Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: what does it mean to you?
• Method 2 of 3: Experiencing Your Own Feelings
• Method 3 of 3: Responding to Resentment
• Tips
• Warnings

The ability to take offense easily is a bad habit and manipulative tactic that demonstrates an inability to manage your emotions and feelings. It is simply bad form to claim that someone has wronged you and not address the root cause of your anger, resentment, or feelings of offense. The problem is that such a demand does nothing to sort out your feelings and is an attempt to transcend your sacred preferences over the preferences of others. Sometimes people do things that really hurt, but even in such an extreme case, there are more productive ways to deal with them than claiming that you are constantly being bullied. Do not try to change those around you through your grievances; instead, change your vision of what is unfolding in front of you rationally and intelligently.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: what does it mean to you?

1. 1 Think about what you get from resentment. This can be a tough question, but it's really important to avoid becoming a habit. Some common reasons for feeling offended easily include:
   • The need to manage the situation or make it work in your favor. There are benefits that are often involved in managing people and that have their own paths.
   • Instant dislike of the point of view or behavior of others. Restoring your preferred point of view becomes extremely important in order to assert yourself about what matters to you.
   • Following a set of rules in your head. It helps you understand life and all its quirks. Unfortunately, the set of rules is not in the minds of others. This is yours the book of rules and how comforting it can be, so self-justifying.
   • A personality disorder, paranoid, or neurotic feeling can make you feel offended easily. This often coincides with a lack of desire to test your feelings or your own contribution to the situation.
   • Confusion of feelings with rational thinking. Easily happens in the heat, it's a pretty unforgivable rest of time. However, for some, this is the motto they live by, much to the chagrin of the people with whom they interact.
   • Your ego is a little out of control. Therefore, everything that is said should apply to you, shouldn't it?
   • You like to complain. It grabs attention and produces results, so it somehow grew into a habit.
   • You have useless topics, often related to religion, politics, nationalism, racism, sexism, death, taxes, or gender issues. Anything that does not correspond to your point of view on these topics suddenly turns out to be "offensive".
2. 2 Don't confuse the ability to take offense easily with sensitivity. You may be sensitive, but not always offended. How you react matters, not your innate personality style.

Method 2 of 3: Experiencing Your Own Feelings

1. 1 Rate your own reaction. What hurts or upsets tends to jolt the emotions and lead to overexertion. It is difficult to judge soberly, but it is very easy to react in the heat of the moment and seem offended. It is in this state that you must take every precaution not to react on the basis of emotions, because they control you, not you control the result.
   • Assess your emotions quickly. Ask yourself, "Should you hurt?" "Is it worth turning into a scandal?"
2. 2 Talk to yourself about this. Anytime you feel like you've tried not to think about it a lot but couldn't help it, chat with yourself. It sounds silly, but when you are talking to yourself, your own comfort factor is present and gives you some space to step back and reflect on your feelings.It also gives you the space to discover your own effective solutions to deal with the unique emotions that you have allowed to surface.
3. 3 Define your standards. Constantly reevaluate whether the hurt is worth the emotional drain. If you feel wary about this, consider whether the scandal has become a form of support for you, and to some extent you enjoy being the center of attention among others when you accept grievances.
   • It's not worth it if the person who hurt you, or makes you hurt, feels good about it, and you remain miserable for days, weeks, or even months. Guess who is the smartest of you - you. Show others that bad attitudes or behavior on their part has left a mark on you. On the contrary, live life with sincere joy at all times.

Method 3 of 3: Responding to Resentment

1. 1 Be open enough to admit what you just heard, saw, or discovered without going through the initial judgment. Whether it is an action, a joke, a remark, or behavior intended to offend you, it is not a starting point. The starting point is your attitude and your willingness to be open and see beyond the original facade of what happened. Being open doesn't mean you agree, agree or even skip a question, but it does allow you to find reasons or even extenuating circumstances for what happened.
   • Throughout your life, you will meet people from different walks of life. You will not get along with all of them, and some of them will have habits, beliefs and opinions that contradict your own. This does not mean that they are offensive; this means that they are different, and you must take this into account before deciding that they are disturbing your cozy little world.
   • While there are people who are cute and there are people who are mean, think about your motives. We are all nasty, and this happens from time to time due to lack of sleep, fear of rejection, stress from overwork at work, worry about a sick child, and so on. Do you know what is going on in this person's life, or do you just think that the person is behaving this way out of sheer anger towards you?
2. 2 Take an optimistic point of view. Thinking too much about things that lead you back to emotions is like a vicious circle. They will only continue to add fuel to the fire and grow more and more until you finally convince yourself that you have the right to think so bad of the person because he or she violated or upset your sacred idea.
   • Don't take too long to think about something that supposedly offended you.
   • Stop taking it all so seriously. There are things that deserve to be taken seriously, but when it comes down to them, they really aren't in the majority. You don't have to live life in a straitjacket, strictly following laws and regulations.
   • Bad investments will not bring you profit, and bad emotions will not bring you happiness.
3. 3 Use a sense of humor. Don't take the problem seriously and laugh at it instead of crying. Whenever you are offended by something, just accept the "oh, this is unpleasant, but come what may." This shows that you are calm enough to accept and not overreact to resentment, showing maturity, calmness, and courage.
4. 4 Know that most people do not intend to harm. In particular, someone who barely knows you can sometimes accidentally trigger emotions without intent. That little-known person says something that hurts you, something that really tickles you, such as a relative who died in a bad way, a job that is going badly, or a mental illness that you are suffering from. But this someone barely knows you, and has no idea that he just stepped on a mine. Cut it off abruptly.If he had known, he would not have made such a joke and did not give frivolous comments. This is evidenced by his apology and embarrassment; be supportive and accept them.
5. 5 Take a lesson from this. When you find that such jokes, words, or behavior tend to offend you, you can do the following:
   • Learn to spot possible signs and nip the topic clean.
   • Change the subject of the conversation. Learn to get off topic and instead find something more constructive to discuss or practice.
   • Participate more actively so that you have control over a situation that is unpleasant to you. For example, if a group or organization has somehow offended you, do not turn it into a helpless campaign. Instead, join the team / expert group / forum and so on, and study instead of guessing.
   • Don't be touchy. There is a common saying: "I take offense at your insult." She emphasizes the cyclical nature of resentment and how it fosters a lot of grievances and solves very little. Break this circle by being responsible for your emotions and your reactions.
6. 6 Be aware that this is a good way to share your opinions, sense of humor and ideas in order to be clear and confident, not threatening, manipulative or in control of the situation. It takes effort, but less devastating than always being on the verge of breaking down from resentment at everyone and everything.
   • Learn to disagree with dignity. It is normal to express disagreements and opposing opinions. It's all about how you say it, not the fact that you disagree or don't find a common language.
   • Self-confidence techniques can help you express your ideas and opinions without aggression, resentment, or shyness.

Tips

• Laugh at yourself. Laugh at your flaws. This will show that you are comfortable with yourself and that you are not afraid to make a laughing stock of yourself. Don't take yourself too seriously. Sometimes we take offense at the simplest things because we think too highly of ourselves. There is nothing wrong with being confident and loving yourself, but accepting the role of the center for jokes does not mean that you don’t love yourself - or that others don’t love you.
• You have more important things to do. You don't have time to waste on what others think or say about you. When you are offended, it means that you let the words of others rule your life and feelings. When you are offended, they win.
• Love yourself. There is an African proverb that says, "If there is no enemy on the inside, the enemy on the outside will not harm us," which means that if you love yourself (and your shortcomings), you have created a shield around you that no one can break. Feelings of resentment will become a thing of the past.
• Be positive if you don't want to be offended easily. Smile, be friendly, and be natural as you are at your best. Remember, you don't deserve the emotional impact of hurtful jokes / behavior.

Warnings

• Relax. Trust the people around you. Not everyone wants to hurt you.
• You are probably offended by reading about grudges. This is normal, at least you want to learn something and start digging up your weaknesses.
• There is a huge difference between your friend's harmless joke and poisonous people who literally want to harm you on purpose. Learn how to tell the difference and drive such poisonous people out of your life.