Author:
Carl Weaver
Date Of Creation:
23 February 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
Many find themselves in situations where they are forced to help out a friend or relative during difficult times. Most of us are happy to help (for a short period of time), but some who have seen the pitfalls of such situations are not so rosy. You may find yourself in a position where your guest has turned into an unwanted and long-term roommate, and you are having a hard time finding the right way to accomplish the required eviction.
Steps
1 Assess the situation and any agreements that were between you. Usually, before you let someone into your house, you agree on something. The conventions vary, so make sure you are clear about what you were discussing in an unemotional manner. I.e. You can stay until you find a job, or you can stay here for 3 weeks. The actual terms of your agreement are important because you may be willing to say goodbye to your guest, but your agreement was not entirely clear and you gave the guest an unwarranted sense of security. 
2 Try to remain judicious and respectful in your approach. While you may feel humiliated, fed up, and just tired of it all, it's important not to explode and make demands that may seem unreasonable. Generally speaking, your guest may stay with you because he / she has nowhere else to go. 
3 Look for information or alternatives to help resolve the situation as a gesture of goodwill. If you have the appropriate resources, gather some ideas to help your evicted guest with the move. 
4 Communicate without emotion, clearly and directly articulating your desires and the time frame for fulfilling them. In this case, you need to drown out the emotions and clearly and directly say what you expect. Stand your ground, this conversation can get unpleasant, so be prepared to ask the guest to leave immediately to avoid future conflicts. It is best to start this conversation in the early morning hours, which gives your guest plenty of time to make the necessary resettlement.
Tips
- Emotions must be controlled at all costs. Your goal is not to start a fight, but to successfully discuss your desires and how your guest should respect them.
- Try to fix the problem yourself. The support group here is likely to be a bad idea and things can turn out to be ugly. No one likes to be attacked, let alone a joint effort.
- Respect them and don't hurt the feelings of others!
Warnings
- You shouldn't be angry. If you are angry about a particular event or situation, wait until your head clears up so you can continue any discussion.
- Make sure your guest does not have any of your valuables before discussing an eviction.
