before you go to work; you should never stop doing those little things for him, no matter how tired you are or how comfortable you are in your relationship. Never get lazy when it comes to your marriage, and make sure your partner always feels special and loved.
   • If you're too busy doing things for your partner that you usually do for them, try to make up for them when you have a little more time. Let your partner know that you are aware that you have not been as thoughtful as usual and that you want to make up for it.
6. Let your partner know how much you appreciate him. Make sure your partner knows how much you appreciate the little everyday things he does for you, such as washing the dishes or making the bed. Don't take those things for granted and let your partner know that you really love and appreciate him and are grateful for all the help he gives you. Of course, you in turn can do things for him that will make your partner appreciate you in turn.
   • You can even write your partner a love note thanking him for all the things he did for you, from taking care of the dog when you were sick to organizing the most amazing birthday party you've ever had.
7. Surprise each other with small gifts or other signs of appreciation. This makes the moment that you share with each other very special. The presents don't have to be extravagant or very expensive. After all, it is about the thought behind it. A small thing that evokes warmth and beautiful memories is worth a lot. Pay attention to your partner so that you know what he wants and so that you can buy him that one striking gift at just the right time.
   • While special occasions, such as birthdays or anniversaries, are very good times to give a gift, it is often the small gifts that are given “just like that” that allow you to be very considerate of your partner. Also, your partner will not feel that you are giving him a present because that is simply expected of you.
8. Help your husband when he needs it. If your husband has had a busy week, you should understand that and spend more time cooking or housework so he doesn't have to. If you've had a hectic week, he should do the same for you. While you should make a good division of household chores that feels right for both of you, you can still go the extra mile if your husband needs it because you care about him.
   • While your husband may deny that he needs extra help, you can put in a little extra effort to cook, walk and groom the dog, or do some other everyday chores that week, if you see that he is stressed and in need of rest has.

Method 3 of 3: Keep your marriage going

1. Make time to do your own things - and let your husband do things he likes to do. You may think that your partner and you should do absolutely everything together if you want to have a happy marriage. But if you really want the bond you've forged to continue, you also need to have some degree of independence for each of you. If you and your partner really do everything together and don't take the time to pursue your own interests, you may become too dependent on each other and lose your own identity over time.
   • However, if you both spend time separately pursuing hobbies and interests, then you can both grow as humans. After all, you don't want to be the same after twenty years, do you?
   • As you and your spouse spend more time together, you will find that you appreciate the time you spend together more. It's all too easy to take each other for granted when you're always together.
   • You really don't always have to bring your spouse with you when you meet up with friends because you are married. While it is important to be involved in each other's social lives, it is also important to make time with your friends and allow him to spend time with his friends so that you both build and strengthen your friendships and network.
2. Keep romance in your marriage. If you want your marriage to last, make an effort to keep the romance in it over and over again. Although your life and therefore your relationship changes if you are with your spouse for a long time, or if you have children together, it is still important that you try to make each other feel going out together, and continuing to court each other long after you've said yes to each other. This will keep your marriage exciting, sexy and fun. Here are some things you can do:
   • Make sure you have nights out together. Whether you go out for a night out every week or every other week, try to really stick to these dates and avoid not doing the same thing over and over again.
   • Bring romance into your relationship, even when you are at home. Whether you are watching a romantic comedy together or preparing a dinner together with atmospheric candles burning, it is important to feel that your relationship is exciting, even when you are at home together.
   • Try to write heartfelt and meaningful cards for each other on your wedding day. Take the time to really write down all the reasons why you love your spouse.
   • You can also be spontaneously romantic so that you keep the relationship fresh and exciting. Taking a last-minute weekend trip together, taking dance classes together in a hot flash, or opening that one expensive bottle of wine you've been waiting for a long time for that special occasion - things like this can make your relationship feel very romantic and spontaneous.
3. Be willing to compromise. If you really want your relationship to stand the test of time, then you need to learn how to compromise and make sacrifices for each other when needed. Your relationship isn't always going to be fun and easy, and there will be times when you need to sit down together and start talking really carefully about how to move forward. Whether you have to decide where to live, when to have children, or make career decisions that will affect you as a family, it is important that you and your husband can communicate well and understand your needs before decisions are made.
   • Whether you are making a big or small decision, make sure you have both had a chance to express your opinion before making a decision.
   • Listening is important. Allow your husband to express his feelings without interrupting or disagreeing with him. Make sure you keep asking before you say what you had in mind.
   • When it comes to compromise, it's important to remind yourself that it's often better to be happy than to be right. Ask yourself if what you're fighting for is really that important to you, or if you're just being stubborn; That said, it is of course important that you both compromise.
4. Make sure your friends and family play a part in your life together. The longer you and your spouse are together, the more important that you integrate your family and friends into your marriage and everyday life. While you don't have to be best friends with each other's family or love every friend of your spouse, you should do your best so that you feel like your separate families are a family, and your separate friends are friends of your own. become each other. This can make your marriage feel more secure and you both know you have a strong network when you need it.
   • If you love your husband, make an effort to become fond of his family and friends. If he has family or a group of friends who are challenging to get along with, do your best to understand why they are acting this way and talk to your husband about how to build a stronger bond with them without breaking them off.
5. Be there for your husband in good times and bad. If you want your marriage to last, then you should be there for your husband when your husband is going through a rough time, instead of just waiting for the weather to blow. Whether he's dealing with a death in the family or doubts about career choices, it's important that you support him, understand him during that difficult time, and know that your husband is doing the same for you for you. you have a hard time. You can't expect your husband to be in a good mood all the time, but at least try to make sure you're there when he needs you.
   • Of course, if you get caught up in a pattern where one partner is always supporting the other, it can get a little frustrating and exhausting over time. If you feel like you are always taking on the giving role, talk to your husband about what he can do to make you feel more like you matter.
6. Have realistic expectations. If you want to have a happy marriage, know that not every day is fun. Of course, this doesn't mean that you should expect the marriage to be a drag or something dark and disappointing, but it does mean that you should be prepared for arguments and bad days to come. There will also be days when you don't even want to be in the same room as your spouse. It is very normal not to have fun together 100% of the time. What matters is that you and your husband do your best for the relationship.
   • If you expect your marriage to be great every day, then you better prepare for a disappointment.
   • Try to keep in mind that your spouse also has shortcomings, just like you. If you expect the other person to be perfect, you will only feel sad or bitter.If your spouse has flaws that you want him to address, such as being late as always, have an honest, open discussion about them, and be willing to change the bad habits you have yourself.
7. Learn to grow together. As the years go by, the person you're married to is likely not going to be exactly the same as the person you're to yes I do said, all those years ago. People change, become wiser, and learn from their experiences as the years pass; they often change their perspective on a variety of subjects, from their thoughts on having children to their political preferences. If you are pursuing a healthy marriage, then you must accept that both your partner and yourself will change naturally over the years; the important thing is that you grow together, not separately.
   • Be understanding of the ways your husband is changing. If you feel like you're having trouble and that he is becoming someone you barely know anymore, make sure you talk to him about it.
   • As you get older, it can also be good for your relationship to develop interests together, although it is also important to continue on your own journey in life. Whether you enjoy cooking together, engaging in your favorite sport, or watching the same series together for years, it's important that you have a routine that you as a couple look forward to together.
   • Most importantly, you and your partner continue to love and understand the fact that both of you are going through your ups and downs in life; if you are true partners then you will both grow into stronger and more loving people who are capable of much.

Tips

• Love, respect and courtesy are the basic ingredients for a happily married life.
• Be honest and show genuine appreciation for your partner.
• Try to understand each other.
• Appreciate each other and do not forget the beautiful days you have already spent together.
• Surprise each other.
• Make sure you have quality time together.
• Never hide anything from him. After all, you don't want him hiding anything from you!
• Balance the other relationships in your life.

Warnings

• Be polite and courteous to one another. Say “Thank you” and “I'm sorry”.
• Always be honest with your partner. Lying will get you nowhere.
• Cheating on your partner can ruin your life, so always be honest with your husband!
• Always try to listen carefully. Some arguments do enormous damage to both parties, without the two parties actually knowing how the argument started.
• Above all else: be grateful and get out of that! Find something you value in your partner and thank your partner for it.
• If you ever get to the point where you no longer feel motivated to do your best for your marriage and have the facade that the flame has been extinguished, try imagining yourself and your life without your husband. Talk to people who have lost their soul mate, and they will all say they do anything to get that special someone back into their lives.
• Remember it is your life and realize how far you have come. Make the best of it. Agree with yourself that you will make the most of it and really do your best.
• Communication is the key to a relationship. You should feel free to bring it up without fear of the unpleasant consequences.
• DO NOT look at other marriages to compare. Know that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. You will also always have to maintain, mow and weed on the other side.
• Understand and learn the way you express your love. This can be in the form of words, presents, touches, deeds, etc. If they are words, tell your partner regularly that you love and appreciate him. If they are deeds, regularly do things he appreciates: take out the trash, do laundry, wash the car, etc.
• Try to get to know each other as best you can. Understand that you are not and probably never will be the same - respect that you are both individuals.
• All problems must be resolved, preferably during the conversation about it. Finish what you started, otherwise things will stick and they can cause problems in the future.