Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Ending a Romantic Relationship
• Method 2 of 3: Moving and Parting with Friends or Relatives
• Method 3 of 3: A New Beginning
• Tips

It's always difficult to part with the person you love. Perhaps the time has come to end a romantic relationship that is not working out. Or you may be moving to a new place away from close friends or relatives. Regardless of the circumstances, it will be difficult for you to move on. This article contains some tips on how to make a breakup less painful. It is important to always monitor your own emotional state.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Ending a Romantic Relationship

1. 1 Realize your love. The reason for the end of the relationship may be a move. Or you may have realized that you are not ready to spend the rest of your life with this person. Whatever the reason, it can be difficult to break up emotionally with your loved one.
   • You need to understand that despite the breakup, you can still love this person. Realize the power of the bond between you.
   • You can honor your love, but you also need to understand that sometimes love alone is not enough to maintain a relationship.
   • Perhaps the reason for leaving is the possibility of employment in another city. Also, you may simply be incompatible with a person. It's okay to love someone but feel the need to break up with them.
2. 2 Treat the person with respect. It will be very difficult for you if the intention to end the relationship comes from you. But it’s just as difficult for your partner. Try to treat him with respect and kindness.
   • Don't blame. You need to explain the reasons for the breakup, but try to avoid phrases like "This is all your fault."
   • Listen to the feelings of the other person. If you love him, you will treat him with respect and listen to the opposite point of view.
   • Remember, time heals. Right now, you both need time to grieve over the ended relationship.
3. 3 Consider friendship. Ending a romantic relationship does not oblige you to completely delete the person from your life. Perhaps over time you will be able to become friends. If you are considering this option, then tell your partner about it.
   • Find out his sincere opinion. Say "Our relationship will never be the same, but we could remain friends."
   • Do not expect an instant transition to the level of friendship. It takes time to adjust.
   • Try not to communicate for 1-2 months. Then try to gradually resume communication.
4. 4 Learn to be alone. If you've been in a relationship all the time, loneliness can be a challenge. Think about how you will live on your own. Assess your emotional and household needs.
   • You may worry about feeling anxious after the breakup. You can ask a close friend or girlfriend to be in touch in case you need to talk.
   • If you are worried about more practical issues, such as the lack of someone who can make coffee in the morning, then you need to learn to adapt. For example, you might start buying take-out coffee on your way to work.
   • List all the necessary changes. Then write down all the possible solutions that come to your mind.
5. 5 Find a support group. Parting with a loved one can be an incredible emotional experience. If you are having trouble coping with depression, anxiety, or sadness, then try to find help. You can contact the support group.
   • Conversations with people who find themselves in a similar situation will greatly help you. Find a support group near you.
   • Perhaps your spouse is a military man and he has to leave for a long time. There are groups that specialize in just such situations.
   • Ask your doctor for advice. Hospitals often have various support groups.
6. 6 Focus on the positive. At first, it will be difficult for you to discern the positive aspects, but they exist even in the most difficult situation. Reflect on how your life is changing. Write down all the possible changes for the better.
   • Despite the difficulty of ending a relationship, there are positive aspects to it. So, in the absence of a relationship, you have more opportunities for personal development.
   • You will likely develop a heightened sense of freedom and independence. Take this opportunity to focus on your own needs and desires.
   • For example, if you want to dine on popcorn and watch TV all evening, now you can do it without unnecessary worry.

Method 2 of 3: Moving and Parting with Friends or Relatives

1. 1 Have a special time together. Moving is one of the main reasons for parting with loved ones. It is always difficult to find yourself in a situation where you need to move away from close friends or relatives. Be sure to spend as much time together as possible before leaving.
   • Relationships should be a priority. Plan as many fun times as possible with your friends before you leave.
   • Have fun. You will feel sad, but that's okay. Try to create fun activities for you.
   • If you and your friend have always loved to dance, then do not forget about it. Party and dance until you leave.
   • Tune in to a frank conversation. Let the person you love know that you will be bored.
   • You could say, "Mom, I'm going to miss a lot when I leave for school. I just want you to know."
2. 2 Maintain communication. The loved one should understand how important it is for you to maintain communication. Consider different options for distance communication. You can even write traditional letters to each other.
   • You can connect a convenient mobile tariff to communicate with friends and family. You will be able to call and write messages without worrying about the account balance.
   • Schedule video calls. Are you worried that you will miss dancing improvisation with your friend? Using Facetime, call her every time you hear your favorite song.
   • Use modern technology. Chat on social media. This is the perfect moment to convince your grandmother to sign up for Facebook.
3. 3 Schedule appointments in advance. The moment of parting with loved ones is very scary, especially if you do not know when you will meet next time. To avoid this bad feeling, plan a new appointment before you leave.
   • Sit down and check your diaries. If you're saying goodbye to a group of friends you miss, invite everyone to the party and make a meeting plan.
   • Pick a couple of days that work for everyone. You will have a great time deciding the day of the next meeting, as well as the return visit of your friends so that they can see your new home.
   • If you are leaving for school, check the curriculum. Find out the right days to meet with your parents and invite them over.
4. 4 Send parcels. Parcels are a great way to connect with loved ones. You can make a plan for sending parcels in one month, and your loved ones will send a return parcel the next month. The parcels will heighten the anticipation and joy of the upcoming meeting.
   • Include time-consuming reminders in your packages. For example, if you did yoga together, send your friend a gift card from your favorite studio.
   • You can also put in crafts with your own hands. Make and send your dad his favorite cookies.
   • Think creatively. If you loved to sunbathe on the beach, you can send a small dense bag of sand from the beach in a parcel.

Method 3 of 3: A New Beginning

1. 1 Be active. Parting with a dear person is difficult. But don't forget that every medal has a downside. You will probably have more free time, so take advantage of this.
   • Find new hobbies. For example, you can enroll in a local book club.
   • Come up with ways to become a part of the local community. If you love animals, then you can volunteer at an animal shelter.
   • Find hobbies that can help you meet new people. They won't replace those you miss, but they will make you feel less lonely.
2. 2 Explore everything new. If you have moved to a new city, then go explore the surroundings. Pretend you are a tourist. Visit all the memorable places like museums and parks.
   • Find new "favorite places". What other excuse do you need to visit all the pizzerias in the area?
   • Exploring a new city will help you feel at home faster. The more familiar you are with the area, the more comfortable it will be for you to live there.
   • You have a lot to explore, even if you haven't moved. Go to a new cafe or join a different gym. You can meet new people there.
3. 3 Be patient. Give yourself time to adjust to the new environment. It will be difficult for you to get used to being away from friends and family. Be kind to yourself and understand that this is an integral part of life.
   • Don't force yourself to get used to the new environment as soon as possible. Think about the positive changes that can happen in your life.
4. 4 Be aware of your emotions. Even as you adjust to your new life, you will likely have days in which the absence of loved ones is most acute. This is fine. Pay attention to your feelings and allow yourself to experience those emotions.
   • When you feel lonely, be sure to try to connect with friends. Having a fun phone call for a couple of minutes will cheer you up.
   • Lead an active lifestyle. If you're in a bad mood, go for a walk. Physical activity and walking in the fresh air always improve your well-being.

Tips

• Focus on the relationships that matter most to you. Meet the people most dear to you and spend this time with pleasure.
• Use the breakup as an opportunity to meet new people and experience new feelings.