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• To step
• Method 1 of 4: Set boundaries and keep your patience
• Method 2 of 4: Kindly remind your guest it's time to leave
• Method 3 of 4: Immediately remind the guest to leave
• Method 4 of 4: Being a bad host
• Tips
• Warnings

Playing the hospitable host or hostess quickly becomes impossible if you have invited house guests who are staying longer than you expected. Hopefully it's an unfortunate mistake on their part, and a kind reminder will help get them packing. But some guests don't seem to understand any hint. Knowing how to deal with the invitee who comes to regard your home as a hotel is the most valuable skill in a host or hostess' repertoire.

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Method 1 of 4: Set boundaries and keep your patience

1. Clearly indicate a time limit in an invitation. Prevention is key. Present a clear and straightforward start and end time for their stay - whether for dinner or overnight stay. If anything, this can save face when it comes to throwing stubborn guests out the door.
   • Ask for written confirmation. If it's an appropriately formal event, consider printed invitations with an end time to really get it known.
   • State how quickly time has passed, or how quickly they have to leave. A sympathetic "I can't believe the weekend is almost over" or "sorry you're leaving tomorrow" is a smart way to remind the other when it's time to go.
2. Have an agenda. Especially if your house guest has come for a vacation, it is wise to have a rough idea of ​​what you can do together, with at least one thing being the last thing you are going to do. Whether you're saving the best for last or just want to relax for the last day, some activities like milestones for your guest's stay are a helpful way to remind the person when the stay is over.
   • If you are hosting a party and you were unable to determine the end time in advance, a short 'I think this is enough for me' from the host will help guests understand that the current activity is the last. is.
3. Never forget to make time for yourself. No matter how long your guest is staying (but especially if it's on the long side), make sure there is always time for you to relax alone in your own home. Let your guest know in advance when this will be so that there is no confusion. Indicate when you usually go to bed and get up so that they don't interfere with your sleep rhythm.
   • Also consider clarifying which areas of your home your guest can and cannot visit. It's inconvenient and nerve-wracking to find your guest in your bathroom if you hadn't thought of cleaning them beforehand.
   • If you are desperate, consider buying tickets for an event or other outing for your guest (s). Try to be honest and suggest you need the house to yourself, if only for a moment.
4. Don't think that being a good host means making yourself feel bad about it. As a rule, only be a bad host if you have a bad guest. But whether it's early in the morning or right before bed, you may not always feel like playing maid and janitor. Be firm in trying to get this point across to your guest: you are not going to lower your standard of living for the other person.

Method 2 of 4: Kindly remind your guest it's time to leave

1. Suggest an outing. Offer your guest (s) a trip to the mall or just a walk around the neighborhood. Suggest as "one last thing before you go". Getting the guests out of the house is the biggest step and after that you can just show them to their car (or have a taxi waiting) instead of inviting them back in.
   • If you are hosting a party, try not to leave anyone behind. Some are not supposed to leave and leave one or two behind to raid your pantry.
   • Make sure everyone has their stuff. If the plan is to end the trip for good, don't allow any excuses to go back in.
2. Do something boring. This is where the tactic starts to lose some subtlety. Consider switching from video games to an engaging game of Mikado, or from chatting with a drink to helping your cat bathe. Plenty of guests will quickly run away from doing something they would rather not do.
   • While this tactic is more suitable for stubborn revelers, the house guest who has stayed a day or two longer than desired is more likely to think fondly of his or her home or hotel when they are no longer entertained.
   • Make sure leaving is always an option - don't propose an alternative with such enthusiasm that guests feel obliged to go along.
3. Use body language, but be friendly. Try to look busy or agitated. If it's the last day of a house guest's stay, behave accordingly. Gather your guest's belongings and move the conversation from the living room to the doorway.
   • Consider picking up their bed or setting up their room as it was before they arrived.
   • Trying to be less and less available as the end of their stay nears - starting to work or doing things around the house.
4. Pretend you have to go. How subtle you want to be is at your discretion - it can be anything. From something like "I have to run" to "My grandmother is in the hospital". Only the worst guest would consider staying at someone's home during a family emergency. You can also pretend that another guest is coming and there is room to be made available.
   • Be careful not to get caught in a lie - if you actually have to go somewhere, all the better. But if you say your grandmother is in the hospital, make sure your grandmother is informed and that your guest is not working in the emergency room.

Method 3 of 4: Immediately remind the guest to leave

1. Share something you went through with a "bad guest." This is a less subtle way of letting your guest (s) know what the boundaries are. Consider doing this before the guest extends their stay so the boundaries are clear in advance. If the guest persists, make it clear that the situation is starting to look like it, to really get the point across.
2. Ask a friend to help you. If possible, have a friendly guest help the rude guest find the door. Invite a close friend on the day the house guest is due to leave, and let him or her leave at the same time. Have your friend repeat the hints about the time, or how 'we really need to get started', etc. It always helps to have an example of a good guest to show the bad guest what he or she does. is doing.
   • If you're especially concerned about a guest after a party, ask a friend to give the guest a ride. In this way (and when the friend knows it is time to leave), the guest has no choice but to leave with him or her.
   • Know that the friend must also leave. Don't recruit someone else to kick a bad guy out (unless that guy is real is very annoying) and try to keep the friend close - knocking out such a guest will usually be an all-or-nothing affair.
3. Find a new place. For overnight guests who put your hospitality to the test, you can recommend a hotel. If it is a guest at a party and someone who does not want to stop partying, offer an alternative location for the party to continue. Suggest a bar or other establishment to end the evening.
   • Be careful not to feel responsible. Play the host who is sadly out of time, but don't apologize for setting boundaries. Don't pay for a taxi (unless you're desperate) or hotel room, just be direct and get the guest (s) to leave.
4. Offer to help with packing. The last act of a friendly host is to make sure their guest gets out the door properly. To assure your guest that the time is right, gather their belongings and place them at the door. Ask questions about what they will do after they leave (on the day of their departure), or something like, `` Are you sure you have everything with you? '' These are just more unambiguous indications that your guest (s) are staying is over.
   • For partygoers, you offer them a last drink or piece of dessert. In the latter case, suggest that they take something home and give it to the door in a bag.
5. Give your guest chores. If a guest has really stayed too long, let him or her know that he or she should help with the household. Have your guest clean up their own mess and suggest that they do their fair share of washing up and cleaning up. Worst case scenario, you have a new housekeeper. However, most house guests will give reasons to leave as soon as possible, once doing the dishes becomes part of the revelry.

Method 4 of 4: Being a bad host

1. Ignore your guest (s). Stop being social and possibly ignore your guest (s). This is definitely a last resort as you answer rudeness with rudeness, but some guests really don't seem to understand any hint. When your guest starts to feel more like a stranger in the house and less like an invited guest, the door will become all the more attractive.
   • Don't leave them satisfied, though. There are plenty of horrible guys out there who are all happy to go and watch your big TV in silence. Pretend the TV is "broken" and indicate that your guest will have to provide the food themselves. Stop being a host and become more of a roommate.
2. Do something the other person doesn't like. Forget boring things - if you know your stubborn guest well enough, do something the person hates. Play nasty music, insist on reciting Elizabethan poetry, keep the TV channel on C-SPAN - whatever you need to do. Guests who stay too long do so because, no matter how little effort it would take to leave, they would rather stay where they are. Reverse that reasoning and your guest will be running out the door before you know it.
3. Invite someone else. If you don't have a close friend around to show your guest the door, invite one. Then focus all your attention on that person. Let the stubborn guest feel like an intruder at an intimate meeting of close friends. Hopefully, this will make it clearer to the guest how rude he or she is, and make those already apologetic.
   • For guests staying for multiple nights, pretend that this good friend has come to occupy the room the guest was using. Make this seem like a long-term invitation, so that the stubborn guest has no choice but to find a new place to stay overnight.
4. Tell them to leave. This is the ultimate last resort and it does not amount to much. For the guest for whom none of the above has worked, there is nothing to do but tell him or her right away, "You have to leave." Don't ask the guest to leave. Do as they do in a bar: turn off the lights, turn the seats. Make it unthinkable to stay longer.

Tips

• Stay hospitable for as long as possible. Even guests who stay too long should have a positive memory of their stay.
• If possible, make sure you know who might be problem guests.
• Make it clear what food / drink is for the guest, and what is for your home and family.
• Make sure your guest (s) have everything you need. However, when it's time for them to leave, you stop. Unwashed towels and an unmade bed are a clear indication.

Warnings

• At a party, be aware to what extent alcohol can affect your guest's ability to leave.
• Prepare to hurt a guest's feelings if you have to show them the door.