Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 4: Find Out What Went Wrong
• Part 2 of 4: Find a Solution
• Part 3 of 4: Resolving problematic issues with your friend
• Part 4 of 4: Resuming Normal Relationships
• Tips
• Warnings

It doesn't matter how good your friend is to you - skirmishes and disagreements should still happen for a while one day. We are all humans. If you really care about each other, you will definitely find a way out of the conflict. It may take some time, but with patience and love, you can mend the relationship and get back on track with your friend.

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Find Out What Went Wrong

1. 1 Isolate the problem. Before you can handle the situation, you need to know what went wrong. You should learn more about what he or she said in a joke rather than just leaning on what he or she said, and determine root cause conflict. Consider:
2. 2 If you and your friend have a falling out, think about how to get out of the situation first? What really annoyed you? Has your response increased the tension? If so, how? Make a list of what you really feel are problems and reflect on what your friend might be thinking from his point of view. Put yourself in your friend's shoes and consider possible misinterpretations.
   • If you know that you hurt your friend because you were very angry with him, apologize for that (if you feel guilty and really think it’s bad) now and say that you didn’t want it to happen.Sometimes skirmishes over one thing develop into swearing, which becomes an off-topic conflict. If you know you’ve crossed the line, apologize now to show that you have realized that you are mistakenly letting your anger get the best of you and to show that you are ready to talk about the underlying issue.
3. 3 If the actual confrontation did not happen and you feel like your friend is ignoring you because you did something to hurt him, think about how your last interaction happened. Have you said or done something that could be perceived as an offense? You may want to consult with mutual friends who know you both well but don't let the conversation turn into gossip or accusations. Your goal is to do what you can to find out what is wrong, but if you are stumped, you will want to start a conversation with your friend and ask him.
4. 4 If you are offended, try to determine what exactly upset you. Maybe something really bothered you for a while? Did your friend subtly comment that you are taking too much into your account? Maybe you were having a bad day? If the answers to these questions show that you will not be angry for a long time, and your anger is the only excuse to break your friendship, then you should consider what it will cost you to forgive your friend.

Part 2 of 4: Find a Solution

1. 1 Once you've identified the problem, think about how you can solve it. First, consider the problem from your point of view, then think about what you would like to change or what needs to be done according to your feelings. This is the starting point for finding a compromise. Then think about what you would ask your friend to do.
   • If this is a one-sided situation in which you are 100% to blame for offending your friend, or vice versa, you might be able to suggest some kind of action for one side. However, remember that even if one person offended another, it may have been completely unintentional or simply the result of a misunderstanding. You can agree with the offended so that he does not take everything personally at his own expense in the future, so as not to be too suspicious and sentimental, etc. It may simply be a personality trait and personality trait that both sides will struggle to overcome - one side trying to be more sensitive to the feelings of others, and the other not taking things personally and personally. It is this kind of relationship that characterizes a strong friendship.
   • Make up reasonable promises so that both parties feel they have been treated fairly and equally (or at least proportionate to the fault). Don't be vindictive or think that this is some kind of competition in which you are trying to beat your friend. This is not a method for getting out of the conflict, and you will have to leave such hostile thoughts at the door before you have a chance to succeed in resolving the conflict.

Part 3 of 4: Resolving problematic issues with your friend

1. 1 Start a conversation with your friend. Send a message to your friend explaining that you have some considerations and you think both of you would benefit from a calm conversation about a fundamental conflict. You would like to hear his point of view regarding this whole story - the conversation needs to take place before the actual reconciliation, and you can hope that your friend will still find time to make peace with you soon.
   • Choose the right moment. If possible, try to find a time when you can apologize to your friend in person, without strangers. If that doesn't work, suggest, as an option, to talk on the phone or write.
2. 2 Think well, honestly, what you did wrong in this situation, and prepare yourself mentally to ask for forgiveness. This is the best way to really show your friend that you would like to resolve the conflict.
   • Don't apologize using arguments that blame your friend. Instead of saying, "I'm sorry that you felt insulted because of what I told you," say, "I'm sorry I insulted you." The first sentence places the blame on your friend; second, ascribes the blame to you.
   • Try not to offer a long list of excuses. Get along with one message of your story by talking about how you felt in the situation to give your friend some perspective, but don't try to frame things in a way that avoids blame.
   • Be sincere. Only apologize if you truly regret what you did. Otherwise, your friend will understand that you are not implying a spark of an apology. If you're still angry, take a moment to calm down and come to the conclusion that you really feel sorry.
3. 3 Let your friend release his anger a little. He or she may still be very angry. Let that anger come out and then say again that you are sorry. Ask if there is anything else you can do to make amends to your friend.
4. 4 Take the reconciliation step. The reconciliation step can be as simple as offering a hug or giving your friend a gift. Whatever you come up with, it should imply goodwill and let your friend know that you value him or her. Here are some ideas:
   • Write a beautiful letter describing why you are friends.
   • Make a batch of cookies.
   • Offer to help your friend complete some tedious task.
   • Suggest something interesting you can do together.

Part 4 of 4: Resuming Normal Relationships

1. 1 Get back to your normal relationship quickly. Return to normal as soon as possible. Don't get hung up on the fight or its flare-up. Instead, work hard to get back to your normal life and behave with your friend as if you've never had a fight. You and your friend must behave in a way that gives each other a chance to gain trust again.
2. 2 Understand when to move on. If you've sincerely tried to apologize, show your friendship, or seek help if your friend continues to reject your efforts, then it might be time to end the friendship. Someone who cannot appreciate what you are doing to try to resolve the problem, or is too angry with you to resolve the conflict, or should not have been your friend in the first place.
   • Leave the door open. Don't use this opportunity to use against every thing your friend has ever done to piss you off and really burn your bridges. Instead, let him or her know that you are sorry that the friendship is broken and that you are ready to visit him again when he is ready.

Tips

• Don't be afraid to be real. It's okay if you scream; it lets out your emotions and makes you feel a little better.
• Be mindful of what you say, because once you have said something, you cannot get your words back. It can only make him or her more angry.
• Always be completely honest. If you have a problem, discuss it in detail. Silence and speaking out in a state of anger will only lead to a new confrontation.
• Don't say what you don't mean. Stop yourself before you are about to do it and bring out your composure.
• You don't have to be the first to ask for forgiveness every time. If you feel like your friend never apologizes, you should bring it up in a calm and gentle way.
• If you know that your best friend is really awake right now because of certain things, such as sports or getting a category, for example, in science, do not annoy him that you are doing better than he is in these cases. Just cheer and congratulate your friend for their efforts, and if he asks how you are doing, then share your victory. Most likely, he will be glad for you and will be happy to celebrate your victory!
• Sometimes it doesn't work far. Give time for everything to settle down.
• If you need to help someone make peace, do it! This will help you and your friend feel good immediately afterward.
• Let your emotions show how you feel and don't be afraid to say that you regret or even break the friendship, just be yourself, and if that is not enough for him or her, he or she was not your friend in the first place.
• You should prioritize the relationship with your friend if he or she is upset. Don't blame yourself or your friend. Try to figure things out and it might help.
• A friend may seem angry with you being with another friend, but by doing so is simply making you jealous because he still wants to be your friend. They are always ready to help out and come back to you!
• An apology and an investigation into an issue does not necessarily mean that your friend will be as close to you as before. Try, of course, to get it back. You may need to send him a postcard or give him a small gift.
• Some schools have mediation programs, and they won't get any worse. If this becomes a real problem, consider asking your teacher where to find a mediator, a person to mediate, to help resolve the conflict. Colleagues mediators and school psychologists should help with this.

Warnings

• Don't let your anger get the best of you. Be aware of what you say or the opposite can make the situation worse.
• If your friend is easily hot-tempered and jealous, make sure you don't escalate the situation. Are in love with what you say.
• Containing grievances is more harmful. This can lead to mental exhaustion over time.